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writes:The problem is that I am 28 years old, a mature student at University, and the female students are younger than me, aged 19-23. Am I too old to date a younger female student aged 20-23? Is it morally wrong? The age gap (say I found a girlfriend aged 20) would be absolutely enormous- almost morally questionable!I am 28, certainly not a young man anymore, and am approaching middle-age. So, am I too old (in terms of maturity) to date a girl (fellow student for example) in her early 20's? And how many younger women like older men - none have shown an interest in me!Also, I am still a virgin and have never experienced sexual relationships or sexual experience.
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reader, ilb92  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 Gosh i will sound rude in this, you're 28!!! you're young, you're not middleaged!!!
Age gap relationships imo are not immoral, take a look at my family, my dad was born in 43' and my mum in 67' and seriously my dad is not a predartor as mnay people call age gappers when the male is much older than the female.
So a 9 year gap is not big!!
Go for it if you like someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): My boyfriend of 2 years is 28, and I am now 23. So obviously when we met... I was 21 and he was 26. It's a similarish age gap and we are doing okay. I shouldn't worry, as long as you are a good fit together :)
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (28 February 2008):
 What the hell?i was 19 and the girl was 30... and boy did she know what she was doing.thats not an age gap. stop worrying and get in there skippy!
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (28 February 2008):
My main concern here is that at the age of 28 you are describing yourself as someone approaching middle age.
What does that make me at 43 then, an OAP?
You are only as old as you feel and if you feel like a 20 year old the so be it. There is nothing wrong with any age gap relationship, just like there is nothing wrong with interratial relationships and nothing wrong with differant height, or differant handicap relationships.
If it feels right then go for it.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 In my opinion, six or eight years is not an "enormous" difference, and if of no concern for the young lady, why should it bother you? Personally I have dated a gal 22 years younger a few years ago, others often 10 or 15 years younger, and many older women today are dating much younger guys these days in America.
Anyway, you are hardly "approaching middle-age," which is considered to be about 50. But you may as well get used to most younger ladies "not showing an interest" in you as you get older, and you will miss sorely that. So, enjoy it if you can, and as long as you don't mind that they are usually very immature. Be young at heart always.
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reader, askmeanything! +, writes (27 February 2008):
you are still a young man! lol i duno whats wrong with you but you seem 2 picture yourself as an old man! how is sleeping with a 20 yr old woman when you are still comfortably under 30 morally questionable?! theres absolutely nothing wrong with it and most young women love older men but the reason they have not shown any interest is because you have not applied the fact that you are older into your manner in a positive way because you put yourself on a different level to them and they would naturally see you as an older guy that isnt interested in them in that way because of this...
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