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*ragonslayer
writes:Well, I have a crush on coworker, but she is dating another co-worker and has a kid with him. She asked me if I think her boyfriend would cheat on her. I told her "no, I didn't think so". She supposed to come over and hang out, but Im not going to try anything. Im just trying to figure out what's the best thing to do.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 June 2017):
 Please don't flirt with a taken women. Think about her little child and her boyfriend. Don't be that person that cannot find a women for themselves so tries to take someone else's and in the process destroys a family.
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reader, Dragonslayer +, writes (18 June 2017):
Dragonslayer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, things are good. We are just having fun and I'm being the perfect gentleman. Haven't tried anything and probable won't. We have been almost more time together usually when her man is at work, but again haven't done anything except very light flirting. I still like her, but I'm concentrating more on being her friend than a lover. Because I love where are friendship is at and don't want to ruin it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2017): EDIT: "It a big-boy now. Too old for crushes."
Correction: "You're a big-boy now. Too old for crushes."
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2017): Here we go again. Checking out co-workers and trying to use your workplace as a dating site.
Be professional, and do what you were hired to do. You're not at a bar, or club. You're at your grind, where you earn your bill and rent money.
The fact she's dating someone else on the job doesn't mean she'll want to date you. It a big-boy now. Too old for crushes. Put your johnny away, and zip it up!
If you know what's good for you; stay out their business.
Your best answer to anything she brings up about him is; " I think that's best left between him and you!" Or: " I don't know, I just work here!"
She'll run back and tell him anything you've said; if you offer her advice, or anything but a neutral opinion. She's trying to make him jealous by talking to you. To make him think he has a rival. Then you're pulled into her web like a brainless knuckle-head thinking with his dick.
Do your job. Date single eligible women you don't have to see 40 hours of your work-week. Even after you breakup!
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (10 June 2017):
 if she is in some type relationship it is best to stay work mates, she might want you as a shoulder to cry on or just to talk about her bf and where she see it going with him , and that is not the best place for you if you are starting to have feelings. Best to keep the work place a happy place , if it gets nasty you might have to get a different job so when your not in any drama as of yet best to keep it work mates
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (10 June 2017):
 I think you're asking for trouble if you get involved with her. She is committed to someone else and because of that child they will always be in each other's lives. She is also a co-worker which makes it even more taboo. The potential losses far outweigh the benefits in this situation.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 June 2017):
 I'd stay FAR away from that drama.
She has a BF and a child with him. So do YOU want to be responsible for this kid's loss of a "family unit"? Just because you find her hot?
Have some sense, OP - date OUTSIDE your workplace and don't get involved in other people's relationship drama at work.
My guess, is... This girl wants to USE you to make her BF jealous. That is why she wants to hang out. HANG out in public, OP. Much safer. She obviously thinks he could be cheating and is feeling insecure about it - she needs for her partner to feel the same insecurity or she is just playing head games with him AND you.
Think, OP
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (10 June 2017):
If she's dating someone else and has a kid with him, the best thing to do is leave well alone.
If she's a co-worker, the best thing to do is leave well alone.
So, there's two reasons why you should not do anything about your crush. You'll just open a vast can of worms...
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