I want her to try for us, but not because she feels sorry for me
Q. I met my soul mate my love on the internet bleive it or not we clicked right away she has three beautiful great kids i love them as much as lets call my girlfriend teena well she was honest from the beginning first argument was pretty dumb but i did ...
A. 30 December 2010: hi
well she has agreed to give things another chance so all you can do now is do your best and look honestly at your behaviour before you split up to see if there is anything you could improve about youself and how you handled things. all you can ... (read in full...)
My dad is very ill and I want to break up with my boyfriend. Finding this incredibly stressful!
Q. I am a relatively high stress person. It's kind of in my nature, it's how I deal with things. If I were to asess myself, I'd say that I'm more stressed out than the average person, but still functional, able to have fun and let loose. I am a ton of ...
A. 29 December 2010: :( i'm so sorry to hear that! maybe he isnt worth knowing after all if he can do that while he knows what your going through with you dad and that this time of year also can be very tough when you got a seriously ill loved one. i hope you can move ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is married to her job and we split because of it. Can I win her back?
Q. I met her in the summer through mutual friends of ours, a married couple that she's been living with for around a year since she split with a long term ex. We hit it off straight away and after some texting we met up for a drink and things moved on ...
A. 29 December 2010: hi kid
i think that your friends and the girl herself are doing their best to let you down as tactfully as they can but reading between the lines, it just seems that for whatever reason, the girl is just not into you, maybe just something as simp... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is married to her job and we split because of it. Can I win her back?
Q. I met her in the summer through mutual friends of ours, a married couple that she's been living with for around a year since she split with a long term ex. We hit it off straight away and after some texting we met up for a drink and things moved on ...
A. 27 December 2010: hi
you only split with this girl in november so its still obvously raw for you, thats to be expected. you are doing the right thing keeping you options open. who knows how she might feel in the future. she may either be flattered that you stil... (read in full...)
I never got to tell him how I feel!
Q. I really like this boy i've know him for a year but i don't know how he feels about me. Not to long ago he move an hour away and we haven't talk but i still like him so much. We use to talk all the time and he wouldn't really talk to anyother girl ...
A. 27 December 2010: please try not to be nervous. remember at school he was happy to be your friend and have your attention then wasnt he so i'm betting he would be delighted to hear from you now. who knows, he might be longing to contact you but now he feels too shy! ... (read in full...)
Another WHAT TO DO WITH MY EX Question... I'm so very perplexed and confused..
Q. the Hyphens help me to use less detail with each point, but its still pretty long. Here goes the story: -Ex and I together for 1 year and 2 months, days shy of 15 months PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. Promised a lot of things to each other during the...
A. 27 December 2010: i am so glad you are feeling better about this now. its true what they say, time is a great healer! :) and now that you have been through this experience of having your heart broken it stands you in good stead to deal with any future heartaches you ... (read in full...)
I want her to try for us, but not because she feels sorry for me
Q. I met my soul mate my love on the internet bleive it or not we clicked right away she has three beautiful great kids i love them as much as lets call my girlfriend teena well she was honest from the beginning first argument was pretty dumb but i did ...
A. 26 December 2010: this sounds very messed up! too much trouble in the world already without arguing and fighting with people we say we love. talk to each other and make an agreement that next time you feel things are developing into a silly argument, take a breath, ... (read in full...)
Mom thinks my headaches are coming from listening to music and not sleeping enough
Q. hi all.. this may be just a silly thing to ask but i am very cautious on my health. i never tend to get headaches, it was rare for me, like, i dunno, once every 3 months. it might not sound very rare but my days and weeks last long, lol. at...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
headaches can have lots and lots of reasons but i believe they should not be ignored. you are old enough to arrange an appointment with the doctor yourself so make sure you do this, hopefully he can reassure you that your headache has a harm... (read in full...)
If we get back together will we end up where we started?
Q. I have been in a gay relationship with a lad for 10 months, and 3 days ago he came to me saying he didn't think it was working anymore, he was worried he would fall out with me and that little things really annoy him. We agreed to continue our rel...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
what little things annoy him? is it anything you could or would be willing to change as you are saying you dont wanna lose him? stick with him, see how it goes but keep in your mind that you might be on borrowed time with him. if you do end ... (read in full...)
Should I flirt with him even though I have mixed feelings?
