A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My bf and I have been dating for over a year. We love and care about eachother. We enjoy spending time together. We like to make out and kiss. We are both virgins. We have been talking about sex. I think we will end up doing it. We have both spoken of an interest in sex together. I have a few questions for you. I hear a lot about the negative side of sex and bad things that could happen from having sex. What are some of the benefits of having sex? What are some of the positive outcomes that would/could result in having sex with my bf? What things do you think I may enjoy that are a common part of sex? What aspects of the sexual experience do you think may bring me pleasure and be satisfying? My bf and I have not seen eachother naked. How can I know that he finds me attractive without clothes? Is there a way of knowing before getting nude? Could I give him a photo of me in the nude and see what he says? When we undress for the first time can it be fun and playful? Can you suggest an order in which to remove my clothes? Can you suggest a way in which to help remove his clothes? Can you suggest an order in which to help remove his clothes? Thank you for answering my questions.
View related questions:
both virgins Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I don't mean to be rude here, but how can you possibly be between the ages of 22 and 25 and not know the answers to any of these questions.
Virgin or not you should have cottoned onto this shit by now. I mean did you even TAKE sex-ed at school, or watch a single film with any for of sex scene and/or discussion of said act?
The benefits? Only the greatest rush of pleasure you have ever, or are likely to ever, feel in your life when done right.
Flynn 24
A
male
reader, DoubleM  +, writes (22 February 2008):
 If you are both truly virgins, sexually transmitted disease is rather unlikely, but pregnancy could certainly result from sexual intercourse. The best bet is, of course, birth control pills, which should be a regimen began at least two weeks prior to sexual activity involving intercourse. Consult your gynecologist.
The positive results of sexual activities are, of course, intense pleasure, release of tension and health. The most pleasurable experiences for you will be attaining female orgasm, but that may not occur immediately. Ultimately, the most explosive orgasms for you will likely be a result of extended foreplay, oral stimulation from your partner with patience and knowledge, and a better understanding on the part of both of you regarding your sexual hot spots. Part or most of this may be explored via masturbation, either solely or with your man's participation.
As for exposing your beauty, do not "give him a photo." Instead, strip to bare one special evening but wear a robe or other covering. Surprise him by entirely dropping that covering before him that evening with a comely smile. It should drive him up the wall, and believe me, it will be fun and playful.
Let him rip off his on clothing and jump in bed with you, although undressing him might also be fun. Just do it.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): You have a lot of questions, first I would take on the responsibility of protecting yourself against pregnancy. I think every young woman who is not married and sexually active should be on the pill and commit to taking it as prescribed, no skipping months, using extra protection if sick and taking antibiotics as this makes the pill ineffective...make an appointment with your gynocologist for an exam and to discuss your options and get a prescription....
I think sex is a way to express your love for your partner in the most intimate way and is best done when the two people are in love and in a committed relationship, much less likely to become emotionally hurt that way.....women are wired to become very bonded to their mate after having sex, men less so...so the women need to make sure they are safe in their relationship....if your man loves you, he is going to like seeing you naked, and a picture beforehand might actually spoil his surprise....Let him undress you first and then you can undress him, take the outer clothes of first in no particular order, it is up to you, shoes, shirts, pants etc....Things will go as they go once your passion kicks in, don't worry so much about the how, just be concerned about being prepared to protect yourself against unwanted pregnancy and or std's......enjoy touching and being touched and I can't think of anything about it that you won't find pleasureable as long as you communicate and if it is your first time for both, the whole experience may last only a minute! Don't let that be your opinion about the experience, it takes time to learn about how to please your partner, and the fun is in the practice!
...............................
|
