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Why does husband need to masturbate when I'm home?
Q. I have caught my husband masterbating and i'm wondering if there is something wrong with our sex life why do he feel he needs to do that when i'm in the house? I can see us doing it together or me watching but, he is doing it without me when i'm in ...
A. 9 January 2010: Even when married, partners will also spend some occasional time privately masturbating. If you never masturbate at all, I think it would be unusual. In my opinion, some masturbation alone by married partners does not portend a problem.
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Are there certain times of the month where she might not get pregnant?
Q. Ok I really need to know. My girlfriend told me she was on the pill so we decided not to use condoms because she doesnt like the fell of them or something. Wel anyway a few days after we did it my girlfriend confessed to me that she had forgot to ...
A. 9 January 2010: First of all, I think that you would be wise to study about sexuality and human biology before you ever get an erection again and do anything other that masturbate. But to answer, the least likely times are during her menstruation and a few days ... (read in full...)
It scares me that I am thinking of sleeping with someone other than my wife!
Q. hello all, i pretty much no the answers to the question i am going to ask, but i spose i want some reasurance that i am right. for the past 3 months or so my wife and i have only had sex twice. this is playing on my mind big time as to me she is a...
A. 9 January 2010: Ride this out, and become her love and support. It sounds like she is facing the same trials as you with family. Be her rock of courage. Bear the brunt of your difficulties as partners, and in near time I'll bet intimacy will return, perhaps better ... (read in full...)
Married a year and only had sex twice!
Q. my husband and i have been married less than a year and im starting to regret marrying him, we rarely have sex in fact we only had sex twice last year and once the year before that. The thing is he spent the best part of four years cheating on me ...
A. 9 January 2010: Well, "softtouchmale2003" said it extremely well, in my opinion. I'm still trying to figure out why young women in England and elsewhere are screwing around with any horny bastard their age, and with little to no love, caring or commitment. Why not ... (read in full...)
When I touch myself I have to go pee
Q. Whenever I touch my clit and get really horny and just keep circling it and touching it I have to pee. I'm not talkin abou g spot, I'm talking about my clit. I even went into the bathroom to see if it was cum or if it was pee, and it was definitely ...
A. 9 January 2010: I still don't think you should worry about it. If you have not yet had sexual contact with a man, then it may simply be raging hormones and desire. It's normal at your age, especially.
You may be a "squirter," however, which may be a very wond... (read in full...)
Can Impotence be Caused by Emotional Problems?
Q. Do you know anything about impotence caused by Emotional Problems? My husband is impotent and we don't know why. Now ,they checked out everything medically, but no answer to the question. Why is he impotent? So ,he gets an erection,not very long, ...
A. 8 January 2010: Many possible causes, and emotional and stress can be included.... (read in full...)
When I touch myself I have to go pee
Q. Whenever I touch my clit and get really horny and just keep circling it and touching it I have to pee. I'm not talkin abou g spot, I'm talking about my clit. I even went into the bathroom to see if it was cum or if it was pee, and it was definitely ...
A. 8 January 2010: I think that "pinktopaz" said it well. This is a very normal sensation, and men fell much the same until we finally learn that the feeling is different. Just pee first, then the sensation will mean pending orgasm.... (read in full...)
Losing virginity to stranger?
Q. I'm a female and I'm 18 and a virgin. I was recently on craigslist because i want to find some one to have sex with me. I'm sick of being a virgin cause I'm always horny and i just can't take it anymore. So is it wrong to lose your virginity to a ...
A. 8 January 2010: One other thing. Whether you surrender your virginity to a "stranger" or to someone you know better, your first experiences will unlikely result in much sexual satisfaction. In other words, it will not be some magic cure for your desires. Most young ... (read in full...)
Losing virginity to stranger?
Q. I'm a female and I'm 18 and a virgin. I was recently on craigslist because i want to find some one to have sex with me. I'm sick of being a virgin cause I'm always horny and i just can't take it anymore. So is it wrong to lose your virginity to a ...
A. 8 January 2010: In my opinion, you should be more cautious than to use CraigsList. Why not spend a few evenings at a local club, or most anywhere similar, and allow either young or older men to approach you. Be friendly and possibly flirtatious. At least you can ... (read in full...)
Has it slipped his mind that I hate noisy bars and clubs? Why is he asking me to go there?