Q. To flirt or not to flirt, that is the question. So, I just started dating a guy 10 years younger and when he's not around I like him. But, when we are together I can't get pas the age difference and one minute i like him the next i don't (mixed f...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
nothing wrong with flirting! it makes us feel nice if someone flirts with us doesnt it? dont give him the idea though that you are more emotionally involved than you really are coz that might end up hurting him if you realise that you are not ... (read in full...)
He told her he likes her and wants to be with her but he has a girlfriend! Thats me!
Q. heya i was with this boy for a Month i actually liked him, he told me he loved me etc but the thing is he cheated on me, he is still denying it tho :/. i spoke to her and everything and on her fb wall he told her that he loved her :/ but also h...
A. 26 December 2010: i wouldnt trust him if i were you. dont base trust on the fact that he said he loves you. that is easy to say, it is only words. if someone SHOWS you they love you though that is different. are you still seeing him? you said it had been a ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my girl that I hurt so badly?
Q. I read a question about my ex the monster wants to try again. Look at the link underneath to undertand why I feel like shit because I'm that monster like her exbf. It crushes me if the love of my life thinks like the girl there. It was all my wrong ...
A. 26 December 2010: apologise for whatever it is that you have done, but only if you mean it. promise her that you will never hurt her that way again, but only if you mean it. and then hope for the best. you may have destroyed all your girls trust and love for you ... (read in full...)
I never got to tell him how I feel!
Q. I really like this boy i've know him for a year but i don't know how he feels about me. Not to long ago he move an hour away and we haven't talk but i still like him so much. We use to talk all the time and he wouldn't really talk to anyother girl ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
do you still have his contact details? if so send him message or call him to say hi, ask him how he is settling in his new place, tell him you'd love to get together for a coffee or something if he is back in your town again. just keep it frie... (read in full...)
Why am I so obsessed with his previous relationship?
Q. wel here goes... my boyfriend of one yr had a fiance of 8 yrs, had two kids with her. I can be a very jealous person anyways and am booked in to see a counsellor in the New Year. however, the holidays has thrown up a lot of jealous emotions ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi i understand perfectly how you feel but think of this... if she was so perfect for him he would still be with her. you seem to have an issue with your confiedence in yourself which i think you would really benefit from dealing with and i hope t... (read in full...)
I've managed to find nobody.
Q. OK, I'm really, really struggling now, and I don't know who I can turn to. Basically I just want honest answers, which my friends and family in real life don't seem to wish to give. Anyway, I'm almost 29. I will be 30 in a little over a ye...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
what a terrible thing for someone to say to you! please try not to take it to heart! some people just really enjoy being nasty to others, especially online - they're called trolls! i am very doubtful about internet dating, its surely better to m... (read in full...)
Odd girl out.
Q. So im another average teen girl. Asian tall super skinny size 00 back hair with red streaks not gorgeous but not entirely ugly either. I havent been in a relationship for about 2 years now. An i was wondering how to get a boyfriend. I mean i have a ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi you sound as if you are very confident in yourself, maybe you seem too confident for the boys to feel like they really have a chance? dont change though. confidence is great, although arrogance isnt. is there anyone particularly that you like? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me like his personal assistant!
Q. My boyfriend gets very angry at me for no reason he dislikes me to talk with friends sometimes even family. He makes me get his cell phone and makes me do everything he treats me like a personal assistant. he has a soft side though were he will do ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
he sounds like an emotional bully. the picture of the ex as his screen saver is just plain cruel, given that you have told him you dont like it and he keeps it there anyway. do yourself a favour and google 'narccisistic personality diso... (read in full...)
He talks about making me his wife yet, he never texts me?
Q. please help me i cant help but think about him and our situation here few months i met this guy at a club i had a thing with his friend nothing expect flirting and exchanging numbers. few weeks after that the guy added me and weve talked also exch...
A. 26 December 2010: saying things online is very easy to do. people can say things they dont mean. they can also be chatting and flirting online to otehr people too. remain friends with him of course but be aware that it may never be more than this. keep your ... (read in full...)
He forgot about me on Christmas!
Q. My boyfriend and are spending Christmas holidays with our families. We're being together for 14 months and he didn't text me for Christmas. We have a great relationship, we love each other so much. Or so I thought... I thought he didn't text or c...
A. 26 December 2010: its not acceptable behaviour. a person would have to have a heart of stone to not be hurt by that. the fact that you dont talk much on the phone, i am not sure about that. do you see much of each othe in person or is the phone your main way or ... (read in full...)
How to move on when your heart has been tossed in the trash can?
