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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Does anyone have an answer why guys never call their girlfriends? My boyfriend calls me once a week (when he feels like hanging out) ... and when I tell him it bothers me he saiz "But honey,if I called you all the time,what would we talk about all the time?" ... I asked few other friends, and they have the same problem.I don't want him to call me every single day,but it would be nice, to hear from him once in a while .. not only when he Needs to "do it" Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (23 May 2007):
 It is a tactic used to create drama, mystery and interest in the girlfriends so that they do not get bored of the over-affectionate boyfriends. Otherwise, the girlfriends might start to take him for granted if he calls too much.
It worked on you. You are here asking about it becuase it had it's desired effect.
-FBK
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reader, DV1 +, writes (22 May 2007):
 I do the same thing. I call a girl at max twice a week. Guys hate talking on the phone. Guys prefer to talk in person, where we can see you and appreciate the conversation. It's also about space. The way girls are today, if you give call them more than a few times, you're smothering them. If you call them a few times, you're not calling enough. Guys get sick of this, and avoid calling whenever possible. He's probably trying to give you space so that he doesn't have to hear about it later. The attitude with most guys I know is this: "Give her space, and if she wants to talk to me, she will in her own time."
DV1
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reader, stina +, writes (22 May 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
First off, not all guys are like this. At least, the ones who really care and want to be in a committed relationship. If he only calls you when he "needs to 'do it'" then I think you are in a relationship with the wrong guy. If he only calls you when he "needs to do it," then it seems to me that he is using you only for sexual gratification. He straight up told you that there was nothing to talk about, right? I think it's time to seriously evaluate where things stand in your relationship. And I suggest including him in it, too.
Take care.
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