Q. I recently started dating someone who seems really nice and compatible, and things have gone really well between us so far. We've both admitted that we're starting to establish a real emotional connection, plus genuinely good chemistry, etc. ...
A. 7 January 2010: Just tell him that such a place is definitely not to your liking. There are likely quieter and more peaceful dance venues somewhere. Dancing is lovely, but you will compromise only to a certain extent. If that is not good enough for him, then ... (read in full...)
Hubby not interested in sex anymore??
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point, Ive been with my hubby for 20 years, he's 42 and I'm 36, the first 15 years together he couldn't get enough of me, then I started to do shift work and he said he got "lonely" and met some girl at the supermarket ...
A. 7 January 2010: "If your mate came to you and said, "Geez I wish the wife didn't want sex all the time?" How would you answer him?"
Hmmm. My response might be, "Wow! Such a bummer! Say, what time do you leave for work in the morning?" ... (read in full...)
Why do guys push the girls head down while she's giving him a blowjob?
Q. I have a question for guys. Why do you push a girls head farther down while they're giving you head? does it feel good or is it just like, there? My boyfriend does that (i've only given him head twice) and it makes me gag sometimes. and i heard a ...
A. 7 January 2010: In my opinion, it must be some kind of meanness or a power trip. You should never see the bastard again. Better yet, report to the police his sex acts with an underage teen, and you girlfriends should do the same.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to have an orgasm
Q. hi me an my boyfriend have been having sex together for about 3 months. the problem is ive never had an orgasm. i know it sounds stupid, but i dont know how 2 have one! i can never feel like im about to have an orgasm or that anythings going 2...
A. 5 January 2010: While I agree that sexual arousal is largely in the mind, and that masturbation helps teach you what works, the key to a man bringing a woman to orgasm has to do with mood, foreplay, anticipation, stimulation and follow through. The mood, of course, ... (read in full...)
How do you play without hurting them?
Q. hey im not much expreineced with giving head and i just want to know as i hear that its good to play with guys balls but there really sensitive how do i play with them without hurting them and wat do you mean when u say playing with the guys balls?...
A. 2 January 2010: Hope this is legal in Australia, but in my experience as a receiver, it is very pleasurable if a girl begins to caress the balls when the release is near. Just cup them in your hand(s) and squeeze gently with a massage, and increase the massage a ... (read in full...)
Is his height hampering my ability to orgasm??
Q. Okay, so my old boyfriend an i had great sex. I can only get off in certain positions, but he used to make me orgasm all the time. My new boyfriend has pretty much the same size and shaped penis, but i don't get off nearly as well with him. My old ...
A. 2 January 2010: Try telling him about the angles. It is true that positioning and angles of penetration can greatly affect a woman's satisfaction. Straight "in and out" is rarely as stimulating as approaching a vagina at certain or various angles. Problem is that ... (read in full...)
What kind of sexual contact does she want with me?
Q. My aunts try to brush their nipples onto my elbow. Lately one aunt (married to my mum's brother) on new year's eve brushed her nipple on me as she walked past me from behind. What kind of sexual contact does she want with me? BJ with me to come ...
A. 2 January 2010: Best to keep sexual activities out of the family except with a wife.... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty, please help me?
Q. First of all I'd like to thank all of you who are currently reading this..you have all served as another method of therapy for me, I don't know what I would do without your guys' advice.. I'm 17 years old, and my (now ex) boyfriend is 18. We have ...
A. 2 January 2010: Well, I don't know what your aversion to oral may be, but this fear of rejection in the future is ridiculous. You have hardly even done anything and you're still a virgin, for goodness sake!... (read in full...)
What should I do about premature ejaculation?
Q. I suffer from premature ejaculation when having intercourse with my partner. I usually last between 30 seconds to a few minutes at most. I not only have this problem with intercourse but also when I masturbate I tend to last under a minute usually. ...
A. 2 January 2010: In my opinion, you should cut back on the masturbation for one thing. I'm unsure whether your partner is male or female, but I suppose than in either case, increase foreplay. And depending upon the gender, take care of the partner prior to ... (read in full...)
Why did I lose my erection?
Q. last night my girlfriend and i had sex 2 times and and hour apart once at 6 and once at 7 then after that we drank cuz it was new years so i drank a lot of alcohol then when we were going to sleep we were going to have sex and when i got hard and ...
