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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (22 June 2017):
He sounds very immature. He doesn't have the decency to end things with you so he chooses to ignore you, how grown up off him. Honestly the best thing that you can do is block his phone number and social media and email and move on with your life.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (15 June 2017):
He's not really interested in this relationship but doesn't want to be the bad guy so he manipulates you into thinking you're in the wrong.
You know what he is.
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reader, Whiteredwhite +, writes (15 June 2017):
Whiteredwhite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help everyone. It's helping move on in a more peaceful way ??
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reader, N91 +, writes (15 June 2017):
Do you think this is how someone who loves you would treat you? At like a spoilt brat and not contact you for 5 days? Surely someone who loves you would want to resolve whatever problems you have as soon as possible.
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reader, Whiteredwhite +, writes (14 June 2017):
Whiteredwhite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI broke and called him late last night. He told me that he was mad that I sent him a text saying that next time I don't want to do something that he shouldn't force me to do it. He said that text was basically me saying fuck you to him. I said no, that was me standing up for myself. He said that I do enough of that. I senses the conversation by saying not calling for 5 days is really cruel and the phone call ended.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (13 June 2017):
Whiteredwhite, he has what's most important to him right now. Rent free accommodations and the money to spend on himself.
Even if he moved in with you right now, you'd have to put up with him and his nonsense while trying to raise children.
I think your future children deserve better than for you to settle for an adolescent boy for a father.
Let this one go. He's not a keeper.
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reader, N91 +, writes (13 June 2017):
I think that's the least of your worries.
You two just aren't on the same page and I think you're wasting your time with this guy.
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reader, Whiteredwhite +, writes (13 June 2017):
Whiteredwhite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe also told me he would not longer be selling his atv after a few days when he said he would. I feel like this was just an empty promise
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reader, N91 +, writes (13 June 2017):
Take this as the relationship is over.
He sounds like a child and does nothing but let you down from what I can gather.
To me the whole relationship sounds toxic, nothing but arguing. You described nothing positive about it so what exactly are you staying for?
He doesn't sound what you're looking for in life right now at all so I'd advise you drop him out of your life, block him from contacting you and find someone that you're compatible with.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (13 June 2017):
Before you want to resolve this, you have to be honest and figure out if you are okay with the possibility that you would never have children with him in case he does not make enough money in the future. He is not sure if you can be happy enough with the limited things he can give you. There is nothing wrong with having a male friend help you, although Kyle has become a symbol which is threatening to him. He represents what you are going to do if you were to break up with him. That you are going to a male with more resources. He begrudgingly helped you just so that Kyle wouldn't have to do it. You two may not be best suited for this relationship but at the same time you are not ready to let it go. He doesn't have a heart for this anymore but is just hanging in there so he doesn't have to deal with the pain of knowing you would be with a guy better than him. It's frustrating that after 3 years there's still no talk of living together or marriage. Never mind you, he's frustrated too, seeing you trying to hide your impatience. You don't have to accept his non communication and not following up promises such as dinner and replies. Most of the resolving has to come from him, and he's being very slow to match up with your expectations.
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reader, Whiteredwhite +, writes (13 June 2017):
Whiteredwhite is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI forgot to add that a few days after he said he'd sell his atv he told me that he actually wouldn't. I never asked him too but I felt like once he got me talking to him again he changed his promises.
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