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writes:This is probalbly the dumbest question there is....I found out my girlfriend of 7 years was having relations with another man. This was last April that I found out. It's almost been a year of recovery and trying my best. Well everything was fine up until today when I seen in her computer that she looked this guy up on whitepages.com. Now this girl acts likes she stands by me and I do everything I can to be the best boyfriend I can. What is she trying to do if she doesn't even know his number? Is she just trying to keep two guys forever? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): I don't think that just because she looked up his number that would mean she wants him again. Sometimes people just get curious what other people are doing. I am in the same situation, trying to work out a relationship. I was the guilty party. Me and my boyfriend were separated at the time but he still considers it cheating. I also am pregnant and he thinks the baby is the other guys. We are all pretty miserable right now. Be happy she isn't having the other guys baby and give her the benefit of the doubt until she proves she has done something really wrong. I commend you though for trying to forgive her. If you guys are getting along now then think about it before you kick her out of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): I sorry to say that if she has had her one chance to make a mistake that makes her realise that you are 'the one', and she is still somewhere lacking something that makes her look elsewhere, wether him or a new guy - then ultimately this relationship is doomed - probably with you being the hurt party. Has to be your decision but I would seriously consider moving on now.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (27 February 2008):
 My friend...the fact that she's looking this guy spell disaster for your relationship. I'm sorry, but end it. let her see what she lost by her disrespect. I may be harsh, but if shecheated with this guy before and is looking him,she's gonna do it again. Don't give her the satisfaction of messing you up. Get rid of her. I'tll be hard, but you'll be better off with someone that loves you and respects you. It's obvious she doesnt!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 What she did was not fair to you...but what you are doing is not fair to yourself. How is she suppose to respect you when you don't respect yourself? If this is not the kind of relationship you want, then BREAK UP WITH HER.
Take this as a sign she is not going to change. Knowing that, you have a choice: Accept the fact she will never be monogamous with you, or find someone else. That is what it comes down to.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008): I have to say, being a female myself, and all my life, i cannot understand why she is doing that if she has such a lovely bloke in you. some people, both male and female never know when they are well off and the grass will always be greener on the other side of the fence. I have to disagree with Devilish Angel, some people dont need more than one person and if they do then they are two timing lying cheating bastards, sorry, but i have been cheated on before and i know at first hand how much pain that can cause. You deserve better mate, have a chat with her and tell her to get him out of her life completely or she is on her own, simple. Say, its him or me. Dont put up with that crap.
take care
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reader, Lucy2118  +, writes (27 February 2008):
 I think it's time to move on, it'll hurt and you'll feel lonely but life is too short to be heart broken, what she's doing is not fair on you and if she loved you she wouldn't be doing it to you. If spilting up seems to be the last thing you want to do, maybe it's the routine of your relationship she's getting bored of, as the relationship has lasted for 7 years, try to spice things up for her in the bedroom or even cook her a romantic meal to say that you still feel love for her.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (27 February 2008):
 Some people need more than one person. Some people need to be flattered and treated like they are the greatest, most attractive person ever. Some people crave attention. That's just the way they are and noone can change them except for themselves.
Maybe you guys just aren't meant to be together because your personalities aren't compatible.
I hope you follow your heart and what makes you happy. Life is too short to waste on heartbreak.
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reader, Stuckonlove +, writes (27 February 2008):
Stuckonlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks I am figuring out the hard way.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (27 February 2008):
 Women do strange things, man. I suppose folks of any gender do, but gee, if you ever learn a way to understand females, bottle it up and I'll help to sell it worldwide - we will each retire right away to our own personal islands with 100 sirens apiece.
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