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*elthios
writes:HeyIm a 26 year old male virgin, and only got my 1st girl friend a month ago..My girl has tried giving me a handjob 4 times now, each time with her tryin until her arms go numb (30 mins to an hour), and i just don't cumI dont know if its me at fault here, or the chick, i've been wankin every day since teenage years, and not sure if that's got anything to do with it..is there anything i can do to make it easier for the chick to make me cum ?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Absolutely - most of the sensitive nerve endings in a man's penis are at or near the tip, or usually spread throughout the so-called "head." This is much different for a woman, although the majority of her sensations are concentrated in the female counterpart to the penis, her clitoris and it's small shaft. She might pay particular attention to the area just underneath the tip called the frenulum. This is typically located about where the ridge of the head comes together in a V-shape on a normal circumcised penis. Licking, kissing or gently massaging this spot should get you going.
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reader, Selthios +, writes (17 February 2008):
Selthios is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your replies, i think i have found the problem, she spends too much time on the shaft instead of the head.. will find out if thats the problem when i see her again this weekend
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reader, sexylinz  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 well my boyfriend cant ejaculate when i masterbate him either. i dont know why because he enjoys it but its something i've got used to after nearly 4 years. i dont think there is anything wrong with you or the girl. not everyone can ejaculate through masterbation. ask her to do something else for you that may satisfy you. x
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 February 2008):
My personal experience with self arousal is less, because I try to avoid doing that unless "necessary," but I believe and have read that too much masturbation can affect your sex life with women. You might want to begin limiting that activity so much and let your gal take over.
There are some techniques illustrated in various books about sexual pleasure, but my experiences have more involved intercourse and female oral. I think that masturbation and handjobs are more mental than physical, so maybe you need to work your mind while she works on you. As "didapoo" suggested, ask her to add a bit of oral stimulation, even if just licking, kissing and sucking the tip occasionally. That is pretty darn erotic and would help get me and most guys going real good. Also maybe work it between her breasts if she is fairly well endowed. That might give you some extra thrill. Good wishes.
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reader, sophie-louise  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 hiyawell i cant say im am expert, but try not to masturbate for a couple of days befor she trys giving you another handjob, i think you may find this help.unless you just dont find her attractive!go luck with that
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reader, didapoo +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Well, first, she needs to do it in a manner that feels good to you. When she does something that feels good, tell her that. If it doesn't don't act like does by any means. Grab her hand when shes doing it and show her what you like.If that doesn't help, try something else. Does oral help? Does she perform that? If yes, try swiching between the two.Hope this helpsDida
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): pardon my asking, but why is it so important that she brings you to climax while giving you the handjob? Enjoy the handjob but think of it as foreplay, until you guys do something else (like penetration or oral sex). Is it important because she wants to experience the thrill of watching you finish? In that case, you can pull out after getting oral or intercourse and then use your own hand to manually finish over her. But leave the handjob for foreplay. And if you guys are doing the handjob because you're not ready for full on sex yet - then have her start the handy, then you can finish it.(Clearly after years of doing it yourself, your penis is used to coming with your own touch).
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