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writes:I have currently met a new guy after a month after splitting with an old one.. however I feel already like were drifting apart. I felt the exact same with my ex as we rushed into it, without no good outcome.This time round I have waited over 2 months to kiss him as I thought it would be a good idea to get to know him and not to rush things seeing as I am only young and dont want it to end up turning into nothing as it did before. I hoped last time it was the elastic band theory but it wasn't. I feel like I depend on this new guy a lot and can't seem to concentrate on anything. I feel like I am becoming needy without him but i need to remain independant. also I used to smoke cannabis and have realised that this has made me paranoid. BUTwhat I need help with is how to not be so reliant on him incase it doesn't work out again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): Start reading self help relationship books NOW that you are so very young. There is a book by Dr. Laura Schlessinger called "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives." Go buy it from Amazon.com. GREAT RELATIONSIHP BOOK. You are totally dependent on things guys way to much. Maybe you have some unresolved emotional issues that need addressing. Don't go another year or so without nipping this issue that you have in the bud!! Because, I will tell you this: if you don't try curbing this problem right now...the older you get the more it will hard for you to break that bad habit, and the more likely you will end up with a guy that is no good, thus, in the end, you will be one very unhappy camper.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): I would say you need to be on your own for a while. Rushing into all these relationships isn't helping you in any way. Take some time to think about what you want in a guy, and do things on your own. Get a new outlook on life!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Do not allow guys to make you feel dependent upon them. This is up to you. You are young and some guys will try to manipulate you if you are not strong and independent. At your age, do not consider a regular boyfriend to be an absolute necessity for now - and start being selective.
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