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writes:I dated this guy for several months and he still wouldnt say we were in a relationship and kept asking for sex. I didnt do him any "favors" and one day, I got really fed up with all of it and left. The thing that I dont understand is that he has so many friends and is very social but he is not a so called "player" He can get so many girls to sleep with him because he is really handsome but he told me that he only wanted to have sex with me and I found that hard to believe but who knows, maybe he did. He smokes marijuana a lot though and while he is not addicted to other drugs like acid and cocaine, he does them once in a blue moon. I still dont understand why he wants the pot more than the girls. Has anyone ever known these type of guys?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 July 2009):
 In my opinion, "hijacked_dignity" offered some excellent insight here, with emphasis on her statement, "You don't want to mess around with a guy who is into drugs anyway." I'll agree with some degree of reservation.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (21 July 2009):
 These are two very separate issues in this case. I would understand if you were in a relationship with this guy and he was blowing you off to do drugs. But this guy wasn't even really ready to commit. He kept asking you for sex because he wanted it, and only sex. Humans by nature want what they can't have. If you kept saying no to him as far as sex is concerned, it just makes him want it more with you. That's why he was focusing his energy. Maybe he's not used to girls saying no. That in mind, just because he is bent on having sex with you doesn't mean that he wants a relationship as well. He might just be in that stage during his life which he is looking for a good time. His use of drugs also suggests that he isn't all too serious about things.
Now as far as the drugs are concerned? It has nothing to do with preferring them over girls. That's just a habit that he happens to do while he's not having non-committed sex. Besides, you don't want to mess around with a guy who is into drugs anyway. It always spells bad news. Consider yourself lucky and move on from this guy.
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