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I don't know how to have an orgasm.
Q. How can i cum or orgasm when i masterbate without sticking my finger / anything else in my vagina ?...
A. 3 February 2010: Even an older man knows something about this, having raised a stepdaughter with very open communication, and from youthful experiences long ago. If masturbation can curtail actual sexual activity with a young man at this point and at your age, it ... (read in full...)
WHen does the act of sex usually end?
Q. When you have sex, when do you normally finish? once the man has an orgasm or both? thanks...
A. 3 February 2010: Once a man cums, that's about all you can expect from him for awhile unless he is very experienced. Some mature men may be able to please a woman orally afterward, but it is usually best to please the woman first, either orally, G-spot massage or ... (read in full...)
Are we damaging my cervix?
Q. Is it dangerous if my partner repeatedly hits my cervix during intercourse? its uncomfortable and sometimes painful, but the good makes up for the bad. i'm just worrying that we are doing some damage. i don't bleed and it only aches a little bit ...
A. 3 February 2010: If your partner is extra long or large, and you are petite as your online name suggests, then he should be more considerate of your comfort. Sex should be pleasurable for you, not painful or harmful. He should not have to bang against your cervix to ... (read in full...)
The Etiquette of Casual Sex!?
Q. I would appreciate only responses from people who are not going to offer their own moral judgements on the following situation... Recently, I experimented with one of the 'casual dating websites' - no really seriously at first, but then I start...
A. 3 February 2010: It may seem complicated but I think it's really simple. The agreement was for a casual encounter. You should probably just await any further communication from him, and either accept or deny as you wish. Try to make certain he is not married or ... (read in full...)
I'm loosing my virginity on my 20th birthday, ...advice needed.
Q. so in a couple of days i will be 20, and on my 20th birthday my bf is taking me away and we have discussed us sleeping together then. I am aware of the big step, but am also aware of how ready i am with him to proceed with this. He is also aware of...
A. 2 February 2010: It may not be nearly as bad as you think. So relax. If he gives you some oral stimulation first it helps a great deal. Otherwise have some water-based lubrication. And hopefully he will begin slow and gentle.... (read in full...)
I feel as if he is holding me back from finding someone that is going to be a more energetic boyfriend
Q. well this is really weird i am 19 years old and a female. i have a boyfren of a year and one month that cares so much about me but i do not feel the same. my bopyfren is an amazing friend i feel like we can b bestfrens cause he is always there for ...
A. 2 February 2010: At your apparent age, you are quite young to be much concerned about who might be a good husband and father. That would be admirable, but somewhat unusual these days. You admit already messing around for better sexual fun. I would suggest getting ... (read in full...)
I like recieving but feel uncomfortable giving. Is this weird?
Q. I let my boyfriend go down on me and touch my boobs bt i dont feel comfortable touching his penis is this weird ?...
A. 2 February 2010: Well I think it is a bit unusual. In my experience, women seem to love playing with a man's equipment. Maybe you think it's dirty/nasty or something, but any man with good hygiene and is disease-free has healthy parts to handle, suck or with which ... (read in full...)
Good songs about unrequited love?
Q. Does anyone know of any really good love songs i can listen to about an unrequited love. thanks ...
A. 1 February 2010: Most any of the songs by the late Roy Orbison, such as "Only the Lonely," "Crying," and "In Dreams." That's a start.... (read in full...)
How can I achieve orgasm, while he's on top?
Q. Ok here's one for you, How can i achive a orgasm when he's on top? I can only have one when i'm on top of him! he doesn't know, and i'm afraid to tell him, because i've been faking for awhile. But iv'e really never been able to orgasm any other way, ...
A. 1 February 2010: Indeed, "Sweet-thing" has it right. Grind, which means circular motions of course, in almost any position. Just rotate hips. This likely massages your G-spot, or at least gives pleasure in vagina, and sometimes stimulates your clit. ... (read in full...)
