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writes:hey..it's really strange i love my boyfreind with all my heart yet i'm constantly having doubts about us due to the fact that he has hurt me in the past...all i cud think about is what he did( he started talkin to his ex while he was with me..and fooled around withme even thou he didn't like me) even thou i took him bak it still plays over and over in my head..we have been togther 2 years ever since but i don't know is it time for me to leave him and move one beacuse although i love him these doubts are causing me to hate the relationship after a while cuz i keep thinking he needs sumone like his ex not like me. what should i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): well..there are many things he did to hurt me..one when we first broke up he told his freinds that i wanted him back and i was desprate....then he went behind my back and started talking to his ex when things weren't working out between us (at least he said all he did was talk with her)...and although he didn't have feelings for me anymore he madeout with me on my birthday. his excuse was i couldn't break up with you we had too much togther..yet he would rather makeout with me eventhough he had to feelings towords me... Most of all is i had been dating him longer and he never bought me anything for my birthday and chirstmas his excuse was he had no money yet when he was dating his ex again suddenly she was getting gifts on hoildays she doesn't celebrate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): Like DoubleM said, how did he hurt you? Why did he start talking to his ex? Sorry, but i think this guy is playing mind games with you and you need to get it sorted or get out of the situation. I wouldnt be too chuffed if a guy hurt me. Let me know more about what happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): I know exaactly what your going through,he's Right,he's going to keep hurting you until you change the cycle.It depends on the relationship now, is he really trying,and is the relationship going down a better path. Constant worries play a big part, it depends on if he fooled around with her or were they just talking. Take a good look at everything step back and really look at what's going on between you two, with all the facts and everything, instead of focusing on him talking to her, there may be more,i don't know, but you can usually get a better picture from realizing what;s really going on. I've been there before insecurities can play a big part, he was wrong, totally wrong, but you have to realize what you want, if your happy or not,and constantly wondering, crying, hurting, having hatred towards him for the most part, thinking your not good, always feeling down is not good for you it's not healthy. There will be alot more hurt from that time in your life to come unless you try to make yourself happy, and make some changes. i hope this helps
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 You did not specify how he "hurt" you, but anyone who would ever hurt you is fairly likely to do so again. Period.
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