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writes:Hi, my new bf wants to have sex doggy style and he keeps asking me. I haven't done it like that before (it just never appealed to me and my last bf preferred other positions) but my new bf seems to really want it. I told him i didnt like that positon (which was lying because i've never done it) but actually would like to try it with him bcause i love him. Does anyone have any tips so that i dont seem like an amateur when doing it. btw i dont mean anal i just mean from behind. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom  +, writes (10 December 2009):
So why can't you just be up-front about it? Tell him, "I've never tried it that way because it's just not mentally appealing to me. But I'm willing to have a go at it, at least a couple of times, if it's something that you enjoy. Just promise that if I don't like it and ask you to stop, that you'll respect my wishes."
With your chest down and ass up it allows for some deep penetration, which some women find enjoyable and others find painful. You may enjoy feeling his hand (or yours) playing with your genitals - which are more accessible in this position than many others. The lack of face-to-face intimacy may be something of a turn-off - or the anonymity may be a turn-on. I read one woman describe it as a "deliciously slutty" feeling to not see her partner, having him take control by grabbing her hips, controlling the rate and depth of stroking, and using her body for his pleasure.
He may enjoy the visual impression of your upturned butt - always makes me think of a Valentine's heart being offered to me. He may also enjoy grabbing your hips and pushing them back and forth to get the depth and rate of stroking he desires. Or, he may enjoy reaching around and fingering your lips and clit - especially if he can feel the contractions of your orgasm while he's inside you.
Of the rear-entry positions, my favorite is spoons. I enjoy doggy position as an occasional variant, though it's not conducive to post-coital cuddling unless you can shift into a spoons position (or perhaps him laying full-length on top of you, both of you face-down) without becoming uncoupled.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (8 December 2009):
 Most guys will enjoy the ego trip of being the first to do something with you so dont be shy telling him you have not done it this way before - he will be likely to love the idea of being your 'teacher' so to speak.
I agree with those saying it is a great position - for both partners. It will feel nicer for you if you arch your back slightly whilst on all fours as his penis will be more likely to be making good contact with your G spot, ...but most guys (in my observations)seem to like it if you drop your chest to lie on the bed (or whatever your doing it on) whilst keeping your butt up and leaning back in to them. Perhaps try mixing both up to note the difference to yourself and also the reactions from him.
As for the guy above saying air get's pushed in making embarrassing noises, ... I have to say - Not exactly encouraging worda and what a load of bull to boot. It has never happened to me in ANY position so please don't go in to it with a expectation that you will end up embarrassed in the process. I suspect that sort of thing may only be due to the respective 'sizes' of both partners and if they are compatible with each other. If it has not happened to you in other positions I can't see why it would in doggy. If it has happened to you in other positions, well, all good then, you have been there done that and nothing new to be putting you off the idea of trying it.
Have Fun :-)
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reader, duce00 +, writes (8 December 2009):
 I think doggy is great personally. It does lack the intimacy of being able to kiss and fondle that missionary provides but for sheer penetration and wild abandon value it is a definite winner.
You can also reach under and rub yourself while he is in you which is a little harder with missionary. This makes it a great orgasm position for a well versed woman in my experience.
Start slow and keep him in check. Talk to him and be vocal when it is right. If he is even a little sensitive to you he will catch on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): Oh hun just talk to him, tell him this is new to you and if you want to try it then let him know. For most girls this is their favorite. Try something new you might like it...it may be fun and very pleasurable for you.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 December 2009):
 How can you be so sure you don't like it if you've never tried it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): i used to feel the same way, i kinda do still feel like that, but i feel more comfortable doing it in the dark, so maybe try that first and see how u feel bout it.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Only thing you girls forgot to mention is that this position can pump a lot of air into her. The air will escape easily, with some rather embarrassing sounds. Of course if he is experienced with this position he won't be surprised.
FA
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reader, Araelia V +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Okay,
Simple facts, it's always better in this position when you want to do it.
Relax and enjoy it because it's not everyones cup of tea. Don't force it because if you do you wont enjoy it because it will hurt. Tell him if you want him to change what he's doing e.g speed or forcefulness. Don't feel intimidated to do so because it's natural to try and guide someone to do something better for you. Forplay is usually good before you do this because natural lubrication is always better than the manufactured ones.
Hope i helped,
Araelia V
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): I agree with the above response. Tell him you haven't done it before, just like you told us - it hasn't appealed to you and you've always done other preferred positions before. that way, he can lead the way, you won't feel so nervous or uncomfortable by doing something new but pretending you've done it before. You will relax more into it and may enjoy it too!
He'll appreciate your honesty and he may find it more enjoyable -he may see it as an ego boost, that you're willing to try something new with and for him.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Let him know that this is new territory for you. Trust me, girlfriend, the position is a great one (my fave), and as long as you feel fine communicating to him, you should have a comfortable experience. It is a position that he can get quite deep into you, so let him know if you get uncomfortable.
As long as you're open enough to talk with him, you should have a fine experience. Good luck, sweetness!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): Tell him you've never done it before. Thats the mature way to go about this. Then you can be as much amateur as you are and he can help you out instead. But here's a few tips anyway: Get down on all four, arch your back so that your bum sticks out and lower your head (easier access for some guys, but that really depends on the guy and your body). Spread your legs to get as low as you need to match him (he'll be on his knees unless he places you on a table or something...) Then let him do the rest, this position is mostly for you to enjoy ;)
PS. most girls I talk to, me included, have this position as their favorite because of the pleasure.
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