In a long distance relationship but there's someone flirting with him - should I be worried?
Q. I've recently entered into a long-distance relationship with a chap from Britain. We're both very attracted to each other, and talk almost every day (we've known each other for a year, and have recently gotten quite close). I'm saving up to go out ...
A. 22 May 2011: i have been in a string of bad relationships too and the more it happens the more you NEED the next one to be different and good. is this the way you feel at the moment? even if she doesn't 'get to him first' you may come over to Britain, see him ... (read in full...)
I'm 5 years younger than he is and I'm worried that once I tell him, he wont want anything to do with me!
Q. I met this guy online about 6/7 months ago and we started out as friends. He had a girlfriend but there was something obvious between us that we couldn't ignore, despite him being in a relationship, in January he decided the relationship wasn't ...
A. 22 May 2011: just go for it. if you want to remain with him you are gonna have to tell him someday, so the sooner the better. how would you feel if someone told you a lie (and this isn't a malicious lie any way)
would you rather A be told the true now or B... (read in full...)
I'm 5 years younger than he is and I'm worried that once I tell him, he wont want anything to do with me!
Q. I met this guy online about 6/7 months ago and we started out as friends. He had a girlfriend but there was something obvious between us that we couldn't ignore, despite him being in a relationship, in January he decided the relationship wasn't ...
A. 19 May 2011: just tell him and tell him the reason why you did it or else you are just gonna carry on worrying about it. he is 19 and you are 16? its not a massive age difference and at least you are not underage. he must have found you mature enough to get ... (read in full...)
Don't women like to receive oral sex?
Q. Me and my partner are in love for a long long time. The thing is that my partner gives me wonderful blow jobs but when I go down on her vagina to lick it she gets reluctant. She doesnt want me to lick her down. I wanna know the fact - dont girls ...
A. 18 May 2011: lots do (apparently) but not all like it coz i know that i don't (lots of partners have thought they could be the one to convert me - but no, sorry!) and lots of my friends don't like it either. if you GF doesn't like it then she doesn't like it or ... (read in full...)
Is it a good thing or a bad thing to just have one child?
Q. Im 25 with a 6 year old son, i always dreamt of having more children however i am adamant the next child will be born inside marraige. The problem is i am still single and worry about my son being an only child. By the time i find someone to settl...
A. 18 May 2011: my son is an only child, i never ever wanted more children and anyway me and his dad split when he was a baby and i have never met anyone else since then that has made me want to change my mind on the subject.
being an only child has good and... (read in full...)
Is my wife of 21 years cheating?
Q. Well here goes. I suspect I already know the answer to this question but here goes anyways. I suspect my wife of 21 years is cheating on me. Over the last 2 years my wife has really changed. She is from the Philippines and the last time she went ...
A. 18 May 2011: so what if her idea idea of 'coming clean' is to SWEAR to you that she has not done anything? will you believe her and forget about your worries? you say you are in a 'comfort level'. sorry but you don't seem very comfortable to me. someone in an ... (read in full...)
Could my abusive past be the reason I'm desperate for a baby?
Q. I was wondering if my abusive past is linked to my desperate need for a baby. For as long as I can remember up until I hit 12 I was sexually abused by my biological father. I was wondering if it could be causing me to want a baby so badly. I'm...
A. 18 May 2011: erm ok, so you have downgraded from a baby to a puppy? :) when i was your age i was desperate for a baby too you know, me and my boyfriend (of 4 years at the time) actually used to have unprotected sex hoping that i would get pregnant - it never ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a married man....where is this going?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a confused, single woman, no kids, and living independently. But i am in a relationship with a married man for more than a year now. it's not like what most people think of when they hear of this type of relationship. we are not ...
A. 18 May 2011: its not about starting a fight with him, hell you have every right to ask someone what their true intentions are when they are holding your heart in their hands the way he is. all you are asking for is an honest discussion and get this matter ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a married man....where is this going?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a confused, single woman, no kids, and living independently. But i am in a relationship with a married man for more than a year now. it's not like what most people think of when they hear of this type of relationship. we are not ...
