Why does he date me but yet still go to online dating all the time?
Q. Dear All, I need your advice here, as I really can't work this guy out. I met a lovely guy online 6months ago, (he's 45, I'm 41yrs, we are both single, he never been married, me divorced, was married a long time ago)we chatted for about a mont...
A. 11 April 2011: hi
i think that, as he said he wants to take it slow, then 3 days is not a long time for him to wait before calling you again. as you seem to really like him, then yes, wait for that call, don't wait too long though and if you happen to meet some... (read in full...)
When do you end an otherwise wonderful relationship? I am sick of waiting in limbo for us to take our relationship to the next level
Q. Hi everyone. I've been with my boyfriend for nine years now, since I was a teenager. Sure, we've had our rocky patches, but we've worked things out each time and we've seen each other through everything. We spend quality, one on one time togethe...
A. 15 March 2011: hi
presumably since you get on so well you can at least talk about this with him instead of just waiting for him to surprise you with a proposal? PLEASE don't break up with him coz your relationship sounds really as close to perfect as it gets... (read in full...)
After all the numerous sexual encounters, I feel like I've messed things up with the first guy I've properly liked for so long...
Q. Dear Cupid, This is going to be long winded, so apologies beforehand; I just want to get all the details in. Her goes! I have a bit of a history with men. I went through an extremely promiscuous phase a few years ago. I wasn't insecure and...
A. 14 March 2011: its a shame he has behaved like this. just chalk this up to experience. if anyone did that to me i wouldn't want to know them. you sound lke you have learned and grown up but maybe he hasn't! good luck in your future. you have stopped to think ... (read in full...)
Is mood swings one of the side effects of weed and does it create addiction?
Q. Dose anybody know the side effects of smoking weed. I was dating this guy and he was so moody and I think it had something to do with him smoking weed all the time. He would even leave our dates to go smoke it and get up in the middle of the night ...
A. 8 March 2011: hi
weed can 'unlock' mental health problems that may have lain dormant if the person never started doing this drug. so the fact is, regarding his moodiness, he may have been like this already or it may be a symptom of a real mental health issu... (read in full...)
Communication stopped and its been over a week
Q. I've have been with a guy for nearly three months now. Everything is goin' great and wonderful. But suddenly he stop talkin' and communicatin' me all together. I gave him a week for him to talk to me but still nothin. I've done nothin' wrong to him. ...
A. 8 March 2011: hi
have you tried to contact him or are you just waiting to him to make the first move? if you have not tried to call him, then maybe you should coz he may be thinking you are not interested in him (although its a little silly to stop contact just... (read in full...)
Why does he date me but yet still go to online dating all the time?
Q. Dear All, I need your advice here, as I really can't work this guy out. I met a lovely guy online 6months ago, (he's 45, I'm 41yrs, we are both single, he never been married, me divorced, was married a long time ago)we chatted for about a mont...
A. 8 March 2011: hi
he obviously hasn't fell for you but is he ever likely to while he has got the rest of sweet shop to pick from? maybe this is the reason he has never been married by the age of 45. what do you know about his dating history, really?
he ... (read in full...)
Is what I've seen in porn true?
Q. Hi, Aunts there i have a question in my mind, it may sound silly, but still i just want to know the opinion from different people. I've heard that the intercourse can last for more than half an our before men cum. is that true? i mean, don’t...
A. 8 March 2011: hi
no it's not true to life. the long sex session in a porn film is the result of editing and streaming together bits of film. in reality the actors will be stopping and starting but when all the pieces of footage are put together it looks like... (read in full...)
He doesn't reply for hours!
Q. Hello, My problem is that my boyfriend always texts back after an hour or two or even sometimes not at all in the odd rare occassion - sometimes i text him again later on to see if i get a reply, normaly which i do - usually saying he is sorry and ...
A. 8 March 2011: hi
yes, accept him the way he is. you re more of a texter than him but it doesn't make him a bad person. you are the one who needs to look at your texting behaviour not him i'm afraid. just try to chill out and accept the fact that you have know... (read in full...)
If he is in love with me why is he keeping other girls around? And why won't he put a pic of us together, or change his status on Facebook?
Q. I met my man 7 months ago. A mutual friend gave him my Facebook address, he added me as a friend, and three months later he contacted me. We chatted for 8 hours the first time we spoke, which had never happened to me before, so I took it as this is ...
