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writes:hypathetically speaking, if i were 5 months pregnant, and just found out i was having a boy... Would it be smarter to get him circumsized and why???if i dont curcumsize him now, can he get it done later in life if he wanted to? Reply to this Question
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (8 November 2008):
im_a_dummy is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for all your help... no im not going to do it... its extra pain and many resources say its better for his sex life, and lets admit.... your sex life is importaint! haha.. so thank you all for your help
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Hola Daniel,I can't verify my sources, either. I could be wrong but, according to what I read, the prepuce develops miniscule rips and tears over time. Tonsilitis can be cured, though, but sadly, there is no cure for HIV. I think that whether she has her baby circumcised or not, it is so important that kids get good sex education and know the facts about AIDS, pregnancy, etc.Where I live, sex ed leaves much to be desired.I work in a school where there are so many pregnant girls that I think they should change their mascot from the "Badgers" to the "Fetuses."Saludos
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Sirena Blusera, I'm afraid we didn't read the same book, though the information you give is interesting. I understand that the prepuce has some kind of cells that are easier for the HIV virus to enter. However, that is hardly a reason to circumcise a boy; if it were, then we all should have our tonsils removed, so we won't suffer tonsillitis.
And, curiously enough, some people do seem to be immune to AIDS. The scientists have found that their genes are different somewhere. They suspected something was happening after they learned the case of some Third World prostitutes who never used protection but never got the disease. It would be irresponsible, however, to presume that one is free of the likelihood of infection. And then there's plenty of venereal diseases.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (31 October 2008):
Hey Daniel, you are correct in saying that studies indicate that circumcised men have a slightly lower risk to contract HIV. Je repete:
WARNING!!
NO ONE is IMMUNE to HIV or AIDS, and the only way to guarantee that you won't get it from sex, is to be abstinent.
However, I read in a book that, as a man ages, the foreskin, if left intact, will develop teeny tiny rips and tears that are invisible to the naked eye. The virus is small enough to penetrate those rips and tears and enter the body that way.
Maybe you and I read the same book?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): I'm an OB nurse and I've witnessed circumcision numerous times. I've also seen botched circumcision where it led to bad bleeding and infections. I didn't circumcise my own son. It's not medically necessary, it's not needed for hygiene (baby girls have far more folds to clean than a boy yet we don't circumcise them), and circumcision isn't recommended by the Academy of Pediatrics or any other medical organization.
If you are in the U.S., circumcision is in decline, close to 50/50 in many states. If you are outside the U.S., circ. is practically unheard of except by Jewish or Muslim parents.
Cleaning an uncircumcised baby boy isn't hard at all. You no longer have to push anything back like doctors used to suggest (that actually led to trauma and infections). You just wipe the body part downward, like a finger or toe. It's simple. If he wanted to get circumcised later in life, yes, it's possible to do it and even a better time to do it since the doctor would know how much skin to remove (as opposed to guessing in infancy) and he'd also get much better pain relief during and after the surgery.
Before you decide I'd recommend search for circumcision videos online. There are plenty of sites out there that are definitely pro-circ and anti-circ. Since you never know what the web owner's agenda is I'd recommend picking a neutral site if possible, maybe a respected doctor like Dr. Sears or Dr. Edell. It's fine to visit the pro and anti sites too, just don't believe everything you read 100%.
In the end, I'm sure your son will be fine either way but I think leaving him the way he is born will be the best option. I figure if God or nature didn't want him to have a foreskin then he wouldn't have been born with one, know what I mean?
And if this isn't really a hypothetical question, please make sure you're getting good prenatal care and eating right.
Good luck to you!
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Hello,
Just had a look at wikipedia.org/circumcision.
There are links to "for" and "against" at the bottom and these contain articles. I found one article an interesting read, "benefits to women", so although I am pro-male circumcision, it's best to read the other articles against too. XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): I agree with rummykub - mine's intact and I certainly wouldn't want it any other way. There's another word for circumcision - which is 'mutilation'.
I would bet that all those women that come to this site asking why their man can't orgasm have partners with no foreskin. Circumcision desensitises the head of the penis.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (28 October 2008):
Hello,
Hey poster, don't worry! you are right to ask this question if you are unsure or want help or advice. Never feel afraid to ask questions on here!!!