A. 18 May 2011: so his wife knows there is something going on but she just can't prove it?? well that is just disgustingly cruel of him that he must be lying to her face and covering up his affair. if the marriage is really so 'over' as you seem to think it is ... (read in full...)
Could my abusive past be the reason I'm desperate for a baby?
Q. I was wondering if my abusive past is linked to my desperate need for a baby. For as long as I can remember up until I hit 12 I was sexually abused by my biological father. I was wondering if it could be causing me to want a baby so badly. I'm...
A. 18 May 2011: what is it about having your own baby that makes you yearn this way? you want someone to love you? you want to be a parent and make sure you never fail your child the way you have been? look very carefully at your reason. so yes, possibly your past ... (read in full...)
I feel bitter because girls like me now that I'm cute
Q. Firstly i an 20 yrs old, i am a guy i am employed. lets just say if girls were to rate me on my physical appearance i would get a 7.6 out of 10. however it wasn't always like that. in my younger days i would have probably gotten a 5 out of 10. i had ...
A. 18 May 2011: you are not hurting the girls that once rejected you, you are not hurting the ones that like you know coz they will just see you as a random guy in a bar or whatever that wouldn't take their call and they will soon forget you and move onto the next ... (read in full...)
I'm 5 years younger than he is and I'm worried that once I tell him, he wont want anything to do with me!
Q. I met this guy online about 6/7 months ago and we started out as friends. He had a girlfriend but there was something obvious between us that we couldn't ignore, despite him being in a relationship, in January he decided the relationship wasn't ...
A. 18 May 2011: just tell him, don't delay it any longer. your explanation is acceptable i think, just tell tell him is was a spur of the moment daft mistake but then you didn't know how to tell him, couldn't find the words etc. i'm curious to know though why did ... (read in full...)
Why would photo of a girl in underwear be seen as porn but photo of a girl in swimsuit is ok?
Q. only real detail you need: I'm 17, shes also 17 and she never sent any pictures like this. so i don't understand something, about having pictures of my girl friend. Ok basically my friend said that if she ever sent me a picture to me through e-mail ...
A. 17 May 2011: a swimsuit is a functional item that we can wear out in public. underwear is only shown to another person of the opposite sex if we are intimate with them, so obviously it has sexual connotations that the swimsuit doesn't have
hope this helps
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I'm 5 years younger than he is and I'm worried that once I tell him, he wont want anything to do with me!
Q. I met this guy online about 6/7 months ago and we started out as friends. He had a girlfriend but there was something obvious between us that we couldn't ignore, despite him being in a relationship, in January he decided the relationship wasn't ...
A. 17 May 2011: just tell him and the sooner the better. people do tell porkies online, that's just the way it is, you did not expect things to develop so it didn't matter too much and after all, he had a GF at the time who he later ended up dumping ( i suspect he ... (read in full...)
Help me make a decision about this guy!
Q. I need all the answers I can get here as this going to be make or break for me. Ive asked a couple of questions about this guy but now ive got to make my mind up once and for all and need an outside opinion. I met this guy over a social network ...
A. 17 May 2011: yes i agree with you about everything you write is (or should be) telling you to run a mile. seems like your judgement is somewhat clouded by the whole situation at the moment so it really is time to get your head from out of the clouds and have a ... (read in full...)
Help me make a decision about this guy!
Q. I need all the answers I can get here as this going to be make or break for me. Ive asked a couple of questions about this guy but now ive got to make my mind up once and for all and need an outside opinion. I met this guy over a social network ...
A. 17 May 2011: ocnfusing. how long have you known him? are you sure that he is always at your friends nan's when you don't see him? saying i love you when it seems to soon is a bad thing. ask him 'what do you love about me??' see what he can come up with, if he ... (read in full...)
