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writes:im going on holiday soon and i am still a virgin. Im going on a clubbing holiday and i really want to have sex. has any1 got any tips?
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reader, breezer +, writes (15 June 2007):
Hi mate, I personally could say that I have gone through all the clubbing holidays possible. I have been to Magalluf in Mallorca, Ibiza, Benidorm, Albufeira in Portugal even Cancun in Mexico during Springbreak. Just go there and act yourself and enjoy the holiday. I will give you a very good tip which is what you did ask for. Don't get absolutely drunk, don't get me wrong have a few drinks but keep it within control, this way you will be able to start a normal conversation with a woman. Then if the conversation turns to more, go for it. Dont think that it is a sort of meat market. If you get absolutely legless women will simply avoid you! Really just be yourself and use a condom!
Go there, play around, but once back, try to find a caring partner at home to love.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (15 June 2007):
 Don't...well go on holiday, have a great time and see what happens! If you are going to a resort famous for such noctural pursuits then you may get lucky but don't bank on it and don't base your whole holiday around hunting out targets...it will get boring and it is probably best if your first time is (a) with someone you know and (b) someone you actually like or have a relationship with...they will be sympathetic to your inexperience for one.
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reader, Banoffee +, writes (15 June 2007):
 If you want to get laid that's fine - at least you know what you want. Bear in mind though that the only things you are in control of are your actions and reactions to what happens. Neither you nor anyone else has control over what actually happens.
The reward is in the giving. Remember that and you won't go far wrong. By giving I mean giving away time, praise and affection. Enjoying the here and now is key to being attractive.
If you go with the expectation or even intention of getting laid, the chances are you won't. Why? Because no one likes someone who wants something from them. You'll appear dependent and manipulative. Take estate agents for example. Talk to them and you vomit. Try to kill them and they put you in jail.
Give without expectation of getting and you'll be surprised at what might come your way. Find someone you want, let go of all images of what you would like to happen, relax and enjoy yourself. It doesn't matter whether you get a sh*g or not.
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 harshbutfair got it pretty correct, as far as I can tell. One thing I would add:
If you aspire to bonking some girl (or guy...) don't drink too much. It makes it very difficult to get very far or do very much.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (15 June 2007):
 Ah, the biggest myth of the teen lads holiday: that everyone will get laid.
Sadly, just that: a myth.
Some of the good looking guys may get laid.
Some of the confident guys may get laid.
Some people will claim to have got laid even though they were actually too drunk/drugged up/nervous/inexperienced to actually f*** properly.
Most will be unlucky and come home frustrated. So go with an open mind and don't expect it to be a meat-market because it probably won't be. Try and meet girls who are interested in similar things to you back home and develop a relationship where you can learn about sex at your own pace.
Good luck kidda and let us know how you get on, I hope you do get lucky!!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 Look up Fast Seduction on google. It will have all the answers you seek.
-Frank B Kermit
www.franktalks.com
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