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writes:I recently visited a toy store and found a gigantic toy penis I want inside me on those fantasy days, especially when I am with my man. But, I am concerned because it is so big, oddly big, that he might get offended instead of turned on by my reactions of him thrusting me with it, as he does in my make-believe fantasies. Will he be offended? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): No, he will not be offended in the least. Actually, it's a great turn on for him.
Speaking from experience, my love introduced the "toy" to me. It was an amazing foreplay beginning to end in a great resounding "conclusion"!!!!! Yes!!! (You do get my drift?)
Girl, this too, will give your man time to get his "thing" going on. "What's going on" Whoa, I like it. What's going on!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): I think it depends on how he feels about his size. If he is comfortable with how big he is then he will probably find it exciting. If he thinks that he is too small, then he may think that you are dissatisfied with him and be hurt and worried. Remember, just because you think that his size is fine doesn't mean that he thinks the same way. He could be 7 inches long and be worried because he isn't 8 inches.
I do agree with the others that you should try it yourself. You may discover that it is too beg for you and you don't like it. In which case, no need to bring it up to him.
If you do want to use it with him, approach the subject gently, unless you are sure that he would not feel inadaquate because of your desire. The other suggestions on how to do it seem good to me.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (11 February 2008):
 We cant know if he would be offended but i can understand if he would be offended. Like DoubleM said apply it in private
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): It would be difficult to know his reaction. The biggest thing men are worried about are hurting their partner. That causes them to be a bit shy about doing some fantasy play. If he has proven himself to be understanding of your desires in the past he could be OK with your large penis. He might even have his own fantasy about doing it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 February 2008):
 You will have to ask him as not all men think alike.Take him to that toy shop and show him that thing. If he agrees then you take it home.Better to consult him first.
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reader, kat2u61  +, writes (11 February 2008):
I agree with DoubleM, try it out yourself first to see how YOU react. Once/If you're comfortable with it, leave it lying under your pillow while you're having sex and bring it into the happening when you want it. Worked like a charm for me. I don't see why he should be offended unless he has a big hangup about his own toy. If you're really unsure, talk to him (gently) about it first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): Hmm...I see this is a touchy subject. I think you should bring it up. Maybe take him on a visit to the store and bring it up and ask him if it turns him on. If this is something you're too afraid to bring up, I agree with DoubleM...buy it and try it alone.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (11 February 2008):
 How could we know if he will be offended?
You say the thing is huge - is he rather average or small as a man? If so, he might certainly think you are expressing the idea that he is not good enough even if he is ample. I possibly would, but have never had to deal with that particular confrontation. Why don't you just apply your new toy in private instead?
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