My friend is afraid of getting hurt....
Q. Help for a friend ? I've been giving advice but I'm clueless on this one...she meet this guy..been together a year and living together 6 months.she has never trusted a guy so much he's always straight forward when asked but at the first 6 months ...
A. 17 May 2011: only he and his ex know what really has been happening. your friend will not believe him no matter what he says (whether it is the truth or a lie) seems like every time they argue he goes running back to the other girl? is this boyfriend the one ... (read in full...)
Why is it the second you ignore a guy, he comes running?
Q. First off, I apologize in advance to any decent guys out there; know that I'm not trying to stereotype you, I'm just really frustrated. I have had this on again/off again thing with a guy for over a year now. He'll do the most amazing things s...
A. 17 May 2011: he sounds like he cares more about himself than he does about you, he smacked his friend for insulting you coz to accept an insult about HIS girl would make him look rubbish, he wants to talk to you when HE wants, not when YOU want and he is happy ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a married man....where is this going?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a confused, single woman, no kids, and living independently. But i am in a relationship with a married man for more than a year now. it's not like what most people think of when they hear of this type of relationship. we are not ...
A. 17 May 2011: the only winner in this rotten situation is him. you're hurting, his wife is being hurt (although she doesn't realise this yet) and he gets the security of being married and having someone to have children with, plus a girlfriend to share his bed ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like my ex is accusing me? And what should I say when I respond to his text?
Q. Right, so I went through a break up with someone called, lets call him D, I was heartbroken because I really did like him a lot, I was actually properly upset for a few weeks, like to the point where I stopped my studies and just stayed home in ...
A. 17 May 2011: text him back with the tracking number as that is all he is actually asking for. if you tell him you feel like he is accusing you for the camera he may START to think you're guilty if he doesn't already. if you want to be nice about it though ... (read in full...)
On the inside I feel ugly and fat.
Q. I have put on loads of weight recently, and now i feel really ugly. It makes me feel awful, but i'll be honest, knowing that i'm pretty stops me from doing anything about my weight. I'm a size 16, but have quite big bones, so i'm just really luck...
A. 17 May 2011: and i forgot to mention VERY IMPORTANT do not starve/fast/eat too few calories because all that will achieve is to slow your metabolism WAY DOWN and you will just hold onto fat as your body's way of conserving energy
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Why won't my wife wear makeup?
Q. Hello there, Can you please advise me on what to do with my wife who doesn't like make up at all. We have been married and everything is great except that I would love my wife to put on a bit of make up. She tried it one time and she looked g...
A. 17 May 2011: well personally i think its really lovely that she is confident enough to go without make up. you know, if she starts wearing it it can become quite addictive coz we can 'feel naked' without it. applying it can be a time consuming pain in the arse ... (read in full...)
Is my wife of 21 years cheating?
Q. Well here goes. I suspect I already know the answer to this question but here goes anyways. I suspect my wife of 21 years is cheating on me. Over the last 2 years my wife has really changed. She is from the Philippines and the last time she went ...
A. 17 May 2011: she seems to have lied to you and sneaked about just TOO MANY TIMES. and now the secret facebook and secret phone? of course she will always try to talk her way out of your accusations but i think you have got it right. she has destroyed your ... (read in full...)
Does Smiling REALLY matter?
Q. Does "smiling" REALLY matter?? Been "told" I'm "pretty" and have a nice "smile" (hardly ever use it though) but I never believe it. I don't think I'm "pretty" at all. ...
A. 17 May 2011: absolutely. who would you rather approach? someone who smiles and looks friendly or someone who doesn't? :) x... (read in full...)
On the inside I feel ugly and fat.
Q. I have put on loads of weight recently, and now i feel really ugly. It makes me feel awful, but i'll be honest, knowing that i'm pretty stops me from doing anything about my weight. I'm a size 16, but have quite big bones, so i'm just really luck...
