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writes:I've hooked up with this guy quite a few times and am comfortable around him, since we were friends before we started hooking up. We've had sex and he's gone down on me before [both more than once]. And he's hinted that he'd like if I went down on him. I don't mind, except that I've never given a blow job before. I told him that I haven't, and he said that he would "teach" me.Just wondering what I should do, or should i just let him teach me? I don't want to be completely clueless. Any advice? :]
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reader, cnnonyx  +, writes (20 February 2008):
You said he 'hinted' he could teach you ...
That sounds pretty fair, as in, he isnt forcing it upon you, and he has already given 'it' to you
DoubleM said it best, better not do it YET, but if you do love the guy, and want to make him happy (without sacrificing your own happiness), then give it a go.
You sound like your ready to do it - go for it, and turn it into a fun experience. See how much you can really make him smile / react / moan. If you dont like it, say no thanks, give me some time, and thats it.
Theres nothing more rewarding than seeing your partner react with ecstasy over your doings.
Finally, I think it would be most comfortable to do it with a boyfriend, in a relationship, where everyone is understanding .... than for it to just happen with some random at a party - call it your 'oral virginity'.
Do it - when you are ready - the guys sounds understanding.
Good luck :)
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reader, TeenMummy  +, writes (19 February 2008):
 I had the same problem. its nothing to be worried about look it up on the internet, or ask your close friends or even a sister. dont be ashamed to ask. because deep down no body knows what they are doing when they are doing it for the first time. also if you need time to find out infomation tell your boyfriend that you are not ready yet. but reasure him that when you are you will repay him ;). hope this helps xxx TeenMummy xxx
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (19 February 2008):
 You would better served if you did not do this at your age. Why don't you wait a year or two before just servicing some casual boyfriend, and discover these pleasures instead with someone you really care about?
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (18 February 2008):
This is really a question of how much you trust him. While guys often know what they like it is also the case that they have no idea what the experience of giving a BJ is for a woman. If you have some girlfriends who you trust enough to talk about this subject, have a girls night in with a bottle of wine and a lifelike dildo and just compare notes. Let each woman show you how she does it, use flavoured condoms on the dildo.
At least this way you will know what some different techniques are and so if your boyfriend has difficulty explaining in a way that is good for both of you, then at least you have some ideas you could try.
It is worth taking the effort to learn what you can first because I am quite sure that many women who have an unfortunate experience their first time giving a BJ then have difficulty in the future.
It is also fairly common that some women never like giving one so do not feel bad if that is how you feel after.
Do insist on good hygiene and cleanliness on his part as well. A shower before hand can be used to set the mood and make it more pleasant for you. It should be your choice and not his as to whether you want to use a condom for this and if you do there are plenty of flavoured and coloured ones to make it interesting. (even glow in the dark)
It can be a rewarding experience for you both if you just take it slow and don't try to do it all at once. Remember also that the head of his penis (the glans) is just as sensitive as your delicate bits so careful with the teeth and the pressure.
Good luck.
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reader, ifsa +, writes (18 February 2008):
 i looks like you love this guy to bits but are u sure u wanna give him a blow job if u dont wanna then tell him and if u do then let him teach u and dont be scaird to ask himhope this helps
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