What's a 69'r???
Q. My boyfriend has recently asked me to perform a 69er with him but I don't know what to do :S please help ...
A. 1 February 2010: I'm not sure that you're really ready for that, but the previous responses made this clear. I know 16+ is legal in UK but please make decisions carefully.... (read in full...)
Why can't my wife orgasm through oral sex?
Q. My wife and I have been having great sex lately and we have been very adventurous with each other after many years together. We have given each other oral sex a million times and we have both enjoyed it greatly. I wanted to do something really ...
A. 1 February 2010: Your apparent age and the comment that you have engaged in mutual oral satisfaction "millions of times" would lead me to believe that your are plenty experienced. Why worry about a few times? Try different positions giving cunnilingus. There's a ... (read in full...)
I think there is a huge problem of woman simply spreading there legs and thinking that is all that is required of them.
Q. For the first 10 years of marriage my wife hasn't been sexual at all. She new absolutly nothing at all about sex and could care less about learning anything new. Of course she couldn't have an orgasm. She did do her wifely duties and would spread ...
A. 1 February 2010: You will not like my thought here. And of course, I may be wrong. It's loss of interest. Something is wrong, but we can't know what it is. My cure for this, on those occasions it did happen, has always been to massage her body, lick her lovingly ... (read in full...)
How can I achieve orgasm, while he's on top?
Q. Ok here's one for you, How can i achive a orgasm when he's on top? I can only have one when i'm on top of him! he doesn't know, and i'm afraid to tell him, because i've been faking for awhile. But iv'e really never been able to orgasm any other way, ...
A. 1 February 2010: I've found this to be true for "many" women. Some have orgasms with the cowgirl ride much more reliably than other intercourse positions. Some also have good success with doggie style if the man knows how to slide at the right angles. But with ... (read in full...)
Concerns about my clitoris...help!
Q. I have never had an overly sensitive clitoris. I do not masturbate because it does not do anything for me. I have feeling, but it is hardly pleasurable…it is more irritating (not painful) than anything else. Recently, I read somewhere that my ...
A. 31 January 2010: The advice to see a gynecologist is sound, for your own comfort. You are most likely quite normal, but probably too young and inexperienced to know much about clitoral pleasure. And I think that you are greatly overanalyzing the structure of the ... (read in full...)
He doesn't even want a bj! is he not attracted to me anymore?
Q. hey you guys. ive been wanting to try giving my boy friend **** but he just doesn't seem to want a blow job. he keeps saying he doesn't want my mouth around that thing, but i can't help but think its me. . .is he not attracted to me anymore??...
A. 31 January 2010: Some men believe that oral sex is nasty. It is not. If partners are healthy and disease-free, oral sex is nothing new and a great pleasure both ways. False religious or other incriminating views may condemn oral sex, but these are only very narrow ... (read in full...)
Why are guys insecure when they know a girl has been with a larger penis?
Q. The other night my boyfriend and I were talking about sex and he brought up his size, which I said was perfect. He then asked how he fits in size wise with past boyfriends I have been with and if I had been with larger than him. Of course he c...
A. 30 January 2010: Well he is apparently insecure. I do not think it is your responsibility to repair that, but you might say that you would never want bigger again. Or perhaps give him oral and tell him that you wouldn't do that if he was bigger. ... (read in full...)
I think there is a huge problem of woman simply spreading there legs and thinking that is all that is required of them.
Q. For the first 10 years of marriage my wife hasn't been sexual at all. She new absolutly nothing at all about sex and could care less about learning anything new. Of course she couldn't have an orgasm. She did do her wifely duties and would spread ...
A. 30 January 2010: As a man, I think that some couples are a better sex match than others. Some like only vanilla ice cream, while others like to enjoy many flavors. ... (read in full...)
I really need to spice things up in the bedroom! He refuses to give me oral sex...