A. 16 May 2011: hi
the good news is that at your age you should find it quite easy to lose weight, as we get older the harder it gets so so it NOW.
sweet things: the more you have the more you want. this is because of the way that carbs mess about with our... (read in full...)
I do want to be with him forever so why on earth do I keep pushing him away?
Q. Ok, I need some serious advice here. First off, thank you to anyone that reads and responds to my question. All the agony aunts over the years have been very helpful! So here goes, I've been in a relationship just over a year with the absolut...
A. 16 May 2011: 'I know it's genetic cause everyone on my fathers side is that way. Unfortunately my father and that whole side of the family are completely out of the picture, and can never/will never see or talk to them.'
it is interesting that you have sai... (read in full...)
I do want to be with him forever so why on earth do I keep pushing him away?
Q. Ok, I need some serious advice here. First off, thank you to anyone that reads and responds to my question. All the agony aunts over the years have been very helpful! So here goes, I've been in a relationship just over a year with the absolut...
A. 16 May 2011: why do you say its in your genetics? do you have a parent who is the same way? and if so did you find there were arguments/problems between you and the parent or the parent and their spouse while you were growing up?
yes some traits can be genet... (read in full...)
I do want to be with him forever so why on earth do I keep pushing him away?
Q. Ok, I need some serious advice here. First off, thank you to anyone that reads and responds to my question. All the agony aunts over the years have been very helpful! So here goes, I've been in a relationship just over a year with the absolut...
A. 16 May 2011: maybe issues from your child hood, issues around attachment, borderline personality disorder (google it) can cause a person to behave 'hot and cold' like this. OR it could be that things he is doing are really upsetting you, even if you down play ... (read in full...)
Why does my bf want me to call him "daddy" during sex???
Q. My boyfriend wants me to start calling him 'daddy' during sex. Can anyone explain this? He says that it is really hot and something that will get him off. Why does he find this so hot? It's incest foreplay! It's disgusting! Has anyone done it? Why...
A. 15 May 2011: my ex used to shout during sex 'who's the daddy?!' but i don't think this was an incestuous thing, it was just a silly way of asking 'who's the best?'
if you don't like him asking for this, just don't play along with it
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I've fallen for a guy who doesn't want a relationship!
Q. Hey guys............ Ok, so the obvious has happened, I've fallen for a guy who Doesn't want a relationship. His 4 years younger then me, been single for 5 years and sleeps with lots of women...his honest and upfront about it. (which I appreciate) ...
A. 15 May 2011: i have been through this same thing. with his work and my child we would see each other only every few weeks but he would call me EVERY night and we would talk for hours and got on great but in terms of a serious relationship he was just not ... (read in full...)
Why are guys reactions rude when they hear I don't have facebook, or drink alcohol!?
Q. Right. So I'm 18 and i don't have facebook or drink by choice. Many guys tend to find this strange or don't believe me! And I don't like the reactions they give! But whatever, it's my choice right? I'm just not interested in facebook like ev...
A. 15 May 2011: good for you that you're an individual. a good guy would think you are an absolute CATCH that you don't use facebook or drink coz these 2 things can cause massive relationship problems. hopefully you will meet a guy in the future who himself ... (read in full...)
I give him oral 24/7, but NEVER has gotten it in return, am I being selfish?
Q. Hello, I am a 18 year old female and i am mixed. I am native american and black. I been with my boyfriend for a year in a half and i have done everything to please him. I even pay for every single damn thing. I wait for him all the damn time ...
A. 15 May 2011: this relationship sounds totally unequal, not only in terms of the oral sex but in EVERY way! you sound now to be be really angry about how he is making you feel. there are plenty of other men in the world, so do you feel compelled to waste even ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong not to want to take my husbands child on our Holiday?
Q. A couple of years ago my husband and I went on holiday and took his child from a previous relationship with us. During the holiday my husband did absolutely nothing with the child and I ended up doing everything for him so it was no holiday for me. ...