A. 1 January 2010: Must agree that alcohol can definitely affect it, as well as stress, anxiety and possibly the repetition. ... (read in full...)
I can't have without it hurting so much!
Q. I am 21 years old and my bf and I of 9 months have just started to have sex for the first time in our relationship. The problem is everytime we try I just clamp up and therefore when he tries to enter me, it hurts like hell! The pain is so bad. ...
A. 1 January 2010: The probable solution is more foreplay. Consider reading this:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-my-guy-to-make.html
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How do you make it bigger?
Q. my penis is not so large and some time feel ashamed while havin sex how can i increase its lenght ...
A. 31 December 2009: Certainly, but there are several girls down at the club who will do it.... (read in full...)
I want to go all the way with him
Q. Okay so i have a question...me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months now...but i always try to turn him on en he gets turned on and he turns me on too but then he changes the subject all over a sudden...en i really wanna go all the way ...
A. 31 December 2009: Your posting indicates that you are still a bit too immature to "go all the way." Two months is just a moment in time, and too soon for taking really serious risks. But if you are truly age 18 to 21, then you are of legal age and can do as you wish, ... (read in full...)
My older bro want's to mess around...Help?
Q. Hi this is all a little weird for me, but I need some help. My older brother and I are really close, since we were little. But recently we have been talking and innocnetly I told him about a dream I had about him and thought he would just call me ...
A. 31 December 2009: Keep saying NO!!! It is very, very wrong, and if he continues, tell your parents.... (read in full...)
How do you eat someone out?
Q. Right, well I feel a little weird posting here but I don't know where else to go. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a while and she's been tickling with the idea of having me eat her out. Firstly, I had no idea what this meant unti...
A. 31 December 2009: Well "q1605" offered great advice, but also read the following:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-advice-do-you-have-about-giving-and.html... (read in full...)
How do you make it bigger?
Q. my penis is not so large and some time feel ashamed while havin sex how can i increase its lenght ...
A. 31 December 2009: "q1605" Have you ever had a nun rub her woofers on your wee-wee? lol That's a scenario I would never have imagined. ... (read in full...)
How do you make it bigger?
Q. my penis is not so large and some time feel ashamed while havin sex how can i increase its lenght ...
A. 31 December 2009: In my opinion, any of the male enhancement promotions with the possible exception of questionable surgery are just a lot of bullsh*t. I'm not a very tall man, and I don't believe there is damn thing I can do about it. Best advice is to make the best ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me to have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend?
Q. been with my boyfriend for almost a year, we still have a passionate relationship and have sex up to 3-4 times a week, we try different things such as sex outside, sex against the wall, sex in different rooms, i love it and orgasm everytime... but i ...
A. 30 December 2009: Personally, I would not want you to harm me when you have your orgasms, but it's great that you are having a good time.... (read in full...)
Why does he lose his erection during sex?
Q. im 24 years old and my boyfriend is 42 when we have sex he loses his erection why is this? he stays hard when we have foreplay...
A. 30 December 2009: There are a lot of things that can cause erectile dysfunction. Stress, worry, medications, age, performance anxiety and it goes on and on.... (read in full...)
Why does my penis not discharge?
Q. i have had 4time sex with different different girls from past 4-5days. but after having sex my pennis doesnot discharge . . . . every time girl come angry that why ur penis does not discharging even girl come very tired?????????? so plzz suggest me ...
A. 30 December 2009: Who can possibly understand what this posting means? It's like playing Scrabble in Greek.... (read in full...)
I have faked it for 10 years...help?
Q. i have had sex for 10 years and have never felt any sexual pleasure form it for ten years i have faked it. it hurts becasue my marriage is now over becasue it gets worst everytime, i know i wont feel nothing os i dont get horny. oral sex only gives ...
A. 30 December 2009: I don't know what this "kermit" guy is all about other than self promotion, but you need to offer additional info about why you are not being satisfied. We will try to offer something more helpful.... (read in full...)
All he thinks about is sex, sex, sex!
Q. hi, I'm having a problem with my boyfriend.I am nearly 26 and this is the first time to fall in love, we are having some problems the first and important one is in the way we think, all he thinks of is sex and I don't think of it that much. He lived...
