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writes:hi there, so my delema is this, i met this beautiful girl and she was pregnant, the father was waaay out of the picture, and i could not help but fall for this girl. she had a beutiful baby boy, whom is my world, and see him as my own, he is now 5 months old, and we are pregnant with second.the delema is this,... being pregnant has left my girlfriends sex drive to nothing at all, completly un interested. im a 21 year old make, so my labito is threw the roof, not to mention i cant look at her without a flood of dirty thoughts! what i need to know is how,.. if at all i could make myself less horny, the cold shower thig worked the first week,... but quickly lost its effect. so im looking for a more long term selution. if theres an answer out there please tell me. i dont want her to think that the only reason im in this relationship is for sex., witch im positive it must seem that way to herthanksjake
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Try telling her that you are so horny all the time when you see her you dont know what to do.. Ask her what SHE suggests. You may be surprised
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reader, jake roads +, writes (13 December 2009):
jake roads is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys thanks for the advice. but unfortunatly the thing is.... i do all those things... i massage her back every nite, i get up with my little guy all the time, i clean and cook... im not saying she doesnt do it haha but i do everything i can to let her just sit back and relax.. so the only problem is my over active sex drive. she refuses to touch me. and its quite frustrating to be honest. i just want my labito gone before i go 7 more months of frustration that could turn into resentment
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (13 December 2009):
 In my opinion, CellarDoor89 said it very well. If she is worth it for the long term, you simply may have to wait for the better times.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (13 December 2009):
pregnancy is a time when many women are hot for sex. In your girls case, maybe she is tired from caring for the baby as well as the pregnancy. It takes a huge toll on your body to be pregnant this quick after the first. I recommend that she starts taking her pregnant multivitamins and increases fruit and veg in her diet. It would be nice if you could take a bigger load to clean up your home and help with the baby, especially in the evenings. You can even tell her Tuesdays and Thursdays are your days to clean up and she mustn't lift a finger. That would blow her mind. Next thing, compliment her on her pregnant figure as often as you can because she has people saying oh but you are always pregnant!!. Maybe try also get a loving grandparent or baby sitter to take the other baby for a few hours while you take her out for an icecream or something and maybe some lovemaking. When you are out with her in public, act like you are proud of her to build her self esteem. Being pregnant for two years is tough on any woman. And you are such a wonderful guy, well done! But if all fails, just hang in there and jack off some!!! You know it will pass soon and your patience will pay off.
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reader, beentheretoo +, writes (13 December 2009):
She's probably just overwhelmed. A 5 month old and now pregnant again? What woman would not be overwhelmed? Just having a new baby can make women depressed with the hormones going crazy, trying to get back to normal and then now the hormones are flipped upside down again.
Be loving, be patient. No, she shouldn't think you are in it only for sex. Hopefully she isn't saying mean things but when women get that hormonal on top of hormonal, they can say things they don't really mean from their hearts.
Give her a nice massage, tell her how much you love her. Tell her how beautiful she is and how happy you are with your family. And be patient.
And just so you know, many, many women get super high libidos when they are pregnant.
Make sure she has fantastic orgasms and pamper her and you will make it through this hormonal time. Orgasm really, really bonds a woman to a man.
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reader, CellarDoor89 +, writes (13 December 2009):
 Hey Jake, so Im pretty sure that there isnt any sure fire remedy to cool your desires, and it may sound lame to say this but I think the biggest thing is patience. If you really love this girl and enjoy being around the son then I think thats huge and she will see that too. Try and do some romantic things without too much of the physical stuff. I know, I know easier said than done. But even these small things she will see and pick up on. Take her out to a nice dinner here and there, bring her flowers and do these things without anything expected in return. Do these things and hopefully the physically will eventually follow. You sound like a pretty solid good hearted guy. Stick with it, and she should stick with you. Good luck.
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