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30-35,
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writes:Ok so I've met a guy on some social networking site. We have corresponded over that SNS, then later we've moved onto the messenger. Since then, we've chatted almost everyday.Before I get to the gist of my narrative, I'll give you first a brief background about myself. I had had no real boyfriend since birth other than some pseudo-romantic relationship back in 7th grade which didn't last long. I'm perhaps too much of an introvert so I'm not the type of person who goes out often or gets friends easily, hmm much less a guy who can be interested in me. This sounds funny but I used to be pretty and cute till puberty deformed me (my face).[I can tell by just comparing my pics before and (digicam pics)now.] So those compliments I used to receive so often, have died down.Now getting back to the story.. I've created a profile on that SNS and put up my recent pics. I used a 2.0 megapixel cam from my cellphone and the shots looked quite good to me 'cause my acne and eye shrinkage and everything ugly on my face got amazingly concealed. Realizing on mind that "these pics look good..and hey that's me in the pics! wow" I got my confidence back somewhat.Later I met this guy (by the way he is REAL 'cause he often shows himself on webcam) who's quite good looking and so nice and thoughtful. We often exchange photos and what I would give him are my 2.0megapixel solo pics. Well, he liked (he complimented me) about more than half of the numerous pics I've sent him other than those he gave no reaction/comment about but an 'ok thanks [for sending].' Such pics that drew no reaction happen to be very detailed and give a clear,close look of my face.BTW, I forgot to mention, we've been in a romantic relationship for about 6 months already. We haven't met in person though. I can tell he's taking me seriously because he makes those expensive overseas calls often and bothers to stay up late with me chatting for hours, every night. He even plans to come here in my country in June, 6 months from now. [To satisfy those who are curious, he's an Asian too.]Lately, I've felt that I'm just fooling him and myself (am I?): I'm not really that good looking unlike in the pics I've sent him. I'm afraid to be rejected and be hurt in the end. What should I do? I can't just break up with him now 'cause besides I don't wanna hurt myself, I don't wanna hurt him either and even weird him out. We're deeply in love with each other right now.Help me please...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): i beg to differ, maybe its just because im in the same relationship with someone myself. love can happen to anyone and if two people happen to connect, then all is good...well,that ends well! i think what you need to do is take it slowly until you meet up with him. i am a guy, and i will tell you physical appearance aint all that important with me. as long as you just be yourself and not weird him out...everything will fall into place. i presume you already have some serious chat sessions when you both open up, use those to tell him some of your insecurities and just get to share such stuff,just to erase any fantasy he may have you are perfect..good luck,i hope it all works out and keep a positive mindset.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (25 December 2009):
 You are very young and, in my opinion, you should never consider any online relationship to mean being "in love" until there is a face-to-face meeting. Even then, love is something that takes time.
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