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*rincesslou
writes:I am in my mid-twenties, happily married with a child. I am currently a mature student at college and I am head over heels madly deeply in love with my female teacher who has children older than me. She is not only beautiful outside but she's caring and understanding and a really intelligent woman. My husband knows I am bi-curious and I often have crushes on women but none have knocked me off my feet like this one. I am nearing the end of the 1st year of my 2 year course and she isn't going to teach me next year so I won't see her much at all and it's cutting me to shreads. What do I do?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (26 May 2007):
 My suggestion is first for you and your husband to set the boundaries of your relationship. Knowing you are bi-curious does not necessarily mean that he will be OK with it, although I do assume you have discussed this at length with him. Are you looking for sex, or a long term relationship with her, while maintaining your marriage to your husband? I think you can totally find a middle ground...MONOGAMY IS NOT FOR EVERYONE.
I suggest to wait until after you graduate. She might not be your teacher, but one of her colleagues will be, and she will have influence over your career in that respect. Also, career first...you may need her to write you letters of recommendation in the future for additional programs, etc...it will be harder to get if you burn the bridge through a messy break up.
-FBK
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): well i think that maybe you should talk to your husband about the situation and tell him whats on your mind and you need to think about the situation before you make any decision cause she might not feel the same and you possible do not want to ruin your marriage over just a crush and yea she wont be teaching you next year maybe thats a good thing and maybe you should just let your crush be a crush.think about your life now and your family that youve made first.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (26 May 2007):
 Nothing, you're married. If you choose to do something, end your marraige, and say goodbye to your child. If you're in love with someone else, you really don't deserve what you have now.
DV1
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