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writes: I regularly work in the evenings at my parent's family business. Of course, I get customers who are in their 20's, 30's, all ages. I'm 18, and some of the men have giving me their numbers,or myspace..or shown some sign of interest, such as asking "do you always work friday evenings?". To be nice,I message them on myspace(yes, it does lead to them giving me their number or asking to hang out. But I normally don't follow through with it). Just today, I've gotten 2 questions about asking if i work in the evenings.I mention my age, and sometimes it scares them, and sometimes they don't care. I pray that the first one would work.I don't want to be rude and not text them or message them and I do make small talk with them. But nothing further. How do I politely deny their invitation to go on a date?One of the customers gave me their numbers, I seriously do not want to pursue anything (because i have no interest in him, as well as the other guys..). Would it also be better to tell him in person, or while i have his number, text him and say I don't plan on pursuing anything at the moment and that i'm 18(senior in high school)? Thanks!!
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reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (24 February 2008):
Just tell them that they got no ticket to ride, as no doubt sex is foremost on their minds, Being a man and over the hill, and with one foot in the grave and the other foot on a banana-peeling, but I'm still far from dead sexually speaking. And getting into a woman's pants I see, Is still the best game in town.
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reader, leonard j. Douglas +, writes (24 February 2008):
Just tell them that they got no ticket to ride, as no doubt sex is foremost on their minds, Being a man and over the hill, and with one foot in the grave and the other foot on a banana-peeling, but I'm still far from dead sexually speaking. And getting into a woman's pants I see, Is still the best game in town.
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reader, leonard j. Douglas +, writes (24 February 2008):
Just tell them that they got no ticket to ride, as no doubt sex is foremost on their minds, Being a man and over the hill, and with one foot in the grave and the other foot on a banana-peeling, but I'm still far from dead sexually speaking. And getting into a woman's pants I see, Is still the best game in town.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 I loved DoubleM's advice--sounds like a good plan to me.
Don't text them or respond on myspace, silence might be the best strategy. If you see them again, you could say that your life is just so busy now with your mom and dad relying so much on you, and your work and school and most espcially your imaginary 'fella' that you just don't have time to keep up it all!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Tell him,I am flattered but I am taken or I am in a relationship.or I am seeing someone.That he is too good for you and some other girls deserved him.No! Thank you.If they give you their numbers or myspace, just accept it but you don't have to call them or chat with them on myspace if you don't want to.Just keep for record and someday it may come handy .
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reader, hello1  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Okay you need to stop taking their numbers, you have to be tougher. Who cares if you hurt their feelings?? Just say I'm already taken or say your a bit old for me, I said that line before! Just shoot them down before they get any further. If you really want to work then grow a backbone, also stop leading these guys on by texting and emailing them, you don't have to message them to say no!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 February 2008):
 This is where I tell a young lady how to discourage an older guy like myself who encounters a hot gal I would love to enjoy and entertain. lol
Here is the man's perspective: Be lonely, or hit on every possibility.
Sometimes, it may prove a worthwhile plunge, usually requiring some degree of courage, to hit on any woman when a man is attracted. Hell, I hit on just about every attractive woman in sight - from about 30 to 60, blind, crippled or crazy (that's a bit of a joke). A longtime saying where I came from.
All you need to do is simply smile and say that you have a boyfriend and tell the guy he is so nice or sweet, but you plan to stick with your fella.
Do not tell the customer that he is too old, too ugly, too fat or anything of the sort - you may hurt business that way - but simply emphasize that you "are spoken for" whether true or not. Yes, it's a while lie, but reasonably good business policy. Then think of me - I'll be sobbing all night long. lol
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (23 February 2008):
 If you do not want to go out with these guys just politely decline. You could say you don't date customers.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (23 February 2008):
 A good way is to tell them your 16, that should send them packing.
If you dont wanna do that tell them you cannot accept dates as you wanna remain professional in your business
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (23 February 2008):
 You can simply tell them that you routinely refuse customer's advances due to too many complicating factors.
Doc
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (23 February 2008):
I don't think you should message them on text or myspace at all. If they give you their number or myspace page, don't contact them. You think you are just being nice, but they think you are giving them the green light to pursue you. If they ask you out, just say oh thanks I'm really flattered but I can't. then walk away, it's a busy restaurant after all. You are allowed to say no thanks, that's not rude. You could also say I'm not dating right now, or I'm seeing someone, or I'm really sorry I'd feel strange dating a customer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): I don't like to encourage lying but you can always say you are flatterd but have someone already.
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reader, jace_mr.muffles  +, writes (23 February 2008):
i think its best not to keep his hopes up and tell him you have stuff to do like family stuff store and you need time to know them better and just say im sorry they get the deal if you say those words ! hope it goes well and if u have bf i think thats another good excuse
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reader, sue88 +, writes (23 February 2008):
why not use there (men) own lines against them, everyone hates that lol try the line "its not you , its me, i'm so sorry i didn't mean to lead you on." see how they bloody like it.
Men (not all i no) lead us girls on all the time then kick us to the kerb when they have no further interest in us, without even seeming to be bothered.
Why dont you just say your seeing someone, nothing to do with work, just say someone, you dont have to give details. when you's start a conversation just slide it in casually and really any decent person would back off.
Best of Luck let me no how you do tho, somethings a girl should share lol
Sue
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