A. 8 March 2011: male anon:
hello and it is good to have a male perspective on this, you must be thinking us girls are having a bit of a man hating party here?
may i ask, when you are messaging the girls that you know do you tell them that you 'love and can't wa... (read in full...)
How can I be certain one loves me? And how can I stop the attention of the other?
Q. Dear Cupid, Several years ago I met this girl on an all-county school trip. Technically, I met two girls, A and B, who were best friends. I fell in love with A and B fell in love with me. Cinematic, I know. And by love I mean something more lik...
A. 8 March 2011: :) well i think most people don't take their own advice (and i'm one of them!)
with regards to B, it sounds like she clings onto hope with you coz she is lonely. can you help her to make friends or even help get her fixed up with a new boyfrien... (read in full...)
Everyone loves me...except the one I want.
Q. i'm just a high school student . im famous in our campus because i'm pretty, smart and talented but i've never been interested with having a boyfriend .. until i realized that i am in love with my guy best friend. he knows it for a friend of mine ...
A. 8 March 2011: hi
this depends on how high his own self confidence levels are. maybe he feels since you are so popular etc that you ar out of his league and he may prefer some one more on his level.
also ask yourself why out of all of them, he, the one who ... (read in full...)
If he is in love with me why is he keeping other girls around? And why won't he put a pic of us together, or change his status on Facebook?
Q. I met my man 7 months ago. A mutual friend gave him my Facebook address, he added me as a friend, and three months later he contacted me. We chatted for 8 hours the first time we spoke, which had never happened to me before, so I took it as this is ...
A. 8 March 2011: hi
as soon as i realised my guy was bad new, but because we got on so incredibly well; the plan was to remain freinds, but as he was pushing for more and and i had feelings for him still, i thought the best thing to do was to cut him out of my life... (read in full...)
After all the numerous sexual encounters, I feel like I've messed things up with the first guy I've properly liked for so long...
Q. Dear Cupid, This is going to be long winded, so apologies beforehand; I just want to get all the details in. Her goes! I have a bit of a history with men. I went through an extremely promiscuous phase a few years ago. I wasn't insecure and...
A. 7 March 2011: no, i wouldn't stay away for the sake of his studies really coz if he is into you and you avoid him like as it you don't wanna know him, this might end up being just as distracting.
go for the coffee like he asked you to, just keep things a bit mo... (read in full...)
If he is in love with me why is he keeping other girls around? And why won't he put a pic of us together, or change his status on Facebook?
Q. I met my man 7 months ago. A mutual friend gave him my Facebook address, he added me as a friend, and three months later he contacted me. We chatted for 8 hours the first time we spoke, which had never happened to me before, so I took it as this is ...
A. 7 March 2011: there seems to be nothing i can say to you foxxy coz you seem very aware already of what is going on but you are trying to convince yourself that you have got it all wrong.
have you tried making friends with these girls or at least looking ... (read in full...)
If he is in love with me why is he keeping other girls around? And why won't he put a pic of us together, or change his status on Facebook?
Q. I met my man 7 months ago. A mutual friend gave him my Facebook address, he added me as a friend, and three months later he contacted me. We chatted for 8 hours the first time we spoke, which had never happened to me before, so I took it as this is ...
A. 7 March 2011: he is not gonna get very far in his professional life if he is flirting with 'colleagues' to the extent where they send him messages that say they love and miss him.
your friends need to put their selves in your shoes and have a bit more understa... (read in full...)
I have suffered mental, verbal, physical and sexual abuse by my husband. Help me!
Q. i have been married for over 20 years and my husband has been abusive through out thoes years i have suffered mental, verbal, physical and sexual abuse. i now sleep in the attic on a camp bed bacause that is the only way i can get away from him. as ...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
leave him. there is always a way. find a women's refuge, they will not turn you away.
look in 'articles' here on dear cupid and read 'the honeymoon stage in an abusive relationship' by Abella. i know are far beyond the honeymoon st... (read in full...)
After all the numerous sexual encounters, I feel like I've messed things up with the first guy I've properly liked for so long...
Q. Dear Cupid, This is going to be long winded, so apologies beforehand; I just want to get all the details in. Her goes! I have a bit of a history with men. I went through an extremely promiscuous phase a few years ago. I wasn't insecure and...
A. 7 March 2011: i think you do know how to change from being cold to warm because this is exactly what you are doing now in the feelings you are expressing here about this guy!
sometimes when we have a lot of casual partners it takes the specialness out of sex a... (read in full...)