Q. I have been in love with a man for 4 years, we have been LDR. Well, today Christmas day he erased me from his Skype contacts without saying a word. I text him and he didn't replied. I feel like he threw all we shared and all he promised during this ...
A. 26 December 2010: seems very heartless to do this on christmas day! do you know why he did this and do you want to know why or just move on from him? how long distance? have you ever met in person? did he give you any indication that he was losing interest prior to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is married to her job and we split because of it. Can I win her back?
Q. I met her in the summer through mutual friends of ours, a married couple that she's been living with for around a year since she split with a long term ex. We hit it off straight away and after some texting we met up for a drink and things moved on ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi and hope you had a nice christmas in spite of this? you say she should be able to spare you 2 minutes to text you but i think you know you would want more than that one 2 minute text back dont you? and i think she knows too that by keep replying ... (read in full...)
I live in my twin's shadow!
Q. Hello. I am 19 years old and I will be turning 20 in a few short months. I have a twin sister and a little sister and I am currently attending my first year of college. I have always been known to be very level-headed and dedicated and when I am on ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
it sounds to me as if the only thing you lack which your twin doesnt if self confidence. please stop comparing yourself (unfavourably!) to her. you are very young. i think your dad has a good few years yet before he starts having to worr... (read in full...)
I just want to fall in love again, I don't want to be alone!
Q. Ive recently posted about ex boyfriends and current boyfriends and rebounds and I broke up with the current boy who was a rebound (or so I think) however now Im even more unhappy, I've found I dont like being alone and all I want now is to fall in ...
A. 26 December 2010: learn to be alone. it may be hard if it is not something you are used to but it will stand you in good stead for the rest of you life if you have this skill. it will give you strength in your future relationships so that you will not be the sort ... (read in full...)
Who should tell my daughter what happened?
Q. I'm a divorced dad who has a 20 year old daughter living with me. Let me make this short and to the point. Her long time friend who is 22 and in our life since she was 4 years old, propositioned me for sex. I denied her telling her I can't be with ...
A. 26 December 2010: if you are sure that your rejection of this girl is the casue for her not seeing your daughter anymore? the frienship coudl have broken down for another reason? friends can grow apart when they grow up into adults.is your daughter really bothered ... (read in full...)
Why do my sister's ex's keep coming after me?
Q. Alright. I'll get straight to the point. Ive had 2 relationships with my sisters ex's. Now I have a 3rd one who I think is coming at me slowly, because he's afraid of what will happen. And I've liked him for a long time. Im just wondering, why do ...
A. 26 December 2010: how does your sister feel about this? if you are uncomfortable going out with her ex then dont do it, there are plenty of other boys in the world to go out with. i cannot answer you as to why they come after you, do you live in a small community ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend HATES affection.Should I seriously reconsider this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years....he hates affection. I on the other hand am very, very affectionate. We are both in our early 30's and there have been talks about getting married in the future but I'm not sure that I can marry ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
he sounds very cold indeed.does he show any caring to you in other ways apart from physical? the thing is, i always believe you should never try to change anyone to make them fit your ideal. so maybe he just isnt right for you and you shou... (read in full...)
He didn't get me anything for Christmas! Does that mean he's not into me?
Q. My boyfriend didn't get me anything for Christmas. We've only been dating a month. He is visiting family overseas right now so I sent him a present. He knew I was giving him something but still didn't get me anything. Should I take this to mean ...
A. 26 December 2010: i think he should have left a little something with you, not anything expensive but something that wouldve made you smile when you unwrapped it! but then maybe you may have not been happy coz you feel he had not spent enough! i feel sorry for men ... (read in full...)
I have a new guy, BUT keep thinking of my ex, even though my ex bullied me.
Q. I am extremely confused with my relationships at the moment. My boyfriend of two years split up with me two months ago and then a month ago, after becoming close with another boy we got together. My problem is I keep thinking of my ex and I'...
A. 26 December 2010: i am sure you are over him in that you dont want to get back with him, but you are not over the hurt he has caused you. that is the difference. you dont seem to have fallen for this new boyfriend, maybe you dont want to be too vulnerable to hurt ... (read in full...)
I'm in a psychological mess and can't seem to get back up for good
Q. Merry Christmas! It's bad that I am posting my question at this time of the year,but I've always gotten great advice from this site. I live with my sister in the city.We're both students at college.We had a rocky relationship when we lived...
