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writes:So I've been seeing a FWB guy since we were both 17ish. Its been nearly 10 years and its a continuing thing, never stopped for either of us. But we have both in and out of relationships and we still do it on the DL. Just wondering i guess if his current relationship is ok like most and the girl is leaving town for a few days. He asked me to stay the night. Why do you think that is? Does he expect something different or the same? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 June 2017):
 Instead off worrying about if it is something different, be honest with yourself and him and tell him how you feel. It is totally unfair for ten years for you both the cheat, I honestly don't know how you can both sleep at night knowing all the innocent people you are hurting. You deserve to be with each other!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (7 June 2017):
 You're both cheaters, so do yourselves a favour and either be in a relationship together or cut off the FWB.
Why is it okay for you both to cheat on innocent people for 10 years?
Seriously, OP, you have to answer that question because there's no excuse.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (7 June 2017):
 You two need to decide what you are doing with your lives, especially as regards your FWB relationship.
10 years is an awfully long time to spend having a FWB relationship with the same guy. Either you two want to be an item or you don't. If the first, then stop having other relationships and get together properly. If not, then stop meeting up for sex and concentrate on finding a relationship with long term prospects.
Your FWB relationship is almost like an open marriage.
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reader, wherelifewouldtakeus +, writes (7 June 2017):
 Could this arrangement be the reason why you are both in and out of relationships still?After 10 years of continuously sleeping with one an other I find it difficult to believe no lasting bond has formed between the two of you. Are you afraid he is expecting more or are you hoping he is expecting more this time around?...
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (7 June 2017):
 Which is the FWB, and which is the Long Term Relationship?
If you have never spent the night in 10 years, Spending the night is certainly "something different". Waking up together, Breakfast, Morning breath, socks on the floor. Could be quite a revelation.
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reader, N91 +, writes (6 June 2017):
 He expects to have sex with you.
What else? Its a FWB.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2017): 10 years is a very long time to remain in just a FWB situation.It sounds to me like you are hoping he might have feelings for you by asking your question. Is this correct?Do you have feelings for him? I suspect the answer is yes.I am not sure why the both of you have never entered into a proper relationship if you have been together for this long? What has stopped you? I mean, obviously you both get along pretty well for it to go on for 10 years. And I am guessing you get along on a friendship level as well as sexual. So, why did you never take it to the next level? Was it his choice for it to remain the way it has?You know you can't go on forever in this type of relationship. If you care about him and are hoping for more, then ask him and see where it goes. It does become much too hard for the person who falls in love with the other to continue this arrangement forever. So there does come a cut off point, or a point where a decision must be made. Fun and games can only last so long. Eventually things do become serious because it is rare to have sex with someone for years and not fall in love. If it comes to the point where you want more and he doesn't, you are only going to break your own heart by staying with him. It gets harder and harder.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (6 June 2017):
 How different can it be? I personally think it is unfair on the partners - his and yours. I wouldn't be too pleased if I were being cheated on in that way.
Still you didn't write in to be criticised for your moral waywardness did you?
Let us know exactly how different you imagine it might be and we might be able to offer some suggestions.
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