I done everything for them....... and they threw it in my face !
Q. My problem began at the beginging of 2010. In 2009 i had moved school because i didnt have any friends in my last school. but too my susprize in my new school i made loads of new friends who i got on really well with and for the first time i felt ...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
i am sorry to hear you have been having such a rotten time!
very often when we move up to high school our primary school friends will meet other people and i think that you have been too sensitive to do the same (because of you having no fr... (read in full...)
How do you know when a woman is trying to get a man's attention?
Q. how do you know when a woman is trying to hard to be the center of attention of a man?.. especially when he is already giving attention to her, why would she feel like she has to keep trying so hard?... could there be an outside reason why she has ...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
can you give any more info on this? who is the woman in question and who is the man? is some other woman making a play for your man do you think? what's the scenario?
xx... (read in full...)
I have a bad pattern of falling for guys close to me
Q. i think i may have feelings for my close guy friend. i find that i can always tell him anything, or he can figure it out even before i open my mouth. he also tells me things that i know he doesn't share with anyone else, but that could just be him ...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
why don't you want to fall for him? do you think it will not work out and then you will have lost his friendship? do you feel embarrassed in case he does not feel the same way? are you seeing this new situation based on your previous bad expe... (read in full...)
Why did this man get his friend to send me mean texts?
Q. So, I met a guy a few months ago who I thought had this great mix of everything I was looking for. We had serious physical chemistry. He came on strong, and well, just as strong as he came on, he was quick to dump me. We went back and forth talkin...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
his behaviour sounds seriously juvenile! the fact that he is in his 40's and still behaving like this shows that he is not gonna change. his personality is well established now at 40 something. this is him. this is the deal!
people ve... (read in full...)
How can I be certain one loves me? And how can I stop the attention of the other?
Q. Dear Cupid, Several years ago I met this girl on an all-county school trip. Technically, I met two girls, A and B, who were best friends. I fell in love with A and B fell in love with me. Cinematic, I know. And by love I mean something more lik...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
in short : communication
tell A how you feel and ask her what she plans to do about this. this situation has gone on long enough so you are entitled to an answer. if she cannot give you a straight answer then i think even THAT will tell yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is angry because I wont send pictures of my private parts!
Q. i have a boyfriend for 6months before evrything was ok we dont see each other very often but we text each other on sms and sometimes he will call me, but since a while now he has been willing that i send him naked pictures of myself and my private ...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
no you are not at fault at all! - he is! do not compromise on your morals, especially for someone who cannot even respect your wishes enough to carry on being nice to you when he is not getting what he wants (naked photos)
you always have ... (read in full...)
If he is in love with me why is he keeping other girls around? And why won't he put a pic of us together, or change his status on Facebook?
Q. I met my man 7 months ago. A mutual friend gave him my Facebook address, he added me as a friend, and three months later he contacted me. We chatted for 8 hours the first time we spoke, which had never happened to me before, so I took it as this is ...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
i am sorry to hear you are going through this and i know exactly how you feel coz i have been through very similar very recently!
i do not like the sound of this guy at all. 'still trying to get rid of his player ways' planning to move to b... (read in full...)
After all the numerous sexual encounters, I feel like I've messed things up with the first guy I've properly liked for so long...
Q. Dear Cupid, This is going to be long winded, so apologies beforehand; I just want to get all the details in. Her goes! I have a bit of a history with men. I went through an extremely promiscuous phase a few years ago. I wasn't insecure and...
A. 7 March 2011: hi
i don't know him personally obviously but based purely on what you have said i am inclined to agree with your friends in that he does not want to get too involved with you coz he thinks he will get hurt. he has expressed his thoughts to you ... (read in full...)
Two hearts one body.
Q. im 18 years old and i have a friend of mine who is like my one of my best lady friends and me and her are very close. We first met on a art posting site. at first i thought this was going to be some random person who wants to be my friend but as ...
A. 6 March 2011: hi you sound like a very passionate person and one who is maybe 'in love with love'. to express strong feelings like this for more than one person is not likely to end well as neither girl will be likely to want to share. take a step back. ca... (read in full...)
I'm I overreacting or is my boyfriend up to something?!?!
Q. so i want to know if i'm overreacting or is my boyfriend up to something? so yesterday me and my boyfriend were good we were talking and texting than he said he will talk 2 me later cause he was going 2 eat so i waited a hour and a half passed ...