Q. My hubby and I have a great relationship, but need some work in the bedroom department. Two of the things I want the most - to receive oral and to do it doggie style - are not happening at all. EVER. My husband tried oral on me once and did not ...
A. 30 January 2010: Well the truth is that enjoying giving a woman oral stimulation and satisfaction is an acquired taste. I still remember the very first time I put my face into a woman's vulva and licked. There was a musty kind of aroma and taste and it kind of took ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the frustrations of being an older virgin?
Q. I need some help here, as I am beginning to drive myself nuts with self doubt and insecurities. I am 26, and a virgin, and I feel so lonley, miserable, deprressed and frustrated, I cannot describe how horrible it feels. Everywhere I look, t...
A. 30 January 2010: I'm not suggesting that you just go out and get sex. It may have seemed so, but I do suggest that you be receptive to men - maybe even be somewhat a flirt. Do you only smile at the best looking men? Do you smile and flirt at all? You are still in ... (read in full...)
How do you feel about larger inner lips?
Q. Male and female opinions wanted - please be truthful! How do you feel about the inner lips being outside the outer by quite a fair bit? Please be honest !...
A. 29 January 2010: If I were your man, I would "feel" like licking them. You girls need to stop worrying about this silly stuff. ... (read in full...)
I really want to return the favour for my boyfriend, but I'm pretty scared to do it!
Q. Hi I need a little help, see me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years (since highschool were 20) and we both are still deep in love. We lost our virginities to each other when we were 18 and the sex is great! My boyfriend doesn't have ...
A. 29 January 2010: Do it if you want to, and for no other reason. ... (read in full...)
Would he be dissapointed if I wont perform oral sex on him
Q. I need a boys to ask me on this question. Here`s the thing; I`m little bit scared of doing blow job. Actually, I`m not absolutely sure that I want to do it, but also, I don`t have aversion or anything like that. Would my boyfriend blame me, or would...
A. 29 January 2010: My advice would be to do that only for someone you truly love, or if it is something that really turns you on. Some women find it to be extremely erotic and even a great enjoyment, just as some men also love providing oral to a woman, but in any ... (read in full...)
My labia is uneven. Is this normal?
Q. My labia is uneven, as in one side is pretty large, and the other side is small and tight. Is this a huge turn off for guys? Is there something very wrong with me?...
A. 29 January 2010: While I cannot speak for all men, the issue of labia proportion or size is the absolute last thing on my mind when with, or thinking about, my woman. That would be like deciding that, since the earth is not perfectly round, would not want to live ... (read in full...)
Should guys shave their penis?
Q. Should guys shave their penis...
A. 29 January 2010: You must be kidding!... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the frustrations of being an older virgin?
Q. I need some help here, as I am beginning to drive myself nuts with self doubt and insecurities. I am 26, and a virgin, and I feel so lonley, miserable, deprressed and frustrated, I cannot describe how horrible it feels. Everywhere I look, t...
A. 29 January 2010: My heart goes out to you, but you may not find that "someone who will appreciate your love and attention" right away. It took me many years and I still made the wrong choice, although it lasted 20 years. I'm now a lonely older man who has been used, ... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed of my body!
Q. Hey everyone i need advice and i would really appreciate it even though this is not a relationship qustion ...... I need advice on how to lose about 7 seven inches off of my waistline right now my measurements are 40ddd 36waist 44 bottom ive been ...
A. 28 January 2010: Try to walk about two miles a day, or at least every other day. One mile to start is ok. Walk fast as you can. Quit drinking soft drinks and opt for water all the time. Cut sugar, candy, junk and most fast food and you will amaze yourself in about ... (read in full...)
My husband has no desire to have sex with me...
Q. My husband does not desire to have sex with me, a few years ago. We have it , like every 3 months, if I ask. When I'm naked, he does not even look at me, not looking bad. Some extra weight, but man always looks at me, when outside. I do have a ...
