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Sex films and best mates

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Question - (9 February 2008) 8 Answers - (Newest, 12 February 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My wife often lets me film her perform sexual acts on herself and me. I had never considered showing them to anyone until one day she told me I could show them to my best friend aslong as I pretended she didn't know.

At first I was shocked by this. Me and my friend often watch porn together but I had never considered showing him a film of my wife.

The problem being, now she has mentioned it, I find I am really turned on by the thought of it.

I want to know if anyone else has done this and has it had repurcussions. I trust my friend not to tell anyone and I know it would really turn me on.

What if my friend thinks I'm wierd?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008):

Original poster here.

Well, after reading your advice I thought I'd talk to my wife about it. She told me that she found it a turn on, the idea of some-one being turned on by her naked body and as my friend is very trustworthy (seriously, I'd leave this guy in the room naked with my wife and still trust him) and also very very very single (I've known him 11 years and he's never had a girlfriend) that she felt it may be as much a treat for him as it is for us.

My wife has never been shy and she says that the only reason she says not to let him know she knows is more for his sake as he IS very shy. I have every reason to believe that she is telling the truth.

As I said before my main worry is my friend, after reading back what I have written I'm actually starting to think he may be gay. I have decided to put it to him as a joke and see how he reacts.

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A male reader, pyan Australia +, writes (11 February 2008):

Hi

i have done that same with my wife approval and without and yes its a great turn on. you know your mate. message me if you want to know what happend. most others dissagre

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (10 February 2008):

DoubleM agony auntNot a good idea at all unless you would like your wife to enter the porn industry and you would be sharing her with many, or at the very least, even your good friend would eventually end up telling "somebody" about what he saw and it would spread like a wildfire. Yeah, I know he is a trusted friend now, but some things are very hard to suppress forever, especially very intimate details. Would you have a problem if he eventually banged her?

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A male reader, Moviefan United States +, writes (10 February 2008):

Moviefan agony auntDon't do it, your friend might think you are wierd. And something like that gets around. It takes one person with enought tech knowledge to take that tape or dvd upload it on the computer, convert it and plaster it all over the net on sites like youtube, Vio, upload sites, forums, and the porn equivalents. And i hope you know this but there are sites just for this sort of thing. You hear about them getting shut down once in a while because someone posted revenge photos or videos or ones without the makers consent. SO dont go showing it off you will regret it.

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A female reader, chocolatetpots United Kingdom +, writes (10 February 2008):

Hi, I totally disagree with troubledtomuch's answer.

I would say your wife is being adventurous with you sex life, this is not unsual as your life progresses.

We all progress in stages, at 16 we dont know what to do, at 21 we are aware, at 30 we begin a time of 10yrs to remember and keep to ourselves, at 40 we begin to calm a little, but also between 40-50 we begin to explore the excitement we have missed out on in our early teens due to to much alcohol, dancing and sleeping it off!

I have recently turned 46 and see my sex life in a completely different light, i think of things i would normally never dream of, want to try new things to keep my sex life interesting, a few uniforms maybe, try it you never know!

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (10 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntWhen words get around or your 'movie' falls into another's hand and it gets uploaded on You Tube or in hand phones, it would be a disaster.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008):

If I were your friend I would think that it was wierd. I might think that you were wierd. I would also think that either you or your wife might be inviting me to make a move on her for sex. Be prepared for that. Does she like your best friend? Maybe she wants him to make a move. Pretending that she doesn't know would make her feel innocent. Of course, she might just like the idea that someone else is watching her and admiring her body and lovemaking ability. Sort of an ego boost. I can only guess.

Anyway, I wouldn't do it, but it is up to you. Perhaps someone else will answer who has done this sort of thing. Kind of like, but different, than people watching their spouses make porn movies, but there it is a job and they are getting paid to do it. Think about it a while and talk to her to try to find out why she wants you to do that. I would really wonder if my wife suggested that and want to find out why.

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A female reader, AskEve United Kingdom +, writes (10 February 2008):

AskEve agony auntI wouldn't go there. You're only opening up a can of worms and your friend certainly won't respect your wife for it. He'll be asking you for "a shot" of her next! Your sex life should be kept private and how do you know you can trust your friend 100% and he won't blurt it out when he's out at the pub one night?

You're going down a slippery slope here, best not go there mate, you'll only regret it if you do!

~Eve~

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