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writes:Merry Christmas!It's bad that I am posting my question at this time of the year,but I've always gotten great advice from this site.I live with my sister in the city.We're both students at college.We had a rocky relationship when we lived at our parents house but now everything is going better.We share nights with our friends at our apartment,drinking wine,playing board games,talking etc. I like meeting new people and recently I've joined a community where I met some nice people who invited me to dinner. I accepted and had a nice time.My relationship with my parents: theyre nice people,always took care of us.I got better understanding with my dad,as my mom is more superficial.Nonetheless,if I tell them I really need something,they will help me out.I have a very good uncle I'm best friends with.Hes the only person I tell my darkest thoughts :PAll this sounds normal right? But I costantly catch myself worry over everything.I am sad I moved back here cause I miss all my friends and even though I have tons of people to hang out with I dont have REAL FRIENDS...As far as my mom goes,today I told her she's cut off because i often feel she doesnt respect me and cant realize ive grown up(i used to live in another country on my own)...and now I feel guilty i talked to her that way. I'm home for Christmas and all I deal with is negativity.I am worried about my uncle who is unemployed and is such a nice person who can't find a woman to be with.(He feels inadequate cuz of money)I used to be very happy in the other country but now everyday is like a struggle.i should be graduating this year but with my transfer from the other school i'm 2 years late. It's a lot of stress and I dont know what to do.In the other country whenever I was out guys would approach me and my friends but over here guys don't.I wanna get out of here but I know I gotta finish my BA. I realize life is all about struggle,but sometimes i wonder "can't i rest for a while?"...should i just settle for the fact that im gonna be miserable while im out here? and of course i dont admit this to anyone else but my uncle. All the people I hang out with think I'm this super positive super social butterfly.i miss my old life...i miss going on dates...i miss all the interesting people i had in my life...im often rational "OK its two years then im out" but i often get very moody and this affects my performance in school as well.I fall,then pick myself up,then fall again.I'm just tired of all this.ideas? solutions?
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (29 December 2010):
mizz.butterflies is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys :)
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (26 December 2010):
 you seem to have very good insight into the reasons that you are feeling down, thats a good thing. i think you should just take time to think positively, maybe make a list of everything that bothers you, get it all down on paper, maybe start a diary in the new year but for every bad feeling or event you write about,take time to search your mind for something good to write. i bet there will be more than you think there is! keep on with your studies, see your friends, be a great friend to them and maybe they will give more to you in return, give yourself nice things to look forward to, accept that people (and by this i mean your mum) are what they are, everyones different. if your mum isnt really there for you, just be thankful you've got a dad who is. i hope you start to feel better soon, this time of year often makes people who are down already feel worse doesnt it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): Merry Christmas!
look forward to the new year!!!!!!!!!!complete what you set out to do....really important. Struggle...you seem to understand it but would'nt life be boring if it were sooooooooo easy...challenge is a better word than struggle.
good luck...spunky monkey:)
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