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writes:how long should a nice girl wait before getting naked w/ a new boy?i'm 28 and dating again for the first time in years. my ex was the first guy i ever went 'all the way' with, and we'd been dating close to two years before we did (i was 25 when we started seeing each other).i just started seeing a great guy who i really like. he's long distance, so dates necessarily include a sleep-over, but he's been ok w/ taking the couch so far.i feel like i don't know what's 'normal' here. i sort of feel like sex should wait until you're actually in love, but it takes a while to fall in love, and the guy's really cute. plus the sleep-overs. is it weird to wait until we're in love? and if we're waiting for sex, is it weird at 28 to be ok w/ other stuff, but not w/ going 'all the way'? that seemed more normal when i was younger and still thought i'd wait until i was married.
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reader, polarkite  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 I would be "weird and ok with other stuff", until I felt I was 100% ready. Just take it slow, and trust your intuition. A good lover will respect your wishes.
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reader, qt4life223 +, writes (25 February 2008):
i believe you should wait until your ready to have sex there shouldn't be an exact time when you do have sex it should be when you and your man are both ready.
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reader, qt4life223 +, writes (25 February 2008):
i believe you should wait until your ready to have sex there shouldn't be an exact time when you do have sex it should be when you and your man are both ready.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 Hi,
It's all a case of trust, is he looking for a quick shag to move onto the next conquest? I think the answer is no as by the sounds of it he is behaving like a gentleman.
So he will not want to spoil the relationship and make you think he is after only one thing and will wait for you to let him know you're up for it.
Basically in these situations it's a case of when it feels right, you are 28 so no need to go into any rubbish about waiting till your married, and for that matter thinking you have to be in love either - there's no set rule
For me and my partner we waited about a month - not consciously though, and then bam! it just happened one night - we werent in love rather very fond of each other - the endless nights afterwards brought us a lot closer together - sex can do that!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (25 February 2008):
 I'll agree with "Laura 1318" that you are the one to decide, but in my opinion, within three to four good dates and if compatibility is obvious, the man should at least believe that he will be making love with you very soon. For many, especially your age and older, about three excellent dates is good enough to at least get very hot-and-heavy, or have sex. Still, it's up to you, but men may wander elsewhere after a few unproductive encounters these days. And I think it takes months or years to really fall in love - True, real love. Part of the path to love is mutually enjoying sexual pleasure.
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reader, jenna12 +, writes (25 February 2008):
hey girl!!
look i dont think u should wait so long to have sex with this guy but a 28 year old guy would just leave if u dunt give him any so please him with other things go down on him.,, but i think u should wait for like a month or 2 then u can sleep with him., but on the other hand he wouldnt come long distance just for sex and leave! im sure there are many girls in his hometown!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 You are an adult and there is no standards of sexual behaviors. Just follow your intuitions, for no one should judge you for what you do. That is your right.
You can have sex with anyone ,any time and anywhere you wish.Whatever you think is right , just do it.
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