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*ilopinoPhenom
writes:Why cant the porn I watch on the internet get me hard like before? When my girlfriend said she was gunna give me handjobs and blowjobs I just stopped getting really hard when I watch porn. Why is this? and will eating bananas and fish help my erections too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): I'm 51, my guy is 50. I'm not sure why, but he doesn't get an erection during felatio. I'm almost certain it's him and not me. I have known other men who absolutely love my form, shall we say. I tried it twice with him. The first time he barely got hard. The next time, he seemed to enjoy it, but still no erection. I know he's tired on most nights but still, can that be the reason he doesn't get an erection? Until now, I thought all men were helpless when receiving oral sex. What is going on? Is my guy too tired, or what?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 There may be a medical reason for your symptoms. Go get checked out by your doctor. High blood pressure, diabetes, vascular disease, drugs, hormonal imbalances are just a few possibilities.
Take care.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 December 2009):
 Based on the original posting, I still suggest that the reason FilopinoPhenom "stopped getting really hard when" watching porn is likely a case of over exposure. There is so much of it, and so much that is distasteful rather than erotic, that one can easily become desensitized.
As one who strongly believes in freedom of speech and expression, I could not possibly declare that depictions of people making love, or enjoying sex, unless violently, is at all evil. It can even be sensual and artistic, although I think that pornography "as art" is a rarity.
The opinion I expressed is based on personal experience, along with that of others according to well-known studies. When I was coming of age, and throughout half my life, the availability of explicit pornography was a rarity. The only easily available sexual stimulation was either reality or imagination. Yet today, one can find depictions of people doing almost anything imaginable, and in great volume. In my opinion, it can easily result in sensory overload.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (10 December 2009):
 I want to clarify my post a little...
the brain is of course the organ behind all sex as, for men, it wouldn't be possible to get erect without a consciousness ... just like it wouldn't be living without a consciousness either. In fact, you'd be basically dead.
What I meant was that, for men, the act of sex alone is extremely arousing and the brain can actually interfere! Thinking about something else during sex instead of not thinking has actually caused me erections before. For men, it is best for the brain to be off. Women, on the other hand, love the idea of the sex they are having and they actually emotionally get the sense of feeling closer to their partner. Hence the brain is a bigger sex organ for them.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (10 December 2009):
satin, you are right about the biggest sex organ being the brain... for women. Men work a lot, lot simpler than that. It's, for the most part, stroke and repeat.
I think we are misinterpretation what he is saying, as well. I read it as him saying that now his girlfriend was going to give him handjobs and blowjobs, he can no longer get hard watching porn. To me, I interpret that problem as he can't get hard with the porn because he's thinking about the hj or bj he could get/will be getting. In other words, I think you are getting distracted thinking about hjs and bjs while trying to masturbate to porn.
Porn is not evil! Yes, you can become addicted to it, but I think that is hardly your case.
As for the things about bananas and fish? Highly unlikely they do anything themselves, but your diet overall does have an impact on your performance (stamina, etc.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): Stop watching porn, thats just what he does you cant tell him to stop watching porn? Thats like saying when YOU masterbate stop masterbating. LOL sorry but do you really think he will stop?
Love, lilly
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 December 2009):
Because reality is always much better than fantasy, but if you become addicted to endless streams of pornography rather than natural stimulation, you may also create problems having any kind of sexual relief. Get off the porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): stop looking at porn, because when you see those guys with their masts at full glory and your unconcious mind compares theirs to what you have got you feel inferior and fail to achieve full mast.stop watching porn and you will be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): Do you find her unatractive? So maybe when she said she would give you hand jobs you found her unatractive or your just nervous for her to be there when you jack off and watch porn? I dont know maybe something else. Thats for you to figure out.
Love,
Lilly
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