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writes:Hello, guys! I need your help. Several questions: 1)after how long, 3 months or longer they have dated gf nd bf often have sex? 2)knowing little about sex, what should i pay attin to for the first time having sex? 3) how many sex positions nd which s good Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 1)after how long, 3 months or longer they have dated gf nd bf often have sex?
First thing I would suggest you look at is what age you can legal have sex in your country. It is different from place to place, so at least make sure that you are BOTH of a consenting age. If one of you is a minor and cannot consent, do not do it.
Assuming you are both old enough it becomes an issue of comfort. Someone people are ready for sex right away, while others want to wait. Some wait until marriage because of cultural or religious reasons. There is no right answer. If there are cultural or religious reasons for you both to wait, take them into consideration. I do not know your culture or religion, so all I can advise is that you respect the traditions that you follow.
Assuming you are both old enough, and it is within your culture and religion to do so, then it is when you both feel ready and are prepared for the responsibility that comes with sex (protection for disease and birth control).
2)knowing little about sex, what should i pay attin to for the first time having sex?
Know if she is a virgin as well, and go slow at a comfortable pace for both of you. Do not worry about a lack of skill. The best skill to have is to be enthusiastic as a love partner. Do not rush into sex like a porno. Temp your arousal with her physical pain.
3) how many sex positions nd which s good
They are all good. Some people like to be able to see each others faces during sex, while others just want to focus in on the sensation of the penetration. Try one, and if it does not feel right, try something else. In time you both will find a position or positions that give you both the most pleasures.
I wrote a book and did a recorded CD lecture for Adult Male Virgins. You can listen to free previews at my website
http://www.franktalks.com
You can also read a preview of the book.
Hope all this helps.
-Frank Kermit
Author, The Adult Male Virgin Handbook
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 We in the Western World would unlikely be familiar with any norms in China, but the right time for having sex, wherever, is up to the individuals involved. It is whenever two lovers who care about each other also want to sexually please each other.
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