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writes:I've been good friends with this guy for a year already, but then I had a bf. Now I'm single, me and this guy are getting more intimate and romantic.It was my first time to give him a blow job, but I've been doing it for the past 2 years with my ex. He's always wanted one as he knows me and my ex always do it but when I gave him a bj he says I don't know how to do it properly, and why do I use teeth, but I know I don't use teeth, I put my lips over it. He didn't like it and didn't cum.I don't know why, I'm using the same blowjob technique I gave my ex for 2 years and my ex liked it very much he was always cumming but this new guy doesn't like what I did. I just did the same up and down motion with my lips but he thinks I'm wrong even my handjob is wrong for him.What am I doing wrong? It used to work perfectly fine with my ex. What should I do? I want to please this new guy. thanks!
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reader, Wayward  +, writes (6 December 2008):
You're going to have to accept that he doesn't like the technique you're using, don't feel bad, afterall you just did what worked for you with your ex for so long. It's not that you're wrong, it's just not right for him.
I admire his honesty, but his delivery sucks and he's not making an effort to give any constructive feedback for you to work with. Tell him you understand he didn't like it but also you don't accept that your way is wrong it's just that everyone's different, and that he's made you feel bad by saying that and should consider your feelings more. Then ask him how he likes it done.
With his comment about your teeth. It sounds as though he has an extremely sensitive penis, so make an effort to be extra gentle with it. For example, are you sucking on it too hard? Try not sucking at all, just let your lips glide up and down it softly, barely touching it even. Get your tongue in on the action, swirl it around the tip, especially underneath. Use your hands, massage his balls and the base of the shaft. Kiss and lick up and down it. These are just ideas for you to try if he's not very forthcoming with what he likes. Maybe he doesn't know what he likes.
There's plenty of websites out there with techniques for you to try, experiment and have fun with it.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 December 2008):
 From a man's point of view, I cannot imagine criticizing a woman who is trying to pleasure me that way even if her first effort was not the best I've experienced. But at my age and dating back to the 1960s, there were first-timers and many clumsy attempts through the years. A guy should guide her, teach her by kindly suggesting this and that - and the result is eventually wonderful. I'm in full agreement with the previous advisors below - ask him to "show" you by taking his directions.
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reader, viethuni228 +, writes (5 December 2008):
Every guy is different try using a different technique. Either that or you were just bad from the get go but your boyfriend loved you so he didn't say nothing about it. He couldn't hurt your feelings. Sorry if it sounds hateful but I mean it can be either or.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): I don't really like the sound of it. Your guy complains how you pleasure him, you just started being intimate. I would be turned off by his attitude. Instead of being so negative, he could gently explain to you what he wants. How are you supposed to know. He critisize you without giving you a helpfull hand for the relationship to work
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): every guy is different, why dont you ask him what he likes? im sure he'll be happy to 'teach' you what feels right for him.
good luck xx
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