What's the deal with guys and big boobs?
Q. What is it about big boobs that guys like so much? I have small breasts, small waist and a big, round butt! My friends tell me I have a great body and that I should be proud, but there's something I don't get. I don't seem to receive that much ...
A. 29 June 2011: Hi OP, you've brought up a lot of views here about breasts and the guys, let's face it, we love the topic of breasts. I'm going to try and give it to you as real and as raw as possible without blowing any hot air up your you know what...lol. I see ... (read in full...)
I'm in a FWB with a married woman who used to be more loving. I'm confused, what happened?
Q. I am a married separated man in mid 40's, i have been separated for 5 years and am still friends with wife, we see each other 3 times a week but there is no sex. I have had 2 serious relationships in the past 5 years, niether worked out because ...
A. 28 June 2011: Hi You Wish, you pretty much nailed my sentiments exactly.
Personally I can't rationalize being a very passionate man and being involved in a FWB. She was giving passion that you the OP was interpreting as just sex. It appears you want all the ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend pamper his ex better than he does me because she was prettier?
Q. Be honest guys, do you treat women who are prettier better/nicer/ with more respect than average looking women? I ask because my current partner of four years spoiled his partner rotten! Bought her anything she wanted and got into a TON of debt an...
A. 28 June 2011: Odds, I think you nailed it with this one:
"As for your general question, I'm usually *less* nice to girls as they get hotter. I'm not quite sure why, but they respond better to me being a bit more of an ass than I naturally am."
Now the ladie... (read in full...)
Ethnicity Problems
Q. I am a 16 year old boy. I have a big problem with my ethnicity/background. I was born in Sweden and lived there for a few years, my mother is Swedish, then I moved to Canada. My father is Nigerian-African. However, I have a much closer connection to ...
A. 27 June 2011: Wow Cherno, I like to think I've been around the block a few times around these parts but can't say I've seen a concern such as yours.
I think responses thus far have raised many valuable points. Before I even say (write) anything, I feel you... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 27 June 2011: To chigirl: You said: "But then again, in Norway it is quite typical to live together and have children together before you get married. So obviously, virginity isn't even a question here as a couple in Norway, unless highly religious, will ... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 25 June 2011: To CindyCares: Absolutely, if you're going to want a virgin partner then you should be a virgin yourself IMO. I thought that was clear in my comments. But that's not to say that a virgin would not accept a non-virgin. A non-virgin may demand a ... (read in full...)
Why are guys intimidated by curves?
Q. Ok, I know this sounds strange as most guys do like curves, but I feel as though mine are just wasted and I might as well lose weight and become a stick insect! lol! I was basically talking to a guy friend of mine, and he said most douche bags go ...
A. 25 June 2011: As far as I'm concerned you sound awesome...lol. You're like a yet to be discovered gem. Size 10, that's nothing. I know a size 10 or maybe a size up and she's awesome, she's also very tall. A same size shorter person would probably appear curvier. ... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 25 June 2011: To Myau: Everyone has the right to their own views, but suffice to say for each point you make as to supporting someone well traveled, I can just as easily turn your own rationale against you while still having distinct rationale supporting ... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 25 June 2011: To wiseoldman: Perhaps you can elaborate with some rationale, otherwise what you say is no more than some unsupported generalization. I live in one if the wealthiest nations in the world yet I still have my views.... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 25 June 2011: To Hugh: So you are suggesting lying your face off about your past and taking it to the grave? I'm sure it happens, but people learned in the ways of relationships know of the desire for people to rewrite their pasts and their are many ways to ... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 25 June 2011: To CindyCares: I appreciate the insight, let's face it of course that the Tunisia example is not virginity and leave it that. Nonetheless, it does speak to the reality when old culture and changing cultures clash. Frankly, I see it as a perversion. ... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 25 June 2011: To chigirl: I would add and consider that even though one may not be a virgin before marriage, they have still only have had one partner, that is, they go on to marry their only partner. This would appear to be the position the original poster is ... (read in full...)
Should I marry this bad boy?
Q. How to deal with possibly marrying a bad boy who is slow at shaking his bad boy image......
A. 23 June 2011: Just came across this. Male anonymous, I'm definitely with you on this one. To a degree, you are that to with which you associate. So if you associate with bad boys then chances are you are a bad girl. If you're not really a bad girl but are som... (read in full...)
Why do men do this?
Q. Hi I have the same problem with men all the time My friends tell me Im good looking, fun to be around, very smart the only problem I have is with men Like the last guy I was with we had been going out for a few months and when I slept with hi...
