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writes:I fell in love with someone while i was in a troubled relationship.I decided to end the troubled relationship so i could go and start a new one with this guy i fell in love with and he was thrilled and said he was in love with me too. After a month he started acting funny and when i asked why he told me that he had a relationship before me and the girl is now pregnant with his baby. so he ended our relationship to be with her. I was devastated and still want him back.he seems to have moved on though and only talks to me occasionally or never at all. what should i do? please help . i am failing to move on.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 My guess is that he did love you...but in life, love is not enough. Children need more that just love...they need committment from their parents to the child.
I do not know if moving country is the thing to do ... becuase I do not know you well enough. What I will say is that the root of the issue will still be with you. I think it is smart to change your location, and get away from the last two relationships, but please take some time to give to yourself, and go into yourself to learn about who you are. That is the greatest gift you could ever offer your future soulmate. Yeah yeah, I know this sound goofy, but I do beleive it.
-FBK
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reader, cd206  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 I don't know whether he ever loved you or loves you still but really that's immaterial now and it's a good idea to push it out of your head. A clean break will do you the world of good!
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the replies, i really do appreciate them...ihave decided to move to another country and start over.Just get away from everything. Do you think this is a good idea? I keep wondering though....did he ever love me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answers. i really appreciate it. How can i move on from this?i am finding it really hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the replies.I guess i am in denial and just cant move on but i have realised that this one thing wont work in my favour. This may be a childish thing to ask but does this mean that this guy never loved me ever or is he just doing all this for the sake of the child. Does this mean that he has fallen in love with the childs mother all over again? was i just not important enough for him/ i still dont get all this. he wanted her to abort the child. Maybe she has done this to trap him? Is this all happeningin the name of responsibility? How do i move on from this?
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (24 May 2007):
His first responsibility is to his child.
You have been through a lot recently, but I think this is a sign.
Maybe you need to take some time out and come to terms with the guys you chose to go out with. You record has not been to great. Maybe you might want to stay out of relationships for a while, and learn more about yourself, so that you can start choosing better potential partners for yourself.
-FBK
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reader, Dinkie +, writes (24 May 2007):
he has to be there for the baby,being with his baby's mother is the rite thing for him to do. you should move on n find sum1 who doesnt have any baggage it will be better for you
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reader, cd206 +, writes (23 May 2007):
Accept that he's doing the right thing. That baby didn't ask to be born to screwed up parents who couldn't stay together but it deserves to have the chance to grow up in a two parent family. Even if he did come back to you, his baby and to a certain extent the baby's mother would always have to come first and I'm not sure you'd be able to handle that. If you're meant to be truly, it'll happen when it's supposed to happen and not before. Let him go and trust that he'll come back if it's meant to be but that right now someone else needs him more.
CD
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