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writes: This is getting me down... My bf says he loves recieving oral, but he just never cums... Why is this? Is it something I'm doing? Has he got a medical condition? What is it?! Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 There IS one thing you could do while giving oral that would almost guarantee his release, but I'll save that until I read from you that he really wants to do that. I'm not sure he does unless he has said so to you. You may message me at the advice column if you prefer, just click on my picture. Or reply here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): Hi huni, I'm sure you are doing nothing wrong. My boyfriend loves me giving him oral but says he don't want to cum as he sees oral as foreplay and wants this to lead to intercourse. Also he says that it feels selfish if he cums this way and he would rather see me getting pleasure out of it too (even though I do) So don't worry it's personal choice, but you should talk to him, remember communication is the key to a great relationship and sex life, ask him if there is a reason, it maybe that he doesn't realise it's getting you down.Take care X
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 February 2008):
If he climaxes other ways then he does not have a medical condition, and it is doubtful that you are doing anything wrong. If you want him to release this way, have you told him? Some men do have a mental block about it because they believe it to be too nasty and do not want someone they love or care about to do that (according to some guys who told me), even though many women enjoy it for various reasons. Many just want to give their fellow that pleasure, but if he doesn't want to, oh well . . .?
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 It's definitely not you and he probably doesn't have a medical condition. If you ask him why he doesn't ejaculate through oral stimulation (which you should) and he doesn't know but is happy to not finish, then you should be happy too. As long as he's enjoying it that's all that really counts. It doesn't mean you're bad at it or doing it wrong or anything at all. It simply means he can't come through this method. My boyfriend thinks i'm great at oral, but he's not come through that yet and i asked why, he said it's because he's worried about what i'll think if he does and he doesn't want to come in my mouth incase i dislike it etc. So really he's just thinking about me, even though he would like to cum he doesn't. To be honest though, regardless of the reason, it's not necessary for you to worry about it and i'm positive it isn't anything serious. As long as he says he likes it, he does. Don't frett about anything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): Most, if not all men love receiving oral. It's very personal thing to have a woman wrap her mouth around your todger, and shows a lot of commitment if a woman is prepared to do that.
I can only tell you that although I thoroughly enjoy the activity, there have been only two occasions in my life when I've actually reached orgasm this way. No dobt other men are different, and I don't know if I have a mental block or something, but whether I orgasm or not it's still a very pleasant sensation when done with delicacy and whether I come or not is of no real significance. I enjoy the journey far more than the arrival, if you see what I mean!
Don't stress yourself out over this, it's not that important.
Phil
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