A. 22 June 2011: I would wait much much longer before becoming intimate with any man. If you're looking just for sex and not a relationship then go for it I guess, but I still don't buy that outlook. Having sex willy-nilly just cheapens it with the next relationship ... (read in full...)
What are the next steps to revive a sexless marriage?
Q. I have posted to this forum before about my sexless marriage. My wife and I have been together 19 years and have not had a sex life in about 16 years, having sex maybe a dozen times in that span and none at all in the last 5 years. Thanks to ...
A. 22 June 2011: Wow, I almost don't know what to say...and I'm going to have to disagree with some advice here. I unfortunately may be a downer in your search for advice but I'm going to give you my perspective which comes from a little more selfish and IMO ... (read in full...)
How can I (a married woman) get out of an affair with my neighbor?
Q. I'm having an affair with my neighbour. It's not something I'm accustomed or comfortable doing and I feel totally out of control. I've pushed my limits well to far and feel horrible. At the same time, I find I'm falling head over heels at an ...
A. 15 June 2011: Are you expecting to just stop this affair and return to your husband and/or married life as if the affair never happened? ...Assuming you can even get over your neighbor?
It's funny, actually tragic, in how the perspective of the ones being li... (read in full...)
After a fight my bf I slept with another guy. Is this cheating?
Q. so im 18 yrs old and im really confused because a couple of weeks ago me and my boyfriend had a huge fight and he walked out on me and told me it was over and i thought it was. so that night i was a real mess and got really drunk and i called up a ...
A. 3 April 2011: What is wrong with you? Seriously. If you had any intention of still having a possibility of a relationship then you wouldn't have hooked up with a FWB. Drunk or not, there are NO excuses regardless of how you try to justify things. I me... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous if my girl sits in my friends lap (innocently)?
Q. Hello Everyone. I have been dating this girl for about a year and a half and so far we haven't really fought over anything major, at least rarely. Recently, after saying I would stop being jealous over stupid stuff, might have been a bad idea, she ...
A. 31 March 2011: Sorry dude, but she just sounds ditzy. This us what happens when you start to bend your value system and what you really want to say gets clouded in all the drama you trying to avoid. Sitting on a lap? Is she trying to give a lap dance it somethi... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to wait for him?
Q. Okay guys. I'm absolutely, ardently in love with this guy, let's call him Brian. I would do anything for him. He and I are really good friends and incredibly close. We do like eachother, the feeling is mutual, but he has a fiance. I love this man ...
A. 18 February 2011: Think about what you're doing and saying. You say the feelings are mutual? Are they really? You say you have had to hide your conversations from his fiance because otherwise she would 'freak out'. If that means she would be distraught at findi... (read in full...)
18 and I've never had a boyfriend...
Q. Hey. I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend. I haven't had my first kiss yet. I find it kind of embarrassing because most of my friends have lost their virginity by now and been a few relationships. The reason I haven't had any experience with guys ...
A. 14 February 2011: Power to you OP. There are men you are and feel exactly like you. Look for and find them, they are the best kind as far ad I'm concerned. The type of men I'd want a daughter to be with. While so many treat sex as a recreational past time, the... (read in full...)
I have clues my husband is cheating, I don't know what to do!
Q. I need help my husband is acting so different lately I have some clues he’s cheating he denies but also I feel so different about him I’m not sure if I love him I lost all my trust and I don’t know what to do now he tell’s me the he loves me so ...
A. 10 February 2011: You haven't given enough to go on here.
What clues do you have? Be specific.
Do you feel bad for accusing him given the way he is acting because you are uncertain if he is really cheating on you?
If he really is cheating on you then 95%... (read in full...)
Does he truly love me despite him cheating?
Q. He cheated on me with a girl that treats him like shit. But he keeps coming saying he misses me and he knows that I'm the one. Recently, we got back together and that one girl he cheated on me with wants to be back with him. I didn't cry as he's ...
A. 9 February 2011: As much as I can agree that this guy sounds like a douche, at the end of the day, you are quite messed up as well, because you can't see the forest for the trees. If you are going to decide anything, you need to be able to rationalize why or why not ... (read in full...)
His ex is staying over at his house for the weekend - am I wrong to feel hurt?
Q. The man that I have been seeing for just over 2 months has an ex girlfriend coming to stay at his house for the weekend. He still lives with his family so it is a full house. He asked to stay at his place before I met him so he feels as though it is ...
A. 9 February 2011: Consider this an early warning signal as to what this guy is about and/or the balls he doesn't have and/or his family. So what if he agreed previously that she could stay...things change. Namely, you're in the picture now. There's plenty of time f... (read in full...)
