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writes:So, how do you tell if a man likes you for more than just sex? When this guy i have had a short long distance relationship with(it was supposed to be a one night stand, or so i thought)and i met up last weekend, he had roses waiting for me. Granted i know that Valentines day is thursday, but i have only seen him three times total since i met him in December. We text message during the day, and he says really sweet things, and he treats me really well, offering to do things for me, and just good new realtionship manners. This is where it gets really hard. He is really mature, very good looking and awesome in bed. He has offered to move me from where i live now to where my mom lives, which i really dont understand. But if he is really so awesome, why does he want me? I know im good looking, but i have two kids, and i dont have anything to offer him but good company and love if it comes to that. Does he like me, or does he have girlfriends in every town, if you know what i mean?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (11 February 2008):
 Sounds like he is rather interested in you to me. If at least for sex and companionship on an ongoing basis, and it sounds like you seem compatible with that. Perhaps he is just extra nice about it, or maybe more. You might wish to investigate whether he is married or not if things continue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, I thought maybe so, and I don't have a lack of confidence, it's just that in my experience, i've noticed that some men will go to any lengths to make a girl feel good, and when she finally thinks that he really likes her, he just quits talking to her. Thats happened to me before, and i really dont know what to do about this one. He has definately caught my eye, you know???
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): hmm seems like he does like you he may love you im in love with a girl that has 2 kids as well i simply love her because of who she is its hard to describe i just want to be with her all the time and when we do talk it just makes me so happy he may be in a similar situation
-michael
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reader, onlinecounsellor_Dale  +, writes (11 February 2008):
 Hi
From what you have shared (e.g., his communication with you between 'hook ups', his offer to help you move, and his gift of the roses) there definitely seems to be signs that the man you are seeing is interested in you, beyond the bedroom. It is, however, always difficult to speculate on what another person is thinking or feeling.
What really moved me to respond to your post though is that you seem to place so little value on yourself. Unfortunately, even though there may be signs that he genuinely likes you, you 'disbelieve' these signs because YOU don't value you and, therefore, question why he would. If this sounds like an accurate description of what may be going on, I would encourage you to work on improving your self-esteem. Believing in your own self-worth and lovability will be critical to the success (and enjoyment) of your current relationship, and any relationships which you go on to establish in the future.
Good luck!
Dale
www.daleecounsel.com.au
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