A. 30 December 2009: You cannot change a man.... (read in full...)
At 28, I resigned myself to a sexless relationship, but then I met someone else
Q. Six years ago I met the man I thought was my soul mate. We moved in together and started our lives. Soon after moving in we realized there was something wrong with our sex life. It was non existent. My partner has a very low sex drive, so low that ...
A. 30 December 2009: You should do nothing that makes you feel sick, but certainly living a sexless life in your 20s must also be somewhat sickening in a way. You have only one life to live on earth, and doing so without some of the greatest pleasures life has to offer ... (read in full...)
Desire during sex!
Q. So what does it mean, when a girl says she wants to feel desired during sex? I guess im just stupid, but if im doing her, obviously i desire her? are there any tips, on making her feel desired?...
A. 29 December 2009: Yes, it has to do with being a loving and caring man all the time, rather than just "doing her." For one thing, put her satisfaction ahead of your own, then any woman will probably love you. ... (read in full...)
I'm too obsessed with the desire to have sex!
Q. I'm 16 and I have a pretty big problem. The thing is, I've been way too obsessed with the desire to have sex that it's really frustrating me lately. I come from a very conservative family but I've been hooked on pornography for about half a year ...
A. 29 December 2009: Your desires are perfectly normal. At about your age, you are supposed to want a man to satisfy you. You have an insatiable "itch" down there, don't you? You think that you need a man's penis to satisfy it. You want it, and yes, the right man may as ... (read in full...)
I'm so worried my boyfriend is cheating on me.
Q. I'm so worried my boyfriend is cheating on me. At the same time I'm reluctant to fit the whole paranoid-woman stereotype, but I can't help it. For starters, he cheated on his girlfriend before me. Multiple times, with multiple girls. While I ...
A. 29 December 2009: No, I do not think you are being paranoid, you are just being played with. He has clearly stated his thoughts and that's the kind of man he is. You simply cannot make a silk purse from a sow's ear. ... (read in full...)
Do girls like having sex as much as guys do?
Q. hello everyone; i am a male, 25.. and i am still a virgin... and i always wonder if girls like having sex as much as guys do...; talking of asian girls they are very shy and find it immoral to talk about sex..; it doesn't seem that they enjoy doing ...
A. 29 December 2009: Perhaps Asian women are a bit shy about talking about it, but all women generally enjoy sex, or making love, just as much as guys. Put emphasis on the words "making love" rather than "having sex." The latter term is way too brash for most women, but ... (read in full...)
Which protection is safer?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year now. I've decided i want to loose my virginity to him. when we started talking about what protection we would use we had an issue. for my first time i want a guy to cum inside me, but of course i ...
A. 28 December 2009: To "marriedlady" - I know, I know. The best advice is either the triple-wall protection or total abstinence, but let's try to be realistic. Nobody likes condoms and the pill is at least fairly good prevention for most of us. Many of these young ... (read in full...)
Which protection is safer?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year now. I've decided i want to loose my virginity to him. when we started talking about what protection we would use we had an issue. for my first time i want a guy to cum inside me, but of course i ...
A. 28 December 2009: Well I understand the desire of many women to know and feel a man cumming inside them rather than using a condom. Most of the agony aunts and uncles here are insistent on using every conceivable form of prevention, and of course, I must generally ... (read in full...)
Are the things he says to me normal? Do other women accept this?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. Aside from all of the false accusations of infidelity (that seem to be habitual for him...and kill me inside), he uses depression and unemployment as excuses for his harsh words about me, my ...
A. 28 December 2009: Dump him!... (read in full...)
I can't find a girlfriend, the issue is bringing me down, any help?
Q. I am good looking guy 27 yo , i have been told many times from different people that i am very good looking and i have friendly and down to earth personality , but the point is that no one interested on me anymore ,, i don't know why i feel ...
A. 28 December 2009: So you are apparently a gay male and looking for a guy? Well that's not my realm, but just go to gay hangouts. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I ejeculate with masturbation or handjobs
Q. why can't I cum when I masterbate Im not circumsized and I haven't ejeculated from masterbating or handjobs...
A. 28 December 2009: Guess it simply doesn't work for some guys. Find a girl willing to do oral, and if that doesn't do it, you may need to see a doctor. ... (read in full...)
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