This man has given me mixed signals! What do you do when they pull away???
Q. Hello. Any advice from men/women would be greatly appreciated. I need some opinions as I just do not know what to think about this one and how to act or even if I am overreacting! Seeing this guy, who originally I saw maybe once/twice a wee...
A. 9 February 2011: Yes, I'm not buying it either. Rather peculiar to say the least. Here's the litmus test...are you and/or have you been having and or had sex with him? If you can answer that then maybe I can chime in again or you can figure it out for yourse... (read in full...)
He couldn't break it off with his girlfriend but kept calling me while with her!
Q. Dear Cupids :) Im so so confused would love an outside opinion.. I met a German guy at University about a year ago (im from the u.k). he previously lived in the U.S.A for 5 years for Uni.when we met him things were casual at first, but then ...
A. 9 February 2011: I shake my head in utter disbelief in the continuous naiveté displayed by you and frankly so many other women that come to this site. I can't help but think negatively...and I'm trying to write this in a way that doesn't get rejected. Part of me ... (read in full...)
I did something bad but I found out my girlfriend is cheating on me
Q. I suspected my girlfriend of cheating on me with her ex so I made a fake facebook and added him. I found out that she is cheating on me with him but I feel bad for doing something weird like this. What should I do? I don't know this guy and none of ...
A. 9 February 2011: Don't feel bad in the least. There is nothing weird about getting to the bottom of whether or not your partner is cheating. The litmus test in this regard is to ask yourself Did anybody get hurt? So, I don't think you hurt anybody and you have every ... (read in full...)
Can you truly love someone and yet have sex with someone else?
Q. I have another posting with more details and a different question, but after reading some other posts (and just being honest with myself) I feel this question needs to be answered as well. Long story short, I met an amazing girl, we had a perfect...
A. 6 February 2011: Wheeler, why bother wasting time on this? She's garbage if that's what she's doing and you were just a temporary ride. There isn't enough time in the world to understand all the crazies on this earth and their messed up constructs of reality. Let's ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 6 February 2011: X-streem, I'm going to make this short...you need to come clean with Australian, otherwise your deception continues. Just put yourself in her shoes and see how you would feel. Come clean, then you will know if it was meant to be with Australian or ... (read in full...)
Contacted by my love from college, and it's awakened the old feelings
Q. Well I guess I should start from the beginning. I am a male and of Arab decent (Lebanese) born in the United States. I come from a family that is very Anglo looking, with blue eyes and light brown hair. I have been married about 6 years with two ...
A. 6 February 2011: OP, thank you for the follow up. You did well be your wife IMO.
BUT, did you tell her you kissed her???
If I may make another suggestion...stop being so naive and think about things. You have a past with this woman and continued feelin... (read in full...)
I found out she's a loose easy fluzzie.She's not wife material.
Q. Evening everyone. I'm in need of suggestions on how to break it off with a woman I've been seeing since this past August. I want to do in a way that won't insult her or cause her self esteem to go down. For the most part we've got on pretty well and ...
A. 6 February 2011: Ok, I can feel my ratings go down with this but as usual, going to keep it real.
I'm going to try to keep this short because I could go on forever on this topic.
Regarding judging...we all judge, every single day. Those who think we don't a... (read in full...)
He needs time to think, what does that mean?
Q. Dear Cupid, i have met a guy in the summer when i was visiting my brother... after few month that i was back home (different country), he contacted me and we started to talk... chatting long hours and phone calls and all... he asked to get ...
A. 5 February 2011: Say no and move on and end this drivel. Life is too short to waste time on this nonsense. If you continue, you'll likely only end up regretting the time you wasted.
You really have no clue who this guy is and what he is doing. There is nothing ... (read in full...)
Contacted by my love from college, and it's awakened the old feelings
Q. Well I guess I should start from the beginning. I am a male and of Arab decent (Lebanese) born in the United States. I come from a family that is very Anglo looking, with blue eyes and light brown hair. I have been married about 6 years with two ...
A. 5 February 2011: I'm with the party line and the sage advice you've gotten so far. I think you knew your own answer before coming here.
She may have represented something else in the past, but right now she represents temptation in the truest sense. Your past wit... (read in full...)
Husband will not talk to me, just wants a divorce but said he saw things about me that he didn't like
Q. I am married and my hb and I are separated, we talked about divorced already and that's coming soon. One month ago I sent him a email telling if there is anything that I can do to save our married, and he replayed saying not because there are a lo...
A. 30 January 2011: Hi, even before reading CaringGuy's response the same exact thing went through my mind. Did he travel outside the country prior to all this happening? Does his job involve meeting many new people or foreigners? Does he have family in a fore... (read in full...)
