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anonymous
writes:I currently live with an woman who is three times my age, I am 19, she is 58. I rent a room from her while I go to a university nearby. I have lived there for a year and a half and we have been lovers since the summer of 2007. It's just too amazing. I have had a decent amount of lovers for my age, and she is without a doubt the best I have ever had. I have experienced things with her I would never have with anyone else. Which brings me to the only two people that know about this, her friend Elaine and her husband Tom, who's company we have enjoyed. I will remember this for the rest of my life, but is it taboo? I mean she is three times my age, and what not.Let me Know ;-)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (20 February 2008):
 In some cultures it is common for the young adults to spend quality sex time with older members of the opposite sex as a kind of extended "training session" which, if you think about it, would help eliminate much of the confusion found on this Web site if that was practiced in the Western world. Would it not?
But anyway, we see all kinds of "unusual" pairings in America these days, including age difference, interracial and same sex. - even obese women with little skinny guys, ad infinitum. If two are in love and/or enjoying each other, they should enjoy themselves and ignore popular perception.
"Love knows no boundaries," and I'll dare say, neither does sexuality.
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reader, EssentiallyMe +, writes (20 February 2008):
 I am also 19 and I have been with someone who is 27 years older than me (He'll be 46 in May) for the past year and a half. It was very controversial at first, hidden from absolutely everyone. But you know... people figure things out one way or another and now most people know, and it's not even an issue anymore. No one cares. They see how happy we both are. He doesn't treat me bad, we're always together. We love each other and it's the best thing that's ever happened to me. So if you're in love, who gives a shit?!If you're worried about what others may say/think, people will always say/think things, give you dirty looks, etc. But those are going to be people who DON'T matter! Those are going to be the strangers on the street who don't know either of you. The people who really matter, family, close friends WILL accept it!! They KNOW YOU and they'll understand. :)
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (20 February 2008):
 It's funny. If a 19 year old young woman would be here writing about having an affair with a 58-year-old man, most people on here would be calling the 58-year-old a dirty old letch, and probably worse. The young woman would be described as a gold-digger, grave robber, etc. Since the shoe is on the other foot, it's all hunky dory. Just another example of the double standards that exist in our Puritan world.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 Love is beautiful.As long as your love never dies,you will see her beauty in every way.
There are no taboos unless you invent one.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 February 2008):
 "Ah Maggie I wish I'd never seen your face." I just love Rod Stewart. Also go rent the movie "Harold and Maude".
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): Hey!
It might be looked at oddly by people, but if that doesnt bother you, then there is nothing to worry about.You are both consenting adults and theres nothing wrong with two adults having sex. The one thing that worries me is that you mention her husband. Is she still married? Is he OK with you having sex with his wife?
If everyone is ok with it, then go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): Enjoy yourself! It's not taboo! Some people would frown upon this, but I say to you....enjoy yourself, learn from the experience. Best wishes to you and continue to get that education from both.... her and the university.
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