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writes: can anyone tell me what does it mean when a old sex buddy who you told ages ago that you fancy him and he rejected you by saying he doesnt see you as a girlfriend , then gets a girlfriend then breaks up with her a few months later and texts you how he miss you , miss being close to you and how the sex was good but we didnt try diffrent things . then when you text saying how you dont wanna be a sex buddy but a normal mate he says whatever you want.and yet still sends dirty texts and flirting via text, and whenever i say im with a mate he says is she single as im still looking does he still want to use me as he did before till he gets a new girlfriend although i said to him i dont want to be used .
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 it took a lot of guts to do what you did. Enjoy the feeling of pride today. You EARNED it.
-FBK
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for helping me with this question so heres what i did , i texted him saying how i dont want to do this go back to being your fuck buddy like i was a few months ago , that i want more and its obviously not with him as he sees me as being a fuck buddy so i told him to delete my number and dont contact me again . anyway his reply was a simple ok so i guess he did want me for sex . thanks guys for helping me out youve been a great help thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2007): I am going through a similar situation at the moment. I met a bloke and he asked me out and then we went on a few dates and slept together quite soon. He dropped the bombshell that he didn't want a gf but that we could keep sleeping together (which we do occasionally) - the thing is I know one day he will get a gf but not me. Basically they see us a bit of fun and have no respect for us - so cut your losses as I am (even thoughI really like him)
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (23 May 2007):
The short answer is, yes. If you like him enough to want to put him to the test, and you have the strength of will power to follow through, tell him that you are not interested in having sex until you develop feelings for eachother, but that you would consider dating him for a while if he really liked you. A guy who is just after sex won't last more than a few weeks before looking elsewhere, and then you have your answer. A guy who really likes you will stick around.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (23 May 2007):
The answer is YES, he just wants to use you as he did before till he gets a new girlfriend, regardless of what you said. -FBK
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2007): Do you want just a sex buddy relationship again? Doesn't sound like it. Hun, you've been through this once already with him. He doesn't have a good track record with you. Why would you even consider allowing this same guy to treat you this way...once again. Build your strength and self-esteem here and kick his ass to the curb. Sometimes, females who have this deep desperation to attach to a guy...any guy...do things they regret later. They become blinded to the realities. Don't be one of those females. He told you a long time ago, he didn't see you as 'serious' gf material. That was your answer. You have told him...you don't want the 'sex buddy' routine anymore..then you 'know, without a doubt' he's a lousy candidate. So--why would you do this to yourself again..you have to put yourself first here. You know that he is a big 'no-no' so please don't be tempted to act out of a compulsion to take him on, once again. No matter how hard you try, he has let you know,there will be no healthy relationship forthcoming from all this. So do not even consider rushing headlong into a heartbreaking situation with him. Don't sell yourself short-you are so worth much more. Hold out for a guy who loves you and respects what you bring to the table. This guy..who wants to have his fun with you? Believe me, he'll run when another interesting prospect comes along. He's proven that to you. He is a first class loser..get him out of your life. Go find some other guy, who'll love you and give back to you.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 Yes, he does.
DV1
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