Who is being unreasonable in this situation?
Q. I currently own my own condo and moved in with my boyfriend several months ago. My boyfriend also owns his home. Because I currently have a tenant in my condo, I pay my boyfriend $700 per month plus 1/2 the groceries. My tenant's lease is up in a ...
A. 24 January 2011: Hi, unfortunately I'm not in the mood to be politically correct and more endearing but felt a need to add my two cents...lol.
The only thing that comes to my mind is 'tightwad' and 'cheapskate' and how about 'Scrooge'?...lol. I hope this guy has ... (read in full...)
Seeing each other for 4 months, and I found out he was dating someone else this whole time!
Q. I had been seeing this guy for 4 months now. At the onset he asked that we don't see other people anymore. I am faithful by nature so it was not something hard for me. Well New Year's Day, I found out that he's been talking and dating someone ...
A. 20 January 2011: Walk...period.
He asks you to be exclusive and then he pulls that on you when you have been dating for fourth months.
You can't trust him and I think you know that. What if you hadn't found out? Be thankful you saw his true colors early on.... (read in full...)
We started dating and now I've found out he has another girlfriend!
Q. I dont know what to do... i have been talking to this guy for 6 months now and we just started dating on jan 5th. then he left for basic training and i found out that he had/has another girlfriend. according to the other girl he broke up with her ...
A. 19 January 2011: So the 6 months you were talking to him he, I assume, never mentioned being involved with anyone else?
Ok, if this guy is as we think he is, then first things first, thank your lucky stars this other woman decided to talk. Whether she felt you... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend get so mad last night?
Q. why did my boyfriend get so mad last night?? maybe because its not true or its true... we dated since 1998 and i want to know why we aren't married.. so i was reading 25 ways to know hes not that into you and he got almost all of them. i let him ...
A. 19 January 2011: Sounds like you really may not know what is going on his head. Has he ever had any intention of marrying you?
But I think this is besides the point at this point in time. You need to do with reality and how important it is to get married TO HIM. ... (read in full...)
What does this text my ex sent really mean?
Q. I just wanted to get a little insight on my ex's recent text. Here's a quick background: The ex and I were living/together for 6 years. He left me 4 months ago for another woman. I was/am heartbroken. I began NC about 2 months ago and have stu...
A. 19 January 2011: I want to commend you on your stance thus far. I think it takes a strong woman to do what you are doing especially in the context of so many women (and men) who readily take back less than virtuous men/partners.
I think it tells me your self ima... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend get so mad last night?
Q. why did my boyfriend get so mad last night?? maybe because its not true or its true... we dated since 1998 and i want to know why we aren't married.. so i was reading 25 ways to know hes not that into you and he got almost all of them. i let him ...
A. 19 January 2011: You obviously struck a nerve with him. But, I don't think we have enough to go on in order to understand what is going on his head when you said what you did. However, regardless of what the situation is, his reaction was extreme and uncalled for ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him and now he's asked me to marry him
Q. My boyfriend has just asked me to marry him. Problem is I don't trust him completely. He acts weird sometimes, what i mean is he acts like he shouldn't be looking, or he enjoys watching/looking at younger than me women/girls ( thaey are usually ...
A. 18 January 2011: I'm not sure why you want to back track on what you said. I think you were quite deliberate in typing some 800 plus words. It would appear three separate objective responses came to similar conclusions about what you said. To me, the fact that you ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him and now he's asked me to marry him
Q. My boyfriend has just asked me to marry him. Problem is I don't trust him completely. He acts weird sometimes, what i mean is he acts like he shouldn't be looking, or he enjoys watching/looking at younger than me women/girls ( thaey are usually ...
A. 17 January 2011: I think deep down you know the answer to your own question.
While you have had a bad experience in the past, I don't think what you have observed with your current boyfriend has anything to do with that. I think your observational skills are fine... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 14 January 2011: X-treem, you said it yourself, you need to grow some balls brother. I mean, you're in your thirties, time is ticking unnecessarily and you're wasting time playing this deception and it's messing with your head. You're obviously intelligent and a ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 12 January 2011: Hi X-stream, thanks for your response and clarifications on locations. It's funny how you mention you're now in investment banking, that was almost my first career until I realized the type of characters in that field. Let's just say a little ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 11 January 2011: I'm with chigirl on this one. Frankly, I'd probably be worse.
If I was a friend of yours, I probably wouldn't be once I found this out about you. Moreso, I'd probably consider getting in touch the Australian, only because she is no longer p... (read in full...)
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