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writes:Hi.I am a virgin. My boyfriend is a big guy. Will his penis be big too? What will sex for the first time feel like? I am scared I will do something wrong.Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Don't do it - Stay a Virgin until you are married. It is a sin to have sex before marriage. Reverend John
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reader, speedcat +, writes (18 February 2008):
Not all big men have large penis. Most likely it will be uncomfortable your first time even if hes not huge but youll get throught it and good luck!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Large men do not necessarily have larger than average members. Some may, but you could always ask him in advance. Average in America is about five inches in length, but length is usually not so much a concern for a smaller built woman as girth (circumference or width). As stated below, lubricants (and/or lubricated condoms) may be helpful, but be sure they are not oil-based. Obtain a water-based lubricant if needed, which is less likely to interfere with your natural vaginal environment and probably less irritating. Lubricant may not be needed at all if he takes his time to arouse you and stimulate your natural lubrication and juices below.Have your boyfriend be patient with you and take it nice and easy. There should be no hurry here, and insertion should preferably be gradual and a little at a time, with pauses, depending on your comfort with it. Do not hesitate telling your boyfriend how you are feeling, especially if there is any discomfort or pain. Hopefully, he has some experience for your first time. But do not worry much about this, it is important for you to be relaxed, comfortable and without stress or tension. From experience, I know that even petite ladies and Orientals can easily accommodate up to almost eight inches and good size if insertion is slow and easy. The entire length is not necessary if there is discomfort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): Well, there's a possibility that it might hurt - some girls feel quite a lot of pain, and others feel none at all. Personally, I didn't feel any pain at all, but everyone is different. Depending on whether you finger yourself or not, (or just in general), your vagina can be quite tight. It might help if you finger yourself a bit before attempting full on sex (or get him to finger you), by using one finger, then two, then three. Getting used to the feeling of something being up it will probably help quite a lot. Also, lots of foreplay should get you nice and wet down there, so you're nice and lubed up and ready for action! Relax, and try not to tighten up your muscles down there. Really, it'll be fine, I promise you. It should hardly hurt, and if it does, I hope that you can talk to him and tell him to stop - you should be able to if you're ready to be having sex with him, honey.So make yourselves comfortable, and have an amazing time. Good luck :]
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reader, victoria_sweethear +, writes (18 February 2008):
 it will only hurt for a little while but ull get stretched out and used to it.
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reader, Namatjira  +, writes (18 February 2008):
There is a good chance that his penis will just be normal size as there is very little relationship between the size of penis and the size of man. However as it will be your first time it is important to take it slowly and to be gentle with each other.If necessary use some lubricant like KY jelly to make everything slip and slide better. Have him use his hand on you gently. Remember that your body is designed to allow a baby to come out and no man is as big as that, so clearly everything can stretch more than enough. Just be relaxed. Don't be afraid to tell him to go slower, or even that you are not ready yet.If when he massages you down there he can get 3 fingers inside you, that is likely to be a similar feeling for you for size as when he finally penetrates you.There is very little that you can do wrong when making love for the first time so long as you take it slow and that both of you respect how the other person feels and pay attention to what feels good.Have you ever used a vibrator internally? If not, then perhaps get one and practice with it in private. You will learn more about what feels good for you, you cannot embarrass yourself or him, you will feel good, and if you choose a medium sized one will have a reasonable feeling of how he will be. In addition you will also learn how much natural lubricant your body can produce and how relaxed you can be in that area.Do not forget to use condoms as not only a protection against pregnancy but also just general protection anyway. Any guy who respects you will also respect that decision on your part so if he has a problem with it, reconsider carefully. Some guys will tell you that it makes them feel less sensitive but that just is not true if you use the extra thin ones.Good luck, and be patient.
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (18 February 2008):
 hey there...i am assuming that you are a virgin. from having sex last thursday for the first time in awhile, i would say, your feelings are normal. it will be painful after. your hymen may bleed overnight then spot for a few days or so. it is your first time, so relax, and use protection and it won't hurt to do a pregnancy test a few weeks after. i hope this helps
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