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writes:Am I odd? I`m a 28 year old girl and never experimented with girls. 80% of the straight girls I grew up with and girls in school and even married girls I know tried this at least once. I mean more than just kissing. Is this common for girls to try this and then only be with guys? What percent or how many girls do you know that have tried this and then are with guys or married?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): I know how you feel Lazyguy, and the longer I stay around this board, the older I feel. So not only do we have 13year olds giving out blowjobs because it's normal, but now this lady wants to know if lesbian sex is a requirement for all women.... I don't know, things are sure strange nowadays.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): I see nothing wrong with same sex relationships, but there is no reason to try something that you don't want to do. As long as no one is getting hurt and not pushing their lifestyle onto others, then what is the problem. My wife has never had a desire to try sex with another woman and I don't think most women have. She has not even had it as a fantisy. My ex wife never had a desire for it, at least before we got divorced at the ages of 33. I don't know about any other women who I have known.
I think that a lot of guys like to think about 2 females together because they would like to join in for a 3some. I also think that some women try it because of having bad experiences with men, but still want a sexual relationship.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 What would be odd is to do something just because you think everyone else is doing it.
If you are not attracted to girls, why should you try it?
Yes, lesbian sex seems accepted in our society although you have to wonder wether the girl-on-girl kissing on tv craze was because women wanted it or for the male viewers.
If everybody else jumped of a bridge would you follow? God I feel old now.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 No you are not odd. If it's not your thing, don't worry about it. I think it's mostly hype, the ultimate bad girl behavior and for some reason it drives men wild. God only knows why, it doesn't do a thing for us girls when we see two men making out. Quite the opposite I'm afraid. Just be yourself, don't try to be anyone else and don't be pushed into doing something for someone you don't believe is right for you. Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 I'm a man and I've never experimented with men. And I'm happy like this.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 June 2008):
 I think you're normal. And why do you feel so pressured about this?
I respectfully disagree with bebe; since the beginning of human nature, it's been mostly a man and a woman, but a certain minority have been same-sex. I do not believe that it is an illness, nor is it something to be ashamed of. It simply is how someone is. I do not presume to judge anyone in this regard.
So I don't really have any percentages or ratios or numbers for you. People are who they are, and if they figure out what works for them through experimentation, well, that's fine by me.
As long as no one is lying, putting undue pressure on another person, or cheating, or having unsafe sex, I don't see any cause for alarm.
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reader, bebe girlie  +, writes (26 June 2008):
Why go against human nature? Since the beginning of humanity and in religion its been a man and woman. People who do gay stuff are probably sick! Sex is not an experiment.. So my answer to you is that you are perfectly normal and dont ever try going to this road of sleeping with girls for an experiment..Its bullshit! .. You should have better things to do then come with thoughts like that.. Dont let anyone influene you my friend
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reader, Marco262 +, writes (25 June 2008):
Statistics-wise, maybe. I don't know how many girls have done bisexual stuff (I'm a guy, so that stuff isn't usually shared). I would however be surprised if more than 50% of the girls in the US have ever been sexual with another girl, though.
On the whole though, you shouldn't be ashamed or feel weird about it. The one of the only concrete rules for sex is if the thought of doing something makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. On that note, whether or not other people do something shouldn't have an effect on how you feel about that activity.
On the other hand, if you don't feel one way or the other about it, I'd say give it a shot. At worst, you won't enjoy the experience, and then you'll be able to give a firm 'no' to any future boyfriend who might try to pressure you into a threesome. At best, you'll have a really fun experience, and maybe someone you can share your boyfriend with...
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