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*adybird
writes:I've just recently caught my partner cheating and have thrown him out. He now says it was a big mistake and wants us to work it out. i have children from a previous relationship and they are refusing to be in the same space as him and dont like him because of all the hurt he has caused. I am very hurt still and dont feel the same although i do love him still (if that makes sense).and i would like to give it another try as he is doing his best to put things right.i just dont know what to do because of the children. They have got caught up in this and are very angry towards him do you think things will work out. Reply to this Question
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reader, DV1  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Congratulations, you made the right choice. If he cheated on you, he doesn't love you, and doesn't respect you. I think that same old: "I made a mistake" line is nothing short of bs. Getting into bed with someone is a choice. He could have chosen not to. It's a shame that your kids got involved. You don't want to breed negativity towards anything in your own house. Love your kids, and find someone else who is willing to. If your children are saying that they don't like him on their own, respect their wishes, also. You can do better.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Nope. Regardless of the trust issues, there was already a tention there becuase he is not their real dad...now it is worse.
Question: Did the kids get involved becuase YOU involved them, or becuase they were there when you kicked him out? There is a difference.
You already kicked him out. Keep it that way.
-FBK
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