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writes:Ok, I have become good friends with a guy I met through work. We have known each other for about 6 months now. When we first became friends I wasn't looking for a relationship and it seemed as if he wasn't either,as he said so. I told him not to worry as I had put him in friendzone anyway.To which he replied that men and women couldn't be friends, as one would always end up falling for the other. I laughed about it and said that I thought women could, it was probably the blokes that couldn't. Anyway he used to call me up about a couple of times a week to hang out, and I would go to his house and visit. Aboout a few months into seeing him, he invited me out for a drink. Anyways I ended up staying at his house, and although we didnt have sex, we did have a bit of a fondle. It was slightly awkward. The thing is over the last 3/4 weeks, he has been calling me everyday to hang out, and has been doing boyfriendy things with me... sUchida as taking me shopping, treated me to dinnervous out or cooks at his house. I am totally confused now as to what we are. Is it possible he has begun to see me as more than a friend?... or is he just being nice?... I would appreciate any comments or ideas. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 June 2017):
 Talk to him and ask him what his intentions are, either he wants to have sex with you or else he sees you as more, but if you are as close as you say you are then it shouldn't be an issue bringing it up in conversation so you know where you stand with him.
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reader, sunshinex10 +, writes (12 June 2017):
Thank your for your reply. Actually it is a bit of an odd situation, as he was a customer that used the shop I work in. I actually did fancy him as soon as I saw him. It has taken 2yrs for us to get to meet away from work. Once we did we had loads in common, but, I happened to mention my age, (I'm 7yrs older, 37/44) I guess thats when we both said we were not looking for a relationship, I think the age gap worried us. I actually really enjoy his company, so I don't not want to see him, it wouldn't bother me if he did have feelings, I am just don't understand men very well,so am curious about the amount of time he wants to spend with me. Also he has not tried anything sexual since. Or ever tried to kiss me at all!.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (12 June 2017):
 he might be thinking FWB AND miss reading what you are up for , you can stay friends with him , but if he trys anything put a stop to it the same way as you would with someone that is being to close to you at work , you can be friends without extras on fondling no over the line just what normal friends do ,
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reader, N91 +, writes (12 June 2017):
 Do friends 'fondle' each other?
He either wants a relationship or sex. If YOU see him as a friend, don't let it get to the point where there's the chance of intimacy occurring.
If you don't want anything serious then you're basically leading him on by allowing him to think you want sexual contact. You need to be upfront and say that is not on offer if you do truly see him as a friend.
Be upfront with him, don't let the lines get blurred, tell him if you don't want to hang out as much, by accepting his offers all the time it would probably suggest to him that you're moving things forwards and it's looking promising for him.
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