A. 15 May 2011: good for you! :) you're husband needs to learn that your role as a step mother does not involve running round like a skivvy for his child while he chills out. i hope you all have a great holiday
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Is anyone else annoyed at Facebook?
Q. I hate Facebook. There, I said it. I hate the way most people use text messaging, too. I do not participate on Facebook, but most of my friends and family do. That's fine. It's a nice way to connect with a lot of people at once and share thos...
A. 13 May 2011: absolutely agree with you so if you're an old fart then i must be one too. texting and facebook make cheating on your partner TOO easy. but its not the fault of the technology but the people who use / abuse it. texting means that people don't CALL ... (read in full...)
I like a player. What can I do to get him to like me?
Q. Hey ! (: Whenever I used to go out with my group of friends I used to notice a very pretty guy there... so when we all went out he would look at me and smile , at first we didn't speak very much... UNTIL the last Friday. We were at a friends b...
A. 13 May 2011: rather than make a player like you - you should be running the other way! he has already showed you what he is like - flirting with you and another girl at the same party, coming upstairs after you and getting all over you while you were drunk, ... (read in full...)
What can I do to address these demons from my past relationships?
Q. I really need help. All my adult life I've had disatrous relationships. I was always too trusting and have been cheated on, lied to, used, even raped, the lot. 8 months ago I met a woman and begun a lesbian relationship. We hit it off straight ...
A. 13 May 2011: its good that you recognise you have got a problem, some people just carry on making the same mistakes, hurting others in the process and never taking responsibility for it. your next step is to get help to get over the events that have led you to ... (read in full...)
Vaginal discharge and spots. what could this be?
Q. i have red spot like things on my vagina and discharge which smells quite like vinegar, i'm not sexually active some please help me to find out what it is!...
A. 11 May 2011: please go to see your GP. only they will be able to diagnose and treat this
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Am I wrong not to want to take my husbands child on our Holiday?
Q. A couple of years ago my husband and I went on holiday and took his child from a previous relationship with us. During the holiday my husband did absolutely nothing with the child and I ended up doing everything for him so it was no holiday for me. ...
A. 11 May 2011: i wonder why your husband wants his child to come along if he did not bother to do anything with him last time?? its a shame for the child if he doesn't get to come, its not his fault that mum and dad have split up and that his dad can't be bothered ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a slag even though I lost my virginity to him!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 to 6 months and have a good relationship we were getting over an arguement that was his fault so i was a bit heated at him when the question about sex came up. he was being abnoxious at the fact that i l...
A. 11 May 2011: tell him that you said it to hurt him coz he was pissing you off. calling you a slag was still uncalled for though! even if you had had sex before him, doesn't give ANYONE the right to call you a slag - especially not your boyfriend. also have a ... (read in full...)
He's put me down and I want to show him I'm improved...should I show him a picture of my new living space?
Q. I met a guy not too long ago whom I thought was really nice and cool. He was very sweet at first, and came on very strong (falling for me hard within a couple of weeks). He eventually changed, and started putting down my apartment (it wasn't the ...
A. 11 May 2011: please don't do it. he will probably think you want to get back with him if you send him a pic of your improved home and then he might get enjoyment out of not ignoring you. he sounds like an arse who isn't worth your time, i mean why should he put ... (read in full...)
When kissing someone can you tell who the bad kisser is?
Q. A few weeks ago, i kissed this guy friend of mine. We were both pretty drunk, but the kiss was sooooooo bad!! I don't know if that was because he's a bad kisser or i was? He was tall so it was harder for me to kiss him but when we were, it was just ...
A. 11 May 2011: it doesn't mean you are a bad kisser, it does not mean he is one either, i think it just means that you just didn't like kissing each other. with some people it just works and with others it doesn't! get more practice at kissing other guys and ... (read in full...)
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