A. 28 January 2010: Any of the reasons "CaringGuy' mentions could be the case. But in my experience, the other glaring possibility is simply something called 'familiarity." It is the situation whereby couples settle into "one way" to make love most of the time, ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the frustrations of being an older virgin?
Q. I need some help here, as I am beginning to drive myself nuts with self doubt and insecurities. I am 26, and a virgin, and I feel so lonley, miserable, deprressed and frustrated, I cannot describe how horrible it feels. Everywhere I look, t...
A. 28 January 2010: You should never think, "I feel I never will get the chance to." That may be the problem. A negative attitude. You do not explain why you feel this is the case. Do you believe you are less attractive? Too nerdy? Are you just overweight? Have you not ... (read in full...)
How can I spice things up in the bedroom?
Q. I been marrid 4 3yrs. And I really wanna spice up the bed room,I need sum suggestion,how can I turn him and want me BADLY besides oral,I always wantd to dance 4 him but I am horrible. He is not in to langurie. Please help me.open to new things...
A. 28 January 2010: If you eliminate mutual oral stimulation, and satisfaction, then you have eliminated a good 50 percent of the possibilities for spicing up a lifetime of sexual excitement and the delicious pleasures of the experiences. All that remains is creative ... (read in full...)
Is semen harmful if you swallow it?
Q. Hi, I have a question about cum. The past two days I gave my boyfriend a couple blowjobs and he came in my mouth. I was wondering if there is any way that that could be harmful or anything. It was the first time I ever really swallowed. And I know ...
A. 27 January 2010: Sperm is quite nutritious, rather than harmful, and if not tainted with disease. As stated previously, may contain some sugar, some salt, vitamins and minerals. To prevent too much sensitivity after ejaculation, just hold it in your mouth without ... (read in full...)
Helping Your Woman Unleash Her Inner Freak
Q. Lila here~ One of the biggest complaints I get from women (and men) in long term relationships is that the sex has become either stale or non-existent. There are lots of reasons for this: busy lives, children, work related travel, and the fact that ...
A. 26 January 2010: Must agree that is all good advice, but it doesn't have to be too wild or freaky to be totally satisfying. Loving intercourse and mutual oral satisfaction can extremely erotic and blissful.... (read in full...)
I went too far with him on our first date, now I am worried if it made him think less of me
Q. Hello guys!! I have a question: I went out on a date with a guy I met at my college. At first I didn't even want to go out with him although i liked hiom because I had a huge crush on someone else. But when we went out I had an amazing time with...
A. 26 January 2010: Well, not all guys are the same. If it makes you feel any better, I later ended up getting married to two young women (different times of course) with whom I had sex on our first dates. Granted, both marriages eventually ended, but the demise had ... (read in full...)
My son's 18 year old friend wants to have sex with me - I'm 45! What do I do?
Q. I'm a 45 year old woman and I have a eighteen year old son. My son has a friend who is also eighteen. Yesterday I found out he is possibly going to Iraq within a month. He told me he's had a huge crush on me and that he wanted to have sex with me ...
A. 26 January 2010: What a mix of responses here, but it brings out my permissive nature. If you are unmarried, unattached or even if in a failed relationship, then my own past life cannot allow me to find fault in such an experience for either of you. As a young man I ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel like peeing during sex?
Q. While having sex, i have this great urge of peeing.. is it normal? Never had orgasm before, so was wonderin if tat might hinder it.. thanks...
A. 26 January 2010: According to numerous well documented studies over many years, all the way back to Masters & Johnson, this urge is quite normal, especially for young women (or any woman) who has never experienced orgasm.
As advised previously here, take care of u... (read in full...)
I want to try cunnilingus but my wife isn't interested. Any ideas on how I can bring her around?
