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writes:I would really love to find a boyfriend, but I'm so frustrated. If a guy is desirable, handsome, smart sweet and knows how to listen... those guys are always taken, or they're gay. It seems counterintuitive that someone like that would be single and available! It really frustrates me because I would like to find true love, but no one desirable is going to be single when hundreds of girls want him. How is it possible to find someone I love when all the decent guys are unavailable? Why can't there just be enough guys for every girl to have a partner? I'm so frustrated!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Eh, there are? Roughly 50/50 in fact.
In fact because older men go for younger women and rarely the other way around there are MORE men then women for you out there.
But yeah Danielepew is right, the decent ones are taken. As you get older this only gets worse, one women even had to settle for me, that is how desperate she had become!
Can I make a rather nasty remark?
"no one desirable is going to be single when hundreds of boys want her."
So why are you still single? If you want Mr Perfect, are you Miss Perfect?
Nasty, but you started this train of thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): there has been some good advice here, but I'll add my two cents:1. take a closer look at the guys you've rejected as uninteresting, not good looking, etc... you may find a diamond in the rough2. You're living in the wrong area. If you're angling in a fished-out pond, it's time to move! Go on a working vacation, start taking classes, or even get a new job and MOVE. 3. Start cultivating interests that are traditionally male-heavy. For instance, my sister for instance was a humanities major and her interests lie only in things like clothes and interior decorating. I, on the other hand, got a degree in science and like to repair bikes and computers. My sister is lovely and talented, but went for 10 years without a date. Meanwhile, I'm happily married but still in the situation where if one more handsome, smart, sweet, male starts mooning around with a crush on me, I'm going to scream and chase him out with a big stick. I don't mean to brag but I think that the answer is mainly location, location, location. (and YES, I tried to introduce sis to these single guys but she's ten years older than them, and lives on the other coast.)I'm not saying to pretend to like things that don't interest you, but maybe it's time to branch out a bit. Good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 June 2008):
I know it feels like that but there are lovely guys out there. You just have to keep looking.
It's always darkest before the dawn and all that.
Plus the fact remember that guys are going to act more macho when they are single so you'll be impressed with their manly ways - where as men who have a girl are going to be more open and friendly and nice because they are relaxed knowing nothing will happen.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 The good things that you see in a man, other girls see, too, and they arrive first. We men have the same feeling about women: we always feel that the nice ones are invariably taken by some brute. I guess that the very fact that people are born and marry only after some time means that, at some moment, a great person is available. You just haven't found that one.
By the way, I like to think of myself as desirable, handsome, smart, sweet and a good listener. I'm available. Only I'm not available for you :-), as I live elsewhere.
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