A. 6 March 2011: hi
yes, you are insecure aren't you?? you need to ease up on texting him and wanting to talk. i know how tempting it is when you are really into someone you want to be in almost constant contact with them but it seems like he needs a lot less than... (read in full...)
Both times I tried to have sex I was drunk and failed!
Q. I've only had tried to have sex twice and both times I was drunk and both times it failed I'm 20 and I don't know if it's nerves or what I've always had shyness issues and stress issues and now it looks like I have profiemance issues. The second t...
A. 6 March 2011: hi don't get too hung up on this. alcohol is not the solution in fact for some men it just makes it worse (even the most experienced men can 'go soft' when they have drank to much!) are you with a steady partner? you may feel more confident ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend is too controlling?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 months now. We were practically best friends before we got together, we helped each other through everything and spoke all the time. We were like boyfriend and girlfriend without actually being together, so ...
A. 6 March 2011: hi it sounds to me like your boyfriend cares a lot for you too. he has a problem with you drinking and smoking? he is right to be concerned! firstly you are not old enough to do these things and secondly they are totally detrimental to your hea... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has started sharing her past with me and I wish she wouldn't!
Q. Basically I'm insanely jealous about my girlfriend's past sex life. She is my first, and she has had 4 before me. Now, at first I didn't care since I didn't know who those people were and I didn't know any details. I was happy with it staying like ...
A. 6 March 2011: hi this girl sounds like she has got a bit of a cruel streak unfortunately. it is all very noble to be honest about your past sex life - IF ASKED, but this knowledge is unwelcome to you and unhelpful, especially since she knows that you do not h... (read in full...)
How to get over extreme sexual shyness/disinterest?
Q. I'm beginning to think I have issues with sexual repression. I can't bring myself to talk dirty with my guy by IM even though I want to do it to make him happy (he gets frustrated with me when I tell him I can't go there yet). Elaborate sexual ...
A. 6 March 2011: hi not ALL guys are super confident and adventurous sexually either, so it sounds like you are just not with the right man. we are what we are and should not expect people to change their wants and likes just to fit in with you and they likewise... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a man gives you a drawer?
Q. I have a man I'm seeing long distance. We started this relationship in early November We are two hours apart... we email and talk on the phone a few times a week... I go to visit him since he cannot be around my dogs. I have been up to see h...
A. 1 March 2011: never say never! you have only been seeing each other since November so its early days yet. he sounds like a nice guy :)
xx... (read in full...)
We broke up over his emotional affair but I'm having a change of heart
Q. I can't get over my finace. I found out he was having emotional affair on Facebookand instead of talking he called our engavement off and wouldn't admit to this. ( I gave him space to think and told him if we were no longer together (2.5 years) then ...
A. 1 March 2011: hi
i am sorry to hear this has happened. look, HE is the one that had the emotional affair, HE is the one who called off the engagement and threw it all away rather than bother to talk to you about things, so why do you think it is YOU who shou... (read in full...)
I can't convince her to leave her husband.
Q. I am having trouble coping with the guilt I feel about the relationship my girlfriend and I have. She is married and has been married for 8 years, her and I have been seeing each other for 3 years and I can seriously say I love that women. When...
A. 1 March 2011: hi
i believe that this is wrong on every level, but my personal opinion aside i will try to help you. firstly yes, i agree with your family when they say she has hold of you by the balls. you have been with her for 3 years already and she know... (read in full...)
After my girlfriend told me about her sexual past, I am disgusted! Should I have sex with her and leave her, or lose my virginity to another?
Q. Hi, I have been dating this girl that is crazy in love with me. However, she started talking about her past. She told me that she didn't want anything between us and that she needed to tell me everything, because she trusts me and so on and so forth...
A. 1 March 2011: hi calm down please! a BJ is not the end of the world really, she has told you that she was coerced into it, whether this is true or not is debatable, she may have told you she was made to do the BJ because she was afraid of your attitude (rightly... (read in full...)
I had sex with my mom's partner!!
Q. Hi, I did something really horrible and I don't know what to do. Basically I had sex with my mum partner and they been out with eachother for 8years. I'm only 18 myself and I don't know why it happend. I'm carrying so much guit with me all around ...
A. 1 March 2011: hi i am sorry but i don't buy 'i don't know why it happened' i think you DO know why it happened or if you don't you need to have a good think about your reasons coz i can GUARANTEE that that is what your mum will ask you when you confess to her, ... (read in full...)
