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writes:what kind of women do men like?i am pretty, intelligent and fairly well educated. i am a quiet well spoken sort of person.my boyfriends ex's all seem to be loud mouthed and a little slutty with few moralshe told me he likes 'proper blondes' which leads me to believe that he is attracted to the stereotypical airheaded girl he has been with in the past. he has also told me about things he has done with these girls sexually which seems far more adventurous than i could achieve. i now cant get over this feeling that he prefers these sort of women to me and it leads me to feel insecure and diminishes my self esteemwould most men prefer to be with someone like me or them?
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reader, California760  +, writes (23 April 2010):
I'd rather be with a Smart women with morals, and not the slutty type...which sounded like what he wanted...
just be yourself..
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reader, benjy27 +, writes (7 July 2009):
Hi looking at your worries i would say that your sense of morals, if that is the right word are great and something to be admired.
I think your boyfriend needs to realizes that he has something very special in his life.
I understand your feelings of insecurity when it comes to being with someone how has had a wilder past perhaps.
I my self feel the same way.
What ever you do, don't feel that a lack of past experience is something to be ashamed.
Its something to be admired, I really hope your boy friend realizes this soon. take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): I had to reply to this question because I am blond, told Im attractive but I have it far from easy either. I was married, now divorced and I always knew my husband liked blondes with good figures. However, as soon as I got pregnant and fat, my husband had an affair with another blonde. It killed me because I thought that despite his attitude to blondes he loved me as an individual. How wrong I was, I was fine until I broke the candy on the arm mould. Ive since lost weight again and Im disgusted that all guys seem to see me as is a piece of meat. Ive cried myself to sleep many a time because I KNOW Im an intelligent principled woman and all some guys can see is a piece of ass. I could die my hair but I like it myself and wont give in just for sake of some idiot moronic guys attitudes to blondes. I have been single a long time now and Im going to hold out for a guy who is intelligent enough to see beyond hair colour. At the end of the day ladies, if you believe in yourself, have respect for yourself and know you can be fine on your own youre going to meet a fantastic guy who will love and respect you.At end of the day we're all going to get old, wrinkly and uglier but its the beauty on the insde that counts. Hold out for guy with similiar attitude. If we dont meet this guy believe in the beauty of yourself and know that you will be fine on your own. Love yourself and the rest will follow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Men want a fool girl who agrees to whatever they say,
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): it doesnt matter what colour hair or eyes a girl has, a man knows whether she's a keeper or just for the night within about 2 minutes of meeting her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): I asked myself that same question today. I am a brunette and have been with my partner for nearly 3 years. He always said he prefers brunettes however many of his ex girlfriends have all been the typical 'blonde' tanned with big breasts. Why oh why do all men seem to find this look attractive. i feel so insecure and second best. i would say i am an attractive female, with intelegence. Most definately not 'slutty' i have my morals and dont believe in acting like a lose woman. I have even had cosmetic surgery to make myself feel better and im sad to say an attempt to make my partner happy. However whenever the typical blonde appears on telly or on a night out he near enough starts salivating. i have even got to the point that if you cant beat them join them and become blonde- what on gods earth has happened. men are controlling and making us feel inadequate. At the end of the day i see it as this. (No offence to any blondes but its true) Blondes have a smutty reputation and men only look and want them for one thing only. its true that they will want a real lady because lets be frank, while they may like to look at blondes and think of only sex, who wants a partner/wife where other men are looking at them thinking the same.?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2007): it is an old saying that men like a lady on their arm who is well mannered and one they can take home to mother. in the bedroom though it is a different matter, they want a whore.i am a person of high morals myself and i go to church. i would spell it out in the beginning , first date. that you are not one for one night stands or flings. you want a friend or a faithfull partner who respects all your wishes. which is what i am going to do in my next relationship, and if they dont want my for who i am they can go elsewhere and they wernt worth bothering about in the first place.only do what you want to do and dont be forced into doing anything you will regret afterwards. my word of warning is if a man asks more than once for a sexual act and you say no.more ofter than not they go for it elsewhere.
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reader, Suzie767 +, writes (23 May 2007):
Suzie767 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks you for your replies guys,
yos, its funny you should say that but this is something that i have asked him myself "how would you like it if i said...." i didnt take it any further than this but i think i got my point across.
i think he has been hurt in a lot of his previous relationships, these girls with few morals have a propensity for cheating, and i think he has taken this out on me. the ironic thing about is that i am very faithful in relationships. i have never cheated and do all i can to avoid hurting the other person.
i guess its true what they say, nice guys do finish last
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reader, Yos  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 It does depend on the guy. Pretty, intelligent, well educated and well spoken sounds perfect to me :)
To be honest, I think that its frequently men with low self esteem who like 'airhead blondes' because they don't think they can do any better, and women like that are not a 'challenge'. This can often be subconscious, the guy won't know thats why he's doing it. That's a huge generalization I admit, but I've seen it to be true many times.
One other thing: tell him to STOP telling you the details of the sex he's had with them. That's guaranteed to make you feel insecure and insufficient. The fact he's doing it strongly suggests he's insecure and trying to show off. He's boosting his ego at the expense of yours. How do you think he would like it if you told him you had a previous boyfriend with a cock much larger than his? (which btw you should never say unless you want to create the mother of all inferiority complexes...)
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 It depends for what. The same man might like a variety of different types of women for different purposes. There are some women that are for sexual fun only, some women that a man would want to raise children with, some women that he would only make out with, and some women that he would want to spend the rest of his life with. With each new criteria, a different type is sought attractive.
-FBK
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reader, DV1 +, writes (23 May 2007):
 Every guy is different. Some guys just want someone to enjoy a night with, others want commitment. There's no general consensus on what guys what. Everyone has their own opinion. If he says that he wants a proper blond, it probably means that he likes blond girls with manners. I wouldn't read anything into it, or worry unless he gives you a reason to. Just be yourself, and if he likes you, it will work itself out.
DV1
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