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writes:Married 6 years and very happy. My husband is 15 years older than me but eveyone who knows would say I am the mature party in our relationship. We have a toddler and our sex life is gearing back up now that nights are less interrupted and back to my prebaby fitness. In this light, why does my husband think showing me his flacid penis is a turn on to me? This is something new and I roll my eyes or tell him how not smooth that is but he persists. Like it's bad that I don't instantly grab onto it and take him right then and there. We have very fulfilling and hot sex at least 2-3 times a week and quickies/take care of business nearly every day. But please, naked unfit men and a flacid penis are not hot. I just don't want to hurt him with that bluntness. Advice or comments?
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reader, ivorlongan18  +, writes (31 August 2021):
Because he wants you to keep staring at it until he starts getting aroused so you can see how much you turn him on. My wife has found that it really turns her on at the thought of other women looking at my flaccid penis and dares me to whip it out when she is chatting to her mates on cam. I was shy at first but after the reactions I got and her friends telling me that she is lucky, I now also find it exciting. She has made it clear that they are not allowed to see me hard though! ... How would it make you feel if your friends saw your husbands penis? If the thought of it doesn't turn you on then just be grateful that it is only you that gets to see it.
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reader, Tzingers +, writes (28 December 2009):
Tzingers is verified as being by the original poster of the question@soon567 - interesting thought
@DoubleM - I laughed as I realized I needed an answer like that
@Angzw - You must be right. The more silly things you described, the more I remember instances my mom would have a similar reaction to my dad messing with her, farting and slapping her bum, etc. it is inevitable but I will mention to my hubby how it soooo does not turn me on if that is his intent.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (28 December 2009):
I have read and reread your message and am trying to understand what the problem is. After a few years of marriage, SOME men become silly like that; running around the room naked, making puppets with their winkie and balls, trying on your thongs, exposing themselves, snatching your towel when you come out of the bath, chasing you naked around the room, farting in the bed etc. I could go on. This happens when you have a certain comfort level between you. Am I the only woman who has been with men who do annoying stuff like this after a few years of being together? Any men you would meet besides him will eventually do the same too. Maybe I'm missing something here. Because if you already have great sex and a great relationship then maybe his flaccid peepee is one of those annoying things you can overlook and focus on the good. This seems like a small issue. If his body is out of shape, its better to try invite him to join you in your post pregnancy workout than to dash his self-esteem. All the best and compliments of the season!
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reader, conswalo wasabi +, writes (28 December 2009):
I think the only thing that needs to be done here is to talk. You are lacking in comunication. Tell him you think its weird just tell him "ye thats just weird, dont do it" Be up front
Conswalo Wasabi
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): Is he trying to turn you on or let you know his intentions? I think if he does that you could pinch his belly fat or something and say he needs to get rid of it. Just say something non-sexual when he flashes you. Do that each time. At the same time when he does something that actually turns you on, let me know you really like it.
Perhaps as part of some pillow talk start comparing notes about what he and you least and most like about each other. Or what is the best initiator of sex for you and the least...
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 December 2009):
 Hmmm. Well, you've been married to the guy six years and now with child, which in my mind means that you simply tell him whatever you think and feel! Wake the dude up! and tell him it's a big turn-off. You are his wife, damn it!
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reader, doom  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 well in sex, with your partner try telling it to him without hurting.Be straight, there's no option if of course you want your sex,and relationship to grow :) hope i've helped
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reader, Jager +, writes (28 December 2009):
ok so this is your husband and i can understand that you've been together for 6 years but you discribe him as a naked unfit immature older guy. Perhaps he has a problem getting it up and wants some help. Or maybe he is just messing about. If you love him im sure its not that much of a problem but by all means talk to him.
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