Q. Hi, I want to try cunnilingus but my wife thinks its 'dirty'. The problem is it really turns me on. What do I do?...
A. 26 January 2010: Well I cannot agree that tricking her into something that she says is unpleasant to her is the way to go. In my opinion, a woman needs to be at least somewhat receptive. In my personal experience, I cannot recall much (or any) objection, but I would ... (read in full...)
Why Women Can’t Separate Sex from Love
Q. Lila here~. The truth is, most women genuinely cannot separate sex from love. Even in our post feminist, equal opportunity culture, women are still hard-wired to expect love and sex to be combined. Heck, I was talking to a stripper about b...
A. 25 January 2010: Ok, I can agree, "heather108", that the "commitment" can be only temporary and agreed upon going in, but it is still, or should be, a commitment during the relationship unless understood otherwise. Just my opinion. Temporary sexual relationships are ... (read in full...)
Mechanics of male orgasm/ejaculation. What is going on for you?
Q. Some possibly weird questions for the guys here that a couple of recent incidents have had me wondering about ... I have asked my own man all this stuff by the way, but he is one man, I am curious aboout consistencies and contrasts experi...
A. 25 January 2010: Well I'm still not quite sure what you're wanting to know. In my personal experience there has never been an instance where I've reached the "point of inevitability" without a resulting completion, but I suppose it could happen to some men.
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Mechanics of male orgasm/ejaculation. What is going on for you?
Q. Some possibly weird questions for the guys here that a couple of recent incidents have had me wondering about ... I have asked my own man all this stuff by the way, but he is one man, I am curious aboout consistencies and contrasts experi...
A. 24 January 2010: You seem to be very scientific about this. As a female, you seem extremely interested in male ejaculation. Well ok, this can largely depend on the man and other factors. Basically, just prior to release, there is a strong feeling in the balls that ... (read in full...)
My mind is consumed with what she claims was drunken sex romp!
Q. So I met this girl at a party a while back and we hit it off super well. And we started hanging out.. a lot. We spent a lot of time together and were messing around, we hadn't had sex for the first 2 weeks that we hung out (On my call, she wanted it ...
A. 24 January 2010: My opinion is that the girl is simply having a good time. And you are taking it too seriously. Enjoy the sex and move on as necessary. ... (read in full...)
Why Women Can’t Separate Sex from Love
Q. Lila here~. The truth is, most women genuinely cannot separate sex from love. Even in our post feminist, equal opportunity culture, women are still hard-wired to expect love and sex to be combined. Heck, I was talking to a stripper about b...
A. 23 January 2010: You have always seemed to have good insight "oldersister" and are correct that young women contribute to the response they have from men. I think that's what you mean. In other words, as long as women will cater to the men, then the men will take ... (read in full...)
Tantric sex...
Q. Tantric sex I'm interested in experimenting with it, what does it entail, can anyone give me any advice or point me to any websites that will help me? thanks...
A. 23 January 2010: In the simplest terms, it is a melding of love and sexual pleasures in a spiritual way with your being and with your partner. In essence, partners become one. ... (read in full...)
Why Women Can’t Separate Sex from Love
Q. Lila here~. The truth is, most women genuinely cannot separate sex from love. Even in our post feminist, equal opportunity culture, women are still hard-wired to expect love and sex to be combined. Heck, I was talking to a stripper about b...
A. 21 January 2010: You are quite right, in fact, perhaps MOST men have no such feeling about love and sex being necessary ingredients in the recipe of mutual happiness. But some men do, and you can find him. In my case, my age eliminates most possibilities, but your ... (read in full...)
Why Women Can’t Separate Sex from Love
Q. Lila here~. The truth is, most women genuinely cannot separate sex from love. Even in our post feminist, equal opportunity culture, women are still hard-wired to expect love and sex to be combined. Heck, I was talking to a stripper about b...
A. 20 January 2010: To your possible surprise, a positive answer from a man. Of course you are right, love and sex are meant to be synonymous. Each is part of the whole, and the same. One without the other is incomplete. You just need a better man. ... (read in full...)
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