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writes:I have the worst situation in life, my mum and my girlfriend dont get on, I love them both a lot and I feel I have to choose but I dont want to...I need them both in my life and they both need me for emotional support but i dont know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (27 October 2008):
 You should ask your girlfriend to respect your Mother. In turn your Mother should try to give you peace by giving the same to your girlfriend. Sometimes Mother's are very close to their son's and the other girl in his life seems to be an outsider. The girlfriend then becomes anxious and upset at the Maternal closeness.
Neither of them should expect to be the only choice in receiving your love for the two loves are different. Remember to give Mom and the girlfriend the attention each deserves and spend quality time with both. Take them out to dinner together sometimes or to a movie. Show both of the special girls in your life they both have your love and atention. Hopefully they will form a caring bond between themselves for your sake.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (27 October 2008):
 They aren't making you choose. And neither of them should. Your girl and your mother are different people who you love in different ways. There is a role for each one of them, and both should be aware of that.
Since you can't dump your mother, this seems a one-sided question. I have the hunch that the real question is "should I dump my girl since my mother doesn't like her?" The answer to that hypothetical question is NO.
Women are great until they become possessive. Don't let any of the two become that. But, most of all, be aware of what you need to do. Like I said, neither of them is making you choose. Why even pose the question?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 October 2008):
 Why does she dislike your girlfriend? Are her reasons genuine? Does your girlfriend treat her poorly or treat you badly? I think that's an important question to be answered before advice can really be given.
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