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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of 6 months has suddenly been saying that he thinks he's 'small'. I have reassured him countless times, and frankly I really don't think he is. We have a very healthy, adventurous, and great sex life, the best I've ever had, and I've told him so before. No one has ever pleased me the way he does. I've told him that he's perfect, and that I wouldn't change him. In any case, he seems to feel that my answers to his questions are "cop-out answers" or "safe answers". He thinks I'm telling his those things so I don't hurt his feelings.Part of me fears that if I can't make him believe me, that it will hurt our love life. :( If I say that I don't want him to, he'd say it's a "safe answer", if I say that I'd support him, he'd say that that means I think he's small. What can I do??
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (24 May 2007):
 He is going to beleive himself over you no matter what you do. One of the emotional needs of men is "Penis Identity". Consider what he is telling you a test or a challenge. He needs to feel that you respect his "member". Best way to do taht is the next time you have sex, pay that part of him some extra special attention. Right now, I think he needs to hear the words" "I LOVE YOUR ****!" I beleive it will change the way he thinks you feel about it. He worries that you secretly resent or reject that part of him, which for a man, means being totally rejected for everything he has to offer.
-FBK
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