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writes:Hi, I'm a photographer and recently got into fashion and nude art photography. I've had models who are very sexy and easy going. I'm wondering if it is right if I have sex with them and how I should figure out if they are into it without the risk of breaking our professional relationship. Any advice on this matter would be greatly appreciated. Thanks,Mosh Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): Not on job - definitely not! If you're concentrating on the model in a sexual attraction way it could detract from executing your art professionally. If the job is over and one of the models makes it clear that she is interested then that might be a different matter .. but I agree with the male responder who said 'be careful' - you would not want a complaint made against you and there is always that risk once you met in a professional capacity albeit the work relationship may be over but you know what I mean .. I know a male photog who nearly lost his job as a result of making a pass at a model - she was furious and reported him but then retracted it - it almost get very ugly all round especially when her boyfriend took it upon himself to involve himself in it all!! Also, models aren't a perk of the job it's very dodgy ground!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 As a professional advertising photographer for over 36 years now, I feel that I'm very astute about this, although I was married and faithful for 20 of those years. As both "howcomehoney" and "Somethingeasy" say here, it's a very unprofessional thing especially if you initiate it.
Even in nude or semi-nude situations, which I have been asked to shoot quite a few times because an ad was going to be a bit racy, the models are there to do their job, not to do you. For instance, a jewelry manufacturer in Dallas wanted several diamond pieces (necklaces, bracelets, rings, etc) displayed close up on various female body areas but without showing nipples or genitals or anything - just very close and sexy. Not even their faces would show.
So there I was, a married man with three naked girls running around my studio one afternoon and driving my assistant crazy. The models were very unashamed and didn't bother to dress between their sessions, which rotated all afternoon.
As the photographer trying to light and do an excellent job of capturing the needed images with style and class (kind of Playboy quality), I was too busy to think much about it. But I eventually had to send my assistant into the darkroom except when I really needed him. lol
Never, ever did I say anything untoward to any of the models - knowing that I must be professional in every way.
That being said, there were several occasions both during and after my marriage when models, not me, made obvious and very forward suggestions. When married, I smiled and politely declined saying that I was faithful.
"That would be nice," I said, "and you are very attractive, but . . ."
After the divorce about 12 years ago, yes, after the shoot was "in the can" and the job complete, I got together with a model on occasion in a different setting and at a later time, but only if the were very strongly coming on.
Then, we were two consenting adults, I figured, and it was their wish.
Take what you will from that, but be very, very careful.
Now I'm too old to worry much about it happening. lol
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (10 February 2008):
 I'm a model. If a photographer hit on me, the first thing I would do would be to tell my agency and make sure that no girls ever worked with him again. Both models and photographers are there to do a job. We are professionals. Not only that, but if you're hitting on some girl while she is doing a photoshoot which could make her uncomfortable, the pictures are going to come out very badly and your career won't last long.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (10 February 2008):
 Business and Sex dont mix well. You won't be a photographer much longer if you keep having sex with the help.
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