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female
age
30-35,
*ollywoodshee
writes:we have a good sex life. he worships my body and makes me feel so sexy, i literally feel like the most desirable women on the planet. however having a real orgasm is just a very rare occurance. hes big n strong n can go on and on, is ther something wrong with me? why can't i come?
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reader, kat2u61  +, writes (11 February 2008):
Are you able to have an orgasm while you masturbate? Get yourself a copy of Gael Greene's book "Delicious Sex" and get to know yourself first. You are still very young, and a lot of young women need to experiment with their own bodies before they can let others enjoy them. Just to prove it: I had my first orgasm with a man when I was 33, (I was married at 21 and had had three children by then) and I have never looked back. I know what I want and need and I go out and get it. Enjoy!!!!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 This keeps coming up again and again, but the advisors here don't mind - we just have to keep typing our advice repeatedly.
But okay, my advice to young ladies centers on two things. Masturbation and cunnilingus. I think you can find past responses using this Web site's search engine at the top of the page.
Female masturbation helps you explore your sexuality and likely find out what things will turn the lights on for you. You could also invite your man to either do it for you or assist, rather than plunging directly into intercourse every time.
The magic "switch" you are hoping to find will almost certainly involve your clitoris and it's "complex," which involves most areas of the vulva and surrounding areas. Volumes have written here and in other places online and in print.
Cunnilingus is oral stimulation of first, the lips (labia) of the vulva and eventually the clitoris and other areas if your man will do it for you.
Type that word into the search engine and there are a number of good dissertations about it. It can certainly happen for most any woman, but the way most men go about it only occasionally makes it happen, and even then, with less intensity for you than is possible. I think it's a matter of getting your man to learn and utilize much more about what makes women tick. And that's one of the issues with which many advisors here are trying to help. Best wishes.
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