How do we draw a line under this?
Q. I found out my fiancé had been going to massage parlours for massages and 'hand relief'. This is what he told me at first. I found out as he hadn't deleted messages from his sent box, arranging time and what address he had to go to and what he ...
A. 1 March 2011: hi
i know you want help to forgive him but i am sorry i cannot give you this help. because i don't think you should forgive him.
what he has done is appalling and he would have continued to do this if he hadn't been caught. and even then he... (read in full...)
I've never had a relationship and I've always used escorts. Would it be fair of me to have a real relationship?
Q. Dear All, I am having a complex problem as of now and need you to give me some advice. Let me first give you a brief summary about myself. I am a 28 year old moderately successful man. I was born in poverty and learnt the hard lesson of life qui...
A. 1 March 2011: hi
you don't know until you try. you say you have never been emotionally attached to anyone before but this may be because you have not chosen to be/ or had the chance to be in a real relationship before. i am guessing that you have had a diff... (read in full...)
I'm fed up of feeling sorry for myself, but cant seem to forget about him! Help!
Q. This isn't a question. I am just going through a difficult patch and was wondering if anyone had any advice. I fell in love with a guy towards the end of last year (October/November time). He made it very clear that he didn't want anything se...
A. 28 February 2011: @ fi, aw, we've all been there i think! and it feels sh!t but i believe that people have the ability to get over ANYTHING (or at least learn to deal comfortably with the worst stuff) it just takes time
@OP, yes you are keeping your self busy but... (read in full...)
I'm fed up of feeling sorry for myself, but cant seem to forget about him! Help!
Q. This isn't a question. I am just going through a difficult patch and was wondering if anyone had any advice. I fell in love with a guy towards the end of last year (October/November time). He made it very clear that he didn't want anything se...
A. 28 February 2011: hi well November was not long ago really so don't feel bad and inpatient with yourself that you are not over him yet. it will happen when it happens. do you still feel as bad now as you did when you first split up with him?? getting over someone ... (read in full...)
Since my wife's breast implants she has changed
Q. I have been married for 4 years, she is 25 and i'm 29. My wife had always wanted to have breast implants, even though she was a nice B cup and had a great body which was toned and firm from going the gym. Anyway, she went ahead with the op in F...
A. 28 February 2011: oh Mr Baz :( without meaning to sound awful - you are better off out of this situation, i hope you will realise this soon. people change, and not always for the better. you must have met when you were very young, kids even? and this now is the ... (read in full...)
I'm in a horrible sleeping pattern and don't want to take pills to help me sleep!
Q. hey im hoping someone can help me. im in a really bad sleeping routine and its effecting my day to day life and relationship. It started when we had two cats, they ended up getting fleas which we didnt know about, it infested the house. I kept get...
A. 28 February 2011: hi
i went through a period a bit like this myself so i do sympathise! mine just corrected itself as quick as it came to be honest.
the worst thing you can do is take naps in the day, you will never get a routine if you do that. its ok for y... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a man gives you a drawer?
Q. I have a man I'm seeing long distance. We started this relationship in early November We are two hours apart... we email and talk on the phone a few times a week... I go to visit him since he cannot be around my dogs. I have been up to see h...
A. 24 February 2011: hi
it is sweet that he wants you to have a little place in his home to keep your things. don't read any more into it than that though, just go with the flow. it could also mean that he likes his house kept tidy and would rather you confine all ... (read in full...)
Since my wife's breast implants she has changed
Q. I have been married for 4 years, she is 25 and i'm 29. My wife had always wanted to have breast implants, even though she was a nice B cup and had a great body which was toned and firm from going the gym. Anyway, she went ahead with the op in F...
A. 23 February 2011: hi again
i am sorry to hear this, it has come as no surprise to you though has it? this marriage could never have continued to work because she is so different from the girl you met, fell in love with and married. if she had been like this back... (read in full...)
Since my wife's breast implants she has changed
Q. I have been married for 4 years, she is 25 and i'm 29. My wife had always wanted to have breast implants, even though she was a nice B cup and had a great body which was toned and firm from going the gym. Anyway, she went ahead with the op in F...
A. 14 January 2011: hi
quick question: would you have chosen to marry a surgically enhanced woman who wants to hit the clubs every weekend, barely dressed and being 'in' with the bouncers? so rather than think of it in terms of 'is there a place in her life anym... (read in full...)
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