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writes:Me and my boyfriend have known eachother for 3 and a half years now, all through high school. We started going out last Valentines day, (Feb. 14, 2008) and have been having sex since the end of march. Our sex life is absolutely fantastic, as well as our whole relationship alltogether. I know it takes much longer for a woman to orgasm just from sex, than it takes for a man. I havn't yet, even though everything is perfect, it feels amazing and I truely couldn't ask for anything better. I have finished other ways, but just not from sex, I never have before. My question is, is there an estimated time, or is there a period of time for many girls that it takes to finish that way? Thanks to anyone who helps me out!=)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): It took me a long time to figure my G spot out, but I find it a lot easier to fulfil by being on top. Try it.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Only 30% of women orgasm through intercourse alone, so the chances are, you're in the 70%. Its a right bummer ey. But not the end of the world! All those blokes that tell you every one of the 10/15 women they've been with have, are either lying, or their exes were very good actresses. But I woldn't start off on the faking it road. Thats just a pointless exercise.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Hi, you're normal, something like two-thirds to three-quarters of women do not reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. Don't feel bad, don't feel guilty, don't feel pressured; it just is what it is for many of us. It doesn't mean you should stop trying, just don't feel pressured or disappointed too much.
Try some manual stimulation while you're having intercourse, depending on your position, either he can do it or you can. Make sure before you start intercourse that you are as hot and aroused as you possibly can be (DoubleM has lots of advice in that arena, go in and read some of his answers and share the knowledge with your guy).
And then just have fun!!! Sex isn't simply a race to the finish line, it's all about the journey from starting gun to the locker room. ;)
Think of the comparative anatomy; the bits that become the penis in the male form what is the clitoris in the female. The scrotal skin is analogous to the vaginal lining. And the nerve endings to all of the above work in pretty much the same way. Do men orgasm simply from having their scrotums stimulated? I'll bet very few do. So keep in mind that the clitoris is kind of like an iceberg, there's more to it than just that visible bump, it is a kind of shaft that's base is near the top of the vaginal canal; the infamous G-spot. So work out the possibilities, but don't have too many expectations, and enjoy finding out!!!
And if he's getting impatient, wanting you to hurry up and finsh already, just remind him of all that anatomy lesson, that should bore him enough and take his mind off what he's doing to give you longer to find out if you can reach climax via penetration. ;D
Have fun finding out!
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reader, sparkleworks  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Orgasm through intercourse can be a bit tricky because there are a number of factors that contribute.
First of all, not all vaginas are the same. You're probably heard of the G spot, on the front wall of the vagina. It's actually been found that some women (mainly those who have experience with orgasm through intercourse) have 'larger', more fleshy G spots, which probably have more nerve endings and so are more sensitive. Women with smaller G spots find it a LOT harder to orgasm through intercourse. I'm afraid it's just the luck of the draw.
Then of course there's the angle of penetration... try some different positions, you might find that you need to do things a different way to 'hit the spot'.
Good luck, and have fun :)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 December 2008):
 In my opinion, and based on about 46 years experience (both clumsy and eventually more determined), I'd say that about 15 to 30 minutes of proper foreplay in a romantic setting Including, kissing, groping, fingering, etc), culminating with at least 10 minutes of cunnilingus (oral stimulation of the vulva and clitoris) may result in one or more initial orgasms, with a potential follow-up during five to 10 minutes of coitus. Conversely, many if not most men can finish in under five minutes - or even much less. Some women have also adapted to finish quicker out of necessity, but why not take the time?
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