There is a difference of opinion naturally on circumcision. I had posted as I saw it and as I said previously had my two boys circumsized. That was my decision as a mother. However, I respect other people's views on here and welcome the differences. You do what you feel is right for your boy. Good luck, Hannah xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Then please change your name honeypie... You are no "dummy", you must not think of yourself in such harsh ways. You needed advice and you came here to ask questions. Sounds pretty sensible to me...
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (28 October 2008):
im_a_dummy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for answering my ?.... i know he is a boy, and no it wasnt hypathtical it was true, i didnt want people to judge me....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): Hypothetically speaking, what happens if the baby is a girl?
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reader, rummykub +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Please don't have your baby circumcised. It may be the norm in America, but it isn't in the rest of the world (UK included) unless for religious reasons.
There is so much debate over whether it can actually be detrimental to a man's sexual enjoyment (as it removes the natural gliding process of the foreskin over the head of the penis during sex). Do you really want to potentially ruin your son's sex life just because it might be easier to clean?!
Fair enough for religious reasons (although i am not religious), but for hygiene?
I don't understand that argument. You wouldn't have his earlobes removed because they are difficult to clean. wold you? A man's penis has naturally evolved to have a foreskin, for protection and sexual enjoyment.
Please leave it be, or at least let it be his decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Yes, it would be a very good mother's decision to have their boys circumsized. They can only benefit from it and will appreciate it when they are adults. It's best to do it when he is a baby. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): I really think you'd have to wait for him to be born first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): I say get it done. I'm a man who has had it done and from a cosmetic perspective it's all good. No way would a grown man put himself through the pain to get it done later in life. You're his mother; this is the first of many important decisions you are going to make for him. Just do it; he'll never remember the pain and secretly thank you for it when he's older.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 October 2008):
 Are you pregnant or just hypthetically wasting everyone's time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): I'm sitting reading this with my bf. He is of the opinion that you most certainly should not have him circumsized, and should leave it to him to choose whether he shouldhave it done or not in the future.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (27 October 2008):
Hello, I say yes. I had my two boys circumsised and now they are both happy teenagers. I wanted them both circumsised simply for hygenic reasons and cleaning when they were babies. So it is a yes from me! Hannah x
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (27 October 2008):
Many men have been circumcised for millennia and circumcision is still a matter of preference, or religion.
Usually there is no real medical reason to do it. There are some risks that come with it, but then there are also benefits. I understand that circumcised men are less likely to get AIDS, and, for some reason, they are less prone to transmit HPV. I can't verify my sources for this in case anyone wants to be picky about it.
WARNING: I said "less likely" to get AIDS; I never said they are immune.
So, in the end, this is a matter of whether the family wants the boy circumcised or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): I think it is best to have it done. Should you have decide to do it, it is advisable to have it done whilst a baby. Bbut, as to your question,yes, it can be done later in life too. It is just more uncomfortable the older the child or man.
SOme food for thought and for you to investigate personally:
Lately the people campaigning against AIDS are suggesting circumcision, oviously with a reason.
There is medical research regarding the statistics of cervical cancer in women with partners that are circumcised and those that are not.
If circumcised, less chances for inflammation etc.
If not circumsized, might have problems later with foreskin not pulling back completely and might need surgery then.
No, I suggest get it done with, the sooner the better.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (27 October 2008):
Are you 5 months pregnant? If not, why would a 13-15 yr old even be wondering about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): There are argued reasons why babies should be circumsized and there are argued reasons why they shouldnt be. I dont think that asking peoples advice is the right way to go, you must make the decision on your own [after reading all the pros and cons]. So its really a very personal choice to make.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): I would advise against circumcision. Some people might say that it's just a bit of useless flesh being removed. I see it as the mutilation of a child. A babies toenails don't do it much good but no one in their right mind would suggest removing them.
If he wanted to be circumcised latter in his life he could.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): My friend writes a really funny blog. He's blogged on the topic, there are strong opinions on either side of the debate.
http://bamboonation.blogspot.com/search?q=circumcision
Personally I wouldn't do it unless you or the father have a strong cultural reason to do so. It is painful, and while it won't be remembered who wants to see their baby cry unnecessarily? The health benefits/risks pretty well average themselves out IMO.
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