A. 26 December 2010: you seem to have very good insight into the reasons that you are feeling down, thats a good thing. i think you should just take time to think positively, maybe make a list of everything that bothers you, get it all down on paper, maybe start a ... (read in full...)
Situation leaves me at wits end. My 8 year gay marriage failing, partner cheating, and care for adopted son
Q. I am in a bad situation-help I am a gay male who is in a gay marriage,for over 8 years. Just recently he started cheating on me. I followed him to a bar. His new friend was there they were kissing, very passionately. I walked up to them, and left. ...
A. 26 December 2010: please leave him. he has no respect or real love for you if he treats you like this. your little boy could grow up damaged also if you bring him up in a houshold like this. you owe it him to not let this happen. i know you will have doubts when ... (read in full...)
How do you know if he loves you?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about two months. He told me that he's never felt this way about anybody before that it actually scares him how much he likes me. He calls me almost everyday, tells me I'm beautiful and that he cant believe I'm ...
A. 26 December 2010: how do you feel about him? why are you with him? do you feel you may develop stronger feeling or love for him? does being not very well treated by past boyfriends have any bearing on how you feel about his boyfriend (i mean - do u stay with him ... (read in full...)
Is this birthday card too overwhelming?
Q. if i gave you a birthday card and wrote in it 'i wasnt there, but i know it was very early on a wednesday morning in 1970 that you popped out of your mom and since then the world has experienced your sweetness and the joy it is to know you. i cant ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
that is actually cute! apart from the popping out of you mom part (too eww!) you ask if it is overwhelming. did it overwhelm you? thats all that matters coz you are the one its been sent to. i wouldnt worry about this card, just see how the ... (read in full...)
Should you remain friends with someone because you feel sorry for them?
Q. Hi, About a year ago I met this girl. At first I became interested in her because she is very, very pretty and an aspiring actress. I am an average looking man. She was not interested but we became friends anyway. As our friendship progressed, I le...
A. 26 December 2010: i am glad for your sake that you seem to know what she is like and are not taken in by the prettiness etc. as long are u are under no illusion that she is a cunning liar. i am sorry for her that she has had a bad life and she must feel awful ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend yet he flirts with me!!
Q. Hey guys, so im 18 and recently started a new job, i really enjoy it and get on with everyone, especially this one guy. We started talking alot recently and i have started to have feeling for him, i think he feels the same as he majorly flirty, we ...
A. 26 December 2010: hi
theres no harm with being friends with him but the danger here is that you have got stronger than friendship feelings towards him. this guy may just be enjoying the attention, maybe a bit bored with his girlfriend, feels too young to settle down... (read in full...)
What's the point of his behavior?
Q. so i am extremely confused and am in desperate need of some new perspective on the issue. i met this guy and we hit it off right away he approached me and we just had a great time together. we kissed but nothing more. after that night we texted ...
A. 26 December 2010: this is a horrible situation to be in. you have had a great time with this man and now he is being like this. i hope you have by now heard from him,but if not (and i know this is hard) dont contact him, not yet anyway. it sounds to me as if he is ... (read in full...)
Another WHAT TO DO WITH MY EX Question... I'm so very perplexed and confused..
Q. the Hyphens help me to use less detail with each point, but its still pretty long. Here goes the story: -Ex and I together for 1 year and 2 months, days shy of 15 months PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. Promised a lot of things to each other during the...
A. 25 December 2010: i agree with that entirely. when you first split with someone special to you it hurts and it makes you feel compelled to understand why they have done this to do, why were you not good enough for them to love etc but in time like you say, the ... (read in full...)
Am I putting myself in a bad situation?
Q. Heyyy. I've dating my boyfriend for about 10 months. I'm a virgin and he's not. He hasn't relly pushed sex on me but I know he really wants to have sex with me, so sometimes it's a little hard to stop when we're together. Anyway, for Christmas, a ...
A. 24 December 2010: if you do want to go camping you can go and you dont have to have sex. i think you should talk about this with your boyfriend first though so that he knows what will happen (or NOT happen). only you know how you feel and you must have some ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone but not be IN love with them?
Q. Is it possible to love someone but not be IN love with them? As in, like I care for you enough to the point where I love you but I'm not in love with you. I don't know if that made any sense. sorry! haha...
A. 24 December 2010: definately ok to love someone but not be 'in love' with them. no matter how much they want you to be or how much you wish you could be! we cant fall in love with everyone who wants it from us.
xx... (read in full...)
My dad is very ill and I want to break up with my boyfriend. Finding this incredibly stressful!
Q. I am a relatively high stress person. It's kind of in my nature, it's how I deal with things. If I were to asess myself, I'd say that I'm more stressed out than the average person, but still functional, able to have fun and let loose. I am a ton of ...
A. 24 December 2010: i am sorry to hear about your dad and i wish him well. regarding your boyfriend and how to deal with this issue of him seeming non-supporttive i think you explained your feelings perfectly in your question! if you could show him that question that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is married to her job and we split because of it. Can I win her back?
Q. I met her in the summer through mutual friends of ours, a married couple that she's been living with for around a year since she split with a long term ex. We hit it off straight away and after some texting we met up for a drink and things moved on ...
A. 24 December 2010: maybe the stresses of work make her not want to give time to a relationship. yes thats right - i said 'not want' not 'can't'. she is not working 24 / 7 as she can find time for her salsa and seeing friends. i think you may have to just accept ... (read in full...)
I can't get over being romantically rejected by my friend
Q. Hiya, I am good friends with a work colleague for the last year and a half. A group of about 8 of us hang out a lot and are all very tight. Bermuda can be an odd spot so us ex-pats stay together. A few months ago this friend and I started to spend...
A. 24 December 2010: oh dear! do you miss hanging out with her as a close friend? if so i think you should just carry on being mates the same as always and just ignore any embarrassment you might feel about the rejection. she probably feels as bad as you do at the ... (read in full...)
Another WHAT TO DO WITH MY EX Question... I'm so very perplexed and confused..
Q. the Hyphens help me to use less detail with each point, but its still pretty long. Here goes the story: -Ex and I together for 1 year and 2 months, days shy of 15 months PERFECT RELATIONSHIP. Promised a lot of things to each other during the...
A. 24 December 2010: i'm sorry to hear you've had a miserable time. you need to be honest with yourself.. when you say that you want to be in touch because you want closure, thats not true is it? it seems to be what you are really wishing for is that you will remain ... (read in full...)
No response, no replies, What's up with our LDR?
Q. I haven't heard from my LDR in almost three days. Yesterday, I assumed he was still asleep but when I texted him, he said he had been dealing with some stuff since the day before. I said ok and later on texted him saying I love you, but got no ...
A. 24 December 2010: we can all get in moods where we dont feel like speaking to people. you have been kind enough to give him some space to deal with his mood. he could have shown you the same respect by sending you a quick text just to say hi and ask how YOU are ... (read in full...)
She's my close friend, but I want to get over my romantic feelings for her
Q. A few questions about close friendship with a girl We have an intensely close and deep friendship. We have gone out for dinner together, spent time with each other on every possible occasion. She's been there for me through very tough times. I...
A. 24 December 2010: i think you should definately remain friends with her. you have accepted that she does not feel the same. you cannot just turn your feelings off like a switch so do not try to rush yourself into stopping your romantic feelings. it will happen when ... (read in full...)
What should I do. My husband receives pictures from women, of women, on his phone
Q. Do I trust my husband? I really do have trust issues when it comes to my husband. I don't want to leave my guard down, I guess to protect myself. My husband is always texting, all the time. Constantly checking his texts. The other night I was sett...
A. 24 December 2010: you say he is always texting and reading texts. who texts him? has he got a lot of friends that you know of? is he happy to leave his phone in a room with you? does he have a code that is needed to unlock his phone keypad? if you look in his ... (read in full...)
I can't trust my friend! She went after a guy knowing I liked him!
Q. my best friend knew i liked this guy. i had liked him for a long time. he was my firstkiss and i really really liked him. then she started talking to him. and they started hanging out. and i was obviously mad about it. i would get really depressed ...
A. 24 December 2010: has she ever done anything like this before? i mean not only with guys but with other things too or has she always been a good friend? we cant always stop ourselves from liking someone. why did this guy not get with you? did you let him know you ... (read in full...)
Hard to let go of past, current bf kept me on side before we got back together and slept with other people
Q. Hi Everyone. I wrote here months ago about my ex BF at the time was dating his ex soon after we broke up , but always kept me around and made me think he wanted to break up with her to be with me again. Everyone thought I should just move on and ...
A. 24 December 2010: he's been honest with you up to now, even though what he told you was not what he wanted to hear (that he was sleeping with others and didnt want to commit to you) . to get past this stage that you are at now, i suppose you need him to be honest ... (read in full...)
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