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writes:guyscan someone translate this please..a married friend of mine is having an emotional affair with a married woman whose thier famillies are friends it is a common dilemma but the confusing part is her husband who knows what she is doing but doenstmind atall...though sometimes he shows sudden jeallousy wich makes the situation more confusing !!if he doenst care wich is very abvious i.e my friend was at thier house two weeks ago and her husband fell asleep on the couch leaving them all alone while he knows that there is some thing between them...((no one falls asleep unless he/she feels secure)),than why he shows some jellousy towrds herfrom a time to another after that ??
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (26 December 2009):
 Following suggestions offered at the request of the poster:
While I have never had experience even similar to what you described, it is hard for me to understand myself. But I think that, for one thing, it is not really any of your business and you should not get personally involved.
However, it would be an interesting situation to observe. Also, it sounds as if one friend's wife is quite naughty, perhaps unsatisfied by her husband, and the husband knows not what to do about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for passing guys
1-) i am concerned because i am the one my friends asks for help and refuge but this case is realy strange..
2-) CG i asked my friend the same quistion
but he knows for sure that the guy is asleep as he observed him
3-)brooklyngirl your answer was helpfull
but i still find this situation strange
because when a man loves a woman he well feel jeallous if any one tryed to approach her
4-) this couple aren't having an open marriage
because if they did my friend wouldn't have been worried about..
more sugestions pleeeeease
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (26 December 2009):
 I don't know how people can live in a situation like this...I guess only the people in it can attempt to explain.
I know of similar circumstances with a friend of mine. She has been married to her child hood sweetheart, and has 3 children and two grandchildren. She also has a lover in another part of the country. She visits him at least two or three times a year. He sends presents to her at her home with her husband. And it seems that her husband is fine with it. However, in his situation as in the one you describe. The husband displays sudden outbursts of jealousy.
In my opinion, the husbands must be profoundly insecure to accept such arrangements, and are willing to accept anythig to keep their wives in their lives.
I can't imagine being in such a relationship and my heart goes out to the husbands!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 December 2009):
Did he fall asleep? Or was he pretending? It's more likely he either doesn't know what to do, or perhaps really doesn't care. I think you'll find he's in denial, or he just does't know what to do about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): There are many reasons why someone may not mind if someone else is (to the outside world) having an affair. They might have agreed to an open marriage. They may have agreed to experiment or seperate but stay under the same roof. My question is..... why are you so concerned?? Do you take issue with this behaviour and if so why? It is up to other people how they want to be honest or not - if you don't like a situation